Sorry - every wobble I have I post.. I know!
So... Boy / girl twins born six weeks ago tomorrow at 37+3. Boy was 6lb2 and girl was 5lb3. I'm bf them and, after a load of b*ocks from the midwives meaning I had up top girl with formula, they've just had breast milk (no expressed milk even - I can't be bothered!) from one week old. I also have a just (birthday last week) three year old DD who I bf as well until she was 2. She however was born at 40+14 and seemed to act like the twins do now when she was born - because she was over a month older! Weight gain for both twins is fine - he's jumped two centile lines, she's gone from below 4th to halfway between 4th and 9th
I just can't remember what's normal for a six week old, especially because the twins are so drastically different!
Twin girl still feeds very much like a newborn. Her feeds are short and she falls asleep quickly. She roots for a feed anywhere between 1 hour and 2.5 hours later. Twin boy is MUCH more chilled out. Unlike girl who cries a lot (but us easily settled by bf or by being in our arms), he never cries, easily self settles in the cot (girl needs to fall asleep deeply in arms or on breast, but will then sleep in cot until next feed at night) and would go 3-4 hours between feeds...
First - remind me... What is normal at 6 weeks? It's still all on demand at this stage isn't it? When should I introduce a routine...? Bear in mind we have a routine of sorts - school runs mean set feeds just before we set off then they sleep in the pram, and they bath with DD at half six and I feed them in a dark room and attempt to put them down in the cot at 7.15 after DD has gone to bed. When does a routine of feeds and naps emerge... I can't remember at all!
Second - linked to one.... How do I deal with their diff needs and routines as well as find time for DD?!?! I had been tandem feeding pretty much always (apart from between 4.30-7 when they cluster feed but I need a spare hand to cook, feed DD and get her to bed - then they take constant turns). This has usually meant waking twin boy when he would have gone an hour longer. I thought this would give more time for DD, and more sleep, but not so sure now...?!
Also, twin girl cries a lot more than twin boy, so get held a lot more than him... I feel guilty about this but what can I do?! I sort if think I'm just responding to each of their needs... Argh! Not an issue with a singleton!
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Advice please! Can't remember what's normal for breast feeding 6 week olds and unsure how to deal with v diff twins with v diff routines...
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legallyblond · 21/10/2013 14:21
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