I really wish I had known about this site when I first lost my baby It might of made it a bit easier. Well better late then never.
about a year ago I was living in Ireland with my fiancee,on a working visa, Im from Australia,he's Irish.
Anyway found out i was pregnant 4 months before i was due to go back home. I was on the pill so we were a bit shocked but happy.
A few years before this i had a miscarriage but was only a few weeks gone. So was a bit freaked out, turned out i was right to be.
any way had some bleeding and had scans at 6wks everything was fine doctors couldn't figure out why, to be honest they didn't seem to care, had another scan at 11 weeks everything was fine then as well, was told to come back in a couple of weeks. We had organised for me to fly home a week later and wanted to check everything was fine before getting on the plane.
So the nurse did the scan and told me she had bad news and she couldn't find a heartbeat, I swear it felt like she had smacked me i was in such shock. Then to top it of she gives me a phamplet about miscarriage (she was so formal) and makes me wait in a room on my own for an hour.(of course this would be the only ultrasound that my partner wasn't able to make So i sat there on my own till he arrived bawling my eyes out.
finally we were given a room in the hospital i asked for a d+c and the nurse said we would have to wait a while, in the mean time a doctor came in to see us and said he was going to insert a tablet to help 'soften' everything up for the d+c. An hour later i started getting severe cramps like ccontractions, they came in waves, found out after the tablet helped bring on labour, they obviiously had no intention of doing the d+c. So i had to give to birth not in a normal way either, would you believe over a bed pan on the toilet!!! It was the worst feeling ive ever had. I still have flash backs about the feel of passing the baby.
Im sorry, i know im having a major whinge and rambling a bit, i guess it just helps to be able to share with people who have been through this, my partner is great and my family try but none of them have suffered a mc before.
does the pain ever go? iv'e tried counselling but it wasn't really for me.
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mandaJay · 04/05/2009 16:02
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