Hi. I'm new to mums net and haven't posted on forums before. I just don't know what to do or who to turn to. I have 18 month old b/g twins and I feel like my marriage is over, I don't remember what the old me is like any more and I'm just miserable all the time.
Me and my husband have never been one of those couples that fight before but lately that's all we seem to be doing. I suffered from post natal depression when the twins were really small and it's only really recently felt better but I think perhaps it's starting up again. He is an amazing father and despite me thinking that I'd be the natural mother, he's by far more of a natural than me. He doesn't get stressed by anything and I get stressed by everything! But our marriage has gone from amazing to terrible in the last 18 months. He feels trapped and misses his hobbies and I feel the same but have resigned myself to the fact that I can't do the things I used to. He wants to have alone time at weekends but I feel jealous of that as I'm with the twins all week and want a bit of help at weekends. He's making me feel like I'm being selfish - I probably am - but being at home all day with twins is isolated and tiring and the thought of him going out at weekends too makes me miserable. I just can't help thinking that my decision to have children has made my life so far from what it used to be and if I lose my husband I don't know how I'll cope.
Does life get easier with twins? Do you ever regain a bit of your normal self? I'm worried that I'm going to lose everything that makes me 'me'! I just want to be happy and enjoy the twins and have fun as a family. But all I seem to do is cry in the day, and spend all evening on my phone or iPad to avoid talking to my husband.
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Shrimpy01 · 30/03/2014 22:06
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