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How long to safely wait before Ttc and time off work

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award2812 · 25/02/2009 10:17

Hey guys. I miscarried last friday and not sure if i'm normal or not but i want to Ttc when my body feels better asap. Is this normal? Nurse said wait til next af but i'd rather start in a week or 2. Some say this is fine but others have said it's dangerous and baby could have neural defects etc. Any advice? I've heard you're more fertile after mc and feel like once cramps have stopped it would help me to Ttc. I've self-certified from work this week but am already fretting i won't be ready to go back on monday. I was off for ten weeks two years ago after some other life trauma so i get paranoid about what they think. I was only 6weeks so they might think i'm wierd needing this length of time! What should i do? X

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cmotdibbler · 25/02/2009 10:20

If your mc was straightforward, then there is no problem in TTC straightaway - my rec mc consultant said that in 1st trimester miscarriage where there were no complications, there was no evidence at all to show that waiting TTC had any effect on the next pg.

Personally, a week off work was enough for me - I needed to get back to normality. Work were good about letting me get on with things and perhaps not being so productive the first week

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littlebellsmum · 25/02/2009 20:02

I can't comment on ttc but re work, I didn't have any time off at all - to be fiar, I miscarried on the Thursday evening and don't work Fridays any way. By the next Monday, it never occured to me not to go to work - no one knew I was pregnant and I really didn't want to have to discuss and so, for me carrying on as normal during the day and crying myself to sleep at night seems to have worked!
However, I think I'm wierd in not taking time off rather than you taking time off - that is probably the most normal approach!
Take what you need

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littlebellsmum · 25/02/2009 20:07

Oh and to add - I had my 12 week scan on Monday, not only did I not take the day off, I just told work I had to go out, went to the hospital, confirmed that I had mc and went back to work. And yes, I did want this baby.
As I said - weird. In fact writing it down makes me realise how wierd

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terramum · 25/02/2009 22:50

If you feel able to then there is no problem with ttcing or going back to work straight after a m/c. I have done the same after a m/c just before xmas. The bleeding only stopped on xmas eve & had my entire family round for xmas day so it was nice to be able to just get on with it. I was only about 7 weeks gone...but the 2 weeks previous I had felt so crap as well as bleeding on & off & feeling nervous etc it was almost a relief to have it over with.

AFAIAA The main reason HPs say to wait until your next AF is for dating purposes. I chart so know when I ovulate most months so knowing when my lmp isn't that vital.

Good luck

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arena · 26/02/2009 17:20

Hi award2812, sorry about your m/c. I would like to say that i m/c last year in nov, and after the bleeding had stopped, i was pregnant a week later, im 4 months now.

So if thats how you feel then go for it.

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littlebellsmum · 26/02/2009 23:20

Arena
Thanks for giving us hope! Good luck - hope everything goes well for you

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award2812 · 27/02/2009 21:49

Yeah I'll second that, that's really positive news arena Thank you for the hope

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sassenach · 27/02/2009 22:05

Hi

I m/c in October, was told to wait a month for physical and emotional reasons, but I have to say I knew exactly when I was ovulating that month because my body was crying out to get pg again at that point(IWKWIM!). Well, against my body's will, I restrained myself from taking the chance of getting pg the first month and now I'm on month five and nothing has happened. So I slightly regret listening to the health profs on that one!

On the other hand, emotionally I realised after 3-4 weeks that perhaps it had been better to wait - I went through a couple of months of really not wanting to go through anything pregnancy-related. So there may be something in it. In that sense, I don't regret waiting, as at least I'm more confident I'll be emotionally ready now if/when it does happen!

I hope it all works out for you. x

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sassenach · 27/02/2009 22:09

I also meant to say, just like you I was really desperate to try again immediately it happened - I suspect that's natural - but that changed after I had had a week or two to let it sink in and for the hormones to begin to rebalance themselves.

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