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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 05:38

Am 6+3 and have just started bleeding. Had two mcs in 6 months earlier this year... was really starting to hope as I'd not gone past 6 weeks before.

Thing is I did a pg test this morning (paranoid, I know) and it was really strongly positive. The line came up really fast and was mega dark (when I first tested a couple of weeks ago it took a couple of mins to appear and was much fainter) to me that means increasing hcg levels. But I don't feel very confident about this bleeding at all. It's watery and light now but that's how my other mcs started.

I'm really pissed off because I'm on nights this week, I've been up since yesterday morning, worked all night, and if I got to the EPU I'll have to stay up all day and not sleep, then go back in to work not having slept for two days. I'm in such a dilemma, shall I just sit it out and see if the bleeding stops? Do I go to the EPU now and put myself out of my misery but also that means no sleep and I'm so tired. I'm so fucking pissed off at my body, why can't it carry a pregnancy beyond 6 weeks?

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SheDancesTheFlamingo · 06/05/2009 05:50

No real answer for you, but I'm thinking of you. But why do you feel the need to go back into work if you suspect a m/c? Does your sick leave policy not cover this? I think this is a time to be gentle with yourself- rest and regroup.
Been there, and it's shit, but I now have two lovely DCs.
Take care x

giraffesCantRunA10k · 06/05/2009 05:52

Hiya headfairy. So sorry you are possibly going through this again. My advice would be if at all possible dont go to work, that would just be my insticnt. For the sake of your physical health and so you can rest and have some time. The test is a good sign. Sorry to hear of your previous MCs. How was the epu when you went for them? Your employers should understand that you have to go to hosp and that means you cant come in to work.

Im going to make a cupa of tea and come back and see how you are

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 06:03

thanks shedances and giraffes... I can go to the EPU easily enough, I don't need a referral, but I've been up since yesterday morning now and I'm desperate to crawl in to bed and not that desperate to sit in a waiting room full of pregnant women. I think I know the answer really, I just need to wait and see what happens, but I'm just ranting because I'm so furious and pissed off.

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HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 06:04

sorry, forgot to say, I'm at work now... have been all night, so I'd have to go from here to the EPU.

I can take time off if I'm miscarrying, it's not a problem, it's more a problem if I go to the EPU and they say that everything's fine, then I've stayed up all day and have to go back in to work a night shift, so in total I'll have been up 48 hours which will finish me off.

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HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 06:24

Bleeding's stopped now.... I'm probably panicking for no reason, I really really do hope so. Stupidly I did start to think this pregnancy might happen. I'm now feeling really unconfident about it.

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giraffesCantRunA10k · 06/05/2009 06:40

Really hope baby sticks. try to get some sleep later. Fingers crossed for you. x

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 06:43

Thanks giraffes... I think that's the best thing, sleep is always good no matter the outcome. Sorry for hystrionics earlier...

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melancholymum · 06/05/2009 07:18

I had this type of bleeding at 7 weeks, I ended up having an early scan, everthing was fine and I now have a healthy 3 year old. I can sympathise with your worry - I had a similar couple of experiences before I carried fullterm. Just try to remember that bleeding doesn't necessarily mean the end. Good luck.

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 07:21

Thanks MM, I'm trying to cling to that hope, but I've got to prepare myself for the worst too I suppose.

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tattycoram · 06/05/2009 07:52

Headfairy, I'm so sorry to hear this. Nothing to add, but lots of sympathy. I have my fingers crossed for you.

TitsalinaBumsquash · 06/05/2009 08:33

I had wattery brown bleeding/discharge all through my pregnancies with both my boys. The other 6 M/C's were realy bright blood that quickly turned heavy. I know everyones different but thats my experience.
Dr always said though if you are at risk of MCin to rest with your feet up rahter than working or doing anything strenuous.

I had 1 MC followed by DS1 then % MC's followed by DS2 so it can haooen for you HF

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 08:54

tattycoram - that's very kind of you thanks.

titsalina - gosh, 6 mcs. That's really awful, so sorry for you. I've had another bit of watery brown discharge again... I do hope it's the same as you had. My doc hadn't told me to rest (I've been to see him since my bfp), my job isn't strenuous, but nights aren't ideal, very tiring. My worry is that one of my previous mcs was straight after a week of nights too. That freaks me out a bit.

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christiana · 06/05/2009 08:57

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melancholymum · 06/05/2009 09:01

Sod it, don't go to work - have a rest. If anything went wrong it would def only be coincidence but if you are like me, you will end up feeling guilty and curse yourself for not relaxing.

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 09:27

'fraid I've missed the first appts Christiana. You have to be in before 8 to get seen first... I'm still at work now.

MM - I'm going to see how I feel after a sleep and had a chat with dh. Normally I battle on when I'm on nights because they can't call in cover when someone goes sick as it's unfair to ask someone to come and do a night shift with no notice, but if I think I'm at real risk of another mc I will most definitely not come in tonight. I'm back to faint brown watery discharge now.

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RipMacWinkle · 06/05/2009 09:30

Headfairy - I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this.

Sorry, I don't know how your EPU works (if different from ours) but can't you call up and book an appointment later in the afternoon? That way you could try and get your head down for some sleep (easier said than done?) and set the alarm to get up later (or DH could wake you if he's around?)

Hope you can get seen today. Fingers and everything else are crossed for you.

thisisyesterday · 06/05/2009 09:31

headfairy, I've had bleeding with all 3 of my pregnancies, each of which has ended up ok.
it is VERY common to get bleeding at this stage, but I can totally understand why you're worried with your history of miscarriage.

you need to get to bed and rest IMO. maybe don't go to work tonight, and then see EPU in the morning?>

lal123 · 06/05/2009 09:34

Headfairy - I'd do the same thing - have a sleep and see how things go. I've had 2 mcs at about 6 weeks. Its awful - because you know there's nothing EPU can do if it is a m/c, but you still want their reassurance. Hope all works OK

Peachy · 06/05/2009 09:39

HF

It is common to get a small bleed at that stage but your worry is understandable.

Go home, rest, an EPU would give you answers but that's it, tomorrow will do.

I know my Mum only successfully carried us when she stopped working in early preganancy (well whole PG but her 4 were lost after 20 weeks). She swears that rest wont stop a loss that ahs started but makes yopu stronger and more ikely to carry if you start with it; just one woman though.

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 09:41

Rip - Sadly EPU only does mornings for a walk in service. The other thing that stops me going to the EPU really is that I'm only 6+3 so I'm not likely to see anything, which might make me worry more. They'll take my bloods and get me to come back in 48 hours (which'll mean another day without sleep) for the second set of bloods, and in that time I'll just worry myself stupid.

thisisyesterday - that's very reassuring. I've read it so many times on here that bleeding is quite common, but it's still really bloody scary.

Lal - that's exactly how I feel, I just want it to happen if it's going to... The doctor said I should go for an early scan at about 7.5 weeks which feels ages away, but I'm going to have to take it one day at a time I guess.

There is no stopping it once it starts to mc I know that now. And every time I've mc'd I've asked "could I have done something to stop it?" and I've always been told in all likelihood there's nothing that can be done, it's just a fault in the baby, so no amount of rest can stop it if that's the case. I was stupidly reassured by my rising hormone levels, each time I've mcd before my hormone levels never really rose properly. I assumed as this time was different I might have a happier outcome.

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HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 09:58

Off home to bed now, thanks for all your support everyone. Just hope I can sleep with all my fingers and toes crossed!

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Chloe55 · 06/05/2009 19:52

Are you up yet Headfairy. How you feeling? (it's melancholymum btw)

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 20:13

Hi there MM, yes I am up. Not had masses of sleep but enough to survive. No more spotting... still feeling very nervous about it all though. If I get the merest hint of spotting tonight I'm going to leave work in time to get to the EPU for opening. I'd rather not tell anyone, but I know my team leader will be totally understanding if I tell him the real reason and he won't hesitate to let me go.

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tattycoram · 06/05/2009 20:31

That sounds more positive. Are you off to work now?

HeadFairy · 06/05/2009 20:34

I do feel a teeensy bit more positive, but I'm not going to be 100% until I get to 40 weeks I don't start work til 11pm, so I'll be leaving at about 10.30. Going to (try and) chill until then...

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