Go out with one twin?!

(17 Posts)
DoingTheSwanThing Fri 19-Oct-12 21:15:51

Just a quick WWYD:
10 week old DTs, fully breastfeeding but happy with EBM via a bottle (thank god!).
Going out to a wedding fayre tomorrow afternoon with a friend, reckon I'll be gone 3 or 4 hours. I'd just assumed they'd be coming with me and leave DS1 (4yo) at home with daddy... DP then suggests leaving them all at home... Then says he'd have to get MIL round to help.

I flew out this evening to grab a bit of shopping, took 40mins (I timed it, he says I was an hour!. Obviously, all was fine but he was dripping in sweat holding them both begging me to hurry up putting things away hmm

Now he says we should have one baby each. I mean, I see the logic, but it just feels... Wrong! But how do I choose which one to take? I'd then have to concoct another trip for the other baby to make up for it. That's daft but I'm certain that's what would happen.

So, do I -
A: go out with both;
B: take one, and recall how straightforward things are with singletons, or;
C: leave both and return ASAP (reminding DP that a Pandora bracelet would be lovely for upcoming birthday).

All except his stress levels would be absolutely fine with option C, it's character-building.
I accept that I am being entirely ridiculous.

Handsfulloffun Fri 19-Oct-12 22:15:44

Ooooooh do you know what I dont think I would be that happy about leaving one behind at that age either.....although I cant actually pin point a reason why.
We often seperate our 27 month DT's and have done for quite a while but yeah I get where your coming from.

I would go with C, its probabaly what you do most days anyway - probably on your own and he will have his Mum to help. Evenings can be tricky anyway so its doubtful he will have a repeat of last time.

exoticfruits Fri 19-Oct-12 22:26:52

Sounds a very sensible idea to me. I don't see why you need to concoct another visit for the other one- they really won't care!
If I had twins I would treat them as differently as possible, take one out at a time, send them to stay with granny one at a time, get them in different classes etc.

ceeveebee Fri 19-Oct-12 22:35:54

I wouldn't take one twin out - never have so far (12 mo) except for medical appountments and they always seem unsettled when apart.
I would leave both with their dad - he is their other parent and no reasob why he can't manage.

exoticfruits Fri 19-Oct-12 22:38:37

If he has offered it seems mad not to leave them both and go out alone. I can't think of any reason for having to take 2 everywhere.

defineme Fri 19-Oct-12 22:41:09

I would take 1-feel the fear! Both you and dh will enjoy having 1 baby to focus on.

weasle Fri 19-Oct-12 22:41:11

I don't have DTs but I wouldn't leave a fully bf 10 week old for 4 hours. Partly as mine all fed about every hour then and it would take me over a week to express enough milk for one baby! And ds2 and 3 never took bottles.

DoingTheSwanThing Sat 20-Oct-12 04:10:21

Thanks... I'm sleeping on it! I could tell myself I'm encouraging individuality....
Weasel, I can rival the local dairy when it comes to expressing, and there's 800ml in freezer so I don't think either would go hungry. But yeah, I'm quite likely to have my boobs omg actually one boob for a change- out hourly if I just take one.

DoingTheSwanThing Sat 20-Oct-12 04:12:03

Oops, weasle, sorry. Damn autocorrect.

Will you not explode in a puddle of milk then?
I leaked badly when I left my singleton 8mo old for 3 hours...

DoingTheSwanThing Sat 20-Oct-12 09:12:44

Hmm, hadn't thought of that one! They have on occasion napped for 4 hours and I've been ok. Still haven't decided, I might let DP choose. Think I'd be worried though leaving them both, but with just one he'd be fine <going round in circles emoticon>

DoingTheSwanThing Sat 20-Oct-12 22:08:03

Just in case anyone checks back, I took one baby (DP chose!) - it was lovely! He rode in a sling, looked at all the pretty lights, made happy gooey noises and had some quality one-to-one time while big sister had snuggly daddy-daughter time. I dont think they missed each other... They generally seem oblivious despite cot-sharing etc. Felt very odd at first but worked out brilliantly, will definitely be doing similar again smile

exoticfruits Sat 20-Oct-12 22:21:52

Very sensible!

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Oct-12 22:25:21

Take one out.

Its lovely to spend time with them individually. They seem to enjoy the attention too.

Oh yay, was about to say do it, you'll love it! It's like a little holiday!

Iheartpasties Mon 22-Oct-12 08:00:31

sounds lovely smile

DW123 Wed 24-Oct-12 14:10:43

Thanks for thread - mine are 18mo and I've just booked an extra session with CM so I can take mine out individually for a couple of hours each week. Am looking forward to it even more now!

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