Got 3 year old boy twins and a 2 year old girl, really finding it hard going at the moment. The boys aren't bad kids at all but I'm finding them really hard work at the moment. After pre-school they race around, 1 in particular tries to whip all 3 of them into a frenzy. He either keeps lobbing in a hand grenade in the form of a poke, etc then stands back or leaps around shouting the word MAYHEM!!!! I have to tell him at least 3 times to do anything or he openly defies me eg got the paints out Friday afternoon he does a super picture then starts to paint his nose. I say don't do that so he loads up his brush and does an extra large splodge on his nose- the others of course copy.
Said twin is in and out of the sin bin all day. We don't live in a huge house so just don't have the space for them all to leap about. Feel I spend the whole time squashing his/their natural exhuberence but I have no choice, we all have to share a small space. I'm wondering if it's something I'm doing wrong as my mum and pre-school say they're fine for them and they only get overexcited when I'm about. I'm a full time stay at home mum who has taught tough inner city kids in the past so I'm no pushover.
Had a horrendous day yesterday dropping off and picking up from pre-school. All 3 running off when I tried to get coats put on, 1 crying as I left, not saying goodbye properly to the teacher etc. This is all in front of the other mums who are way younger than me and know I was a teacher so should be able to cope with 3 under 4s.
Things I expect them to do is to walk to the car park sensibly, to get on with something instead of prowling looking for trouble, to do as they're told and to calm down. I'm wondering if I'm too strict, too soft or if it's a boy twin thing as people I know with girl/girl or boy/girl twins don't seem to have the same problems. Starting to get very near my wits end and finding the boys extremely irritating. They are on the whole lovely kids, healthy and bright but I'm feeling that I seem to be constantly on their backs. Heard dt1 telling mum that mummy shouts when we cry!!!!! Also got punted out the way when dp and I went to pick them up so dt2 could get to daddy last night so starting to wonder if they're beginning to resent me being a nagbag. Starting to hit the wine at 6pm!!!! Really need some advice, somebody tell me this is just a stage that 3 year old boys go through, how do I get through it and that I'm not a crap mum.
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Advice badly needed re 3 year old boy twins-very nearly at wits end!!!!
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MilaMae · 10/02/2007 14:42
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