Confused and worried....

[NK8804b33X12126a016dd]

I am losing all faith in the NHS system and worried if anyone else could shed any light on the events of the past couple of weeks...

Just over 2 weeks ago I went for my first scan and was told that I had had a missed miscarriage. I should have been 10 weeks pregnant at the scan in my first pregnancy, however they said that the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and that the sac was now empty. I was taken to the ward to discuss the next options and decided to let nature take its course in getting rid of the remaining sac as I had already started bleeding. I went back to the hospital in the middle of this week for a repeat ultrasound and was told that the sac was still inside and hadn't really done anything apart from change shape. The doctor said that the only real option was a D&C due to the time that had passed and risk of infection. This was the last option I wanted to take as I have been lucky so far in life and never had a filling let alone an operation (!) so on top of the stress of miscarriage, I was also stressing out now about the D&C. I returned to the hospital Friday for the procedure and after a 3 hour wait for a bed, was seen by two further doctors that then sent me home and didn't no why I had been referred for a D&C in the first place. They said that the scan notes showed that the sac/ remains were two insignificant to do a D&C and that it would be more risky to do it than not. So now I'm confused!!! I have no idea what is left inside me (if anything) and also about the risk of infection. The bleeding has reduced down to spot bleeding so if there is anything left inside I don't think it will come out naturally but as I said the hospital wouldn't do the D&C. Has anyone else had a similar experience or any words of advice to help a very confused woman!

[thisisyesterday]

i am shocked that nothing was explained fully to you.
I would ring your hospital and ask for a full explanation of what needs doing, if anything, and why.

so sorry for your loss

[littleboyblue]

Hi. First of all I am so sorry for your loss.

The first time I fell pregnant, I started finding brown discharge in my underwear when I was 10 weeks. My gp sent me to the hospital, they did a scan and told me that from the measurements they could see the pregnancy had reached 8 weeks and ten had stoped growing. There was no heartbeat, and I'd had a mmc. This was the friday. They said that because it had already been 2 weeks, it seemed unlikely that it would pass out naturally, so I would have to have a D&C. They said I could stay overnight and have it done the followingmorning, or go back on monday after being nil by mouth from midnight. I decided to go back on the monday. They gave me a general and when I woke, it had been removed.
I would either see your gp and explain this, or go straight to your local early pregnacy unit.
I hope this gets sorted soon and you find the peace you'll need to start the recovery process.

[NK8804b33X12126a016dd]

I have been bleeding 3 weeks tomorrow, although it is now spot bleeding only. The docs that sent me home from the hospital saying a D&C wasn't necessary just said that the tissue was insignificant and to go home do another pregnancy test in two weeks as all tests still showing positive at the mo even though if the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks then 4 weeks has passed (!) and to call them if still positive then

[littleboyblue]

I'd go and see someone on monday tbh. Like I said the same thing happened to me at 10 weeks, with an 8 week pregnancy and I had the d&c. Ok things might be different for different people, but you are clearly very concerned about this and it needs to be sorted one way or another. Your hormone levels drop by the day so they would also be able to tell from blood tests. I was told that although my body was still technecially pregnant, my hormones knew I wasn't so would start to drop regardless.
Just make an appointment with your gp and see what they say. It can't hurt to have this double checked can it?

I have to go and have dinner now before dp really gets the ump, but I'll check in later. Hope you're ok

[NK8804b33X12126a016dd]

Just rang the ward which admittedly probably would have been a good first point of call but I had just had enough enough of doctors contradicting themselves! Anyway the staff nurse was lovely and talked me through my notes. Apparently from the notes and what I told her the measurements and things of the sac had changed between the two scans and the measurements of the 2nd scan (weds) were below the threashold for a D&C. She said again said that she had no idea why the EPAU booked me in for the D&C and disappointed that they had had'nt explained properly. She said that there is still products inside so there is a chance I will start bleeding again or they may come away once periods return. Just hope that no infection appear and that the test in two weeks in negative so that I can draw a line under it all as no idea what will happen if test still positive.

Thanks for the advice.

[engelbart]

so sorry to hear about your loss and also the awful way you have been treated at the hospital.

From my own experience I would say that when you have your first period, a lot of the remains will pass. My first period after miscarriage was pretty bad (don't want to scare you, but you need to be prepared, have lots of sanitary pads to hand) and I passed lots of clots. Just had another period and passed a few smaller clots and hoping that next period I'll be clot free... Some women do seem to recover phsyically from miscarriage quite quickly whereas for other (like me!) it can take your body a few months.

Hope you're OK.

[littleboyblue]

NK At least you've had a proper explanation now. Fingers crossed that it passes quickly and you can concentrate on emotional recovery too.
Take care x