Help me please

[timmette]

Sadly a scan yesterday showed that my baby is in fact a blighted ovum at 6w6d.
They offered a surgical procedure or the pessary that I chose.
They gave me 4 tablets to put in 2 yesterday and 2 today and said they will scan next week to check all has gone - they also gave me a painkiller called tramadol.
I put two in yesterday and bled heavily for two hours and then it tailed off. I put two in today and nothing has happened.
Is this right - has anyone else done this?
Is it possible I bled everything out in two hours - I also had no pain so did not use the pain meds.
If anyone can help I would really appreciate it.

[Dropdeadfred]

I'm so sorry for you...it's awful to go for a scan and find out the worst.
As all mcs are different I cannot confirm for definite whether you have stoped bleeding for good yet, it may well start again. But, to put it delicately (I'm so sorry but don't know how to word this better) as there was just thw womb lining and an egg, not a foetus then you will probably bleed less than you would have thought.

I hope you are okay...

[uptomyeyes]

for you.

I've had a number of miscarriages so sadly I do know what you are going through. Its a miserable time.

I've never had the pessary procedure, when I had my miscarriages 10-12 years ago the surgical route was the only way to go, as mine were missed miscarriages.

Hopefully someone can come along and advise you.

Look after yourself, eat good food and try to get some rest, if you work, take some time off. Allow yourself time to recover.

[sue10]

I am so very sorry for you, i know how sad and heart breaking it is to find this out. I had mmc and opted for the medical management. I think everyone's experiencs are different, perhaps you could call and talk to someone on the EPU to see what they think. I took one tablet (orally) in the morning then was going to have the pessaries the next day but it all happened several hours after taking the first tablet. When the sac/feotus passed through me i bled so much i had to go to hospital and stay over night then bled for a couple of weeks afterwards. Again everyone is different.
Takecare my lovely and rest, sending you gentle hug.
XXX.

[timmette]

Thanks for all the support I really appreciate it - it's really lonely right now and I am a bit fed up of the next baby will be perfect line.
I am in Belgium and they don't give that first tablet before the pessary - I have an appointment on wed for a scan but i think I will have to have it removed surgically which is what I was tring to avoid in the first place.

[Henrysmomnc]

Hi! I am new here. I am 39 and found out on Jan. 5 that I was pregnant. It was a miracle. I have s son who is an IVF baby; he is almost 10 years old. My husband and I did IVF 3 1/2 years ago and it was unsuccessful. Doctors told us we would never conceive. I have endometriosis, fibroids, and polycystic ovarian disease. My husband is 51. On Saturday, I started spotting. I called the docor. I was just 5 weeks pregnant. Doctor told me to go in for an HCG count on Monday. I did and it was 3100; my HCH count the week before was 3800. I knew I was miscarrying. Yesterday I went to the doctor and had an ultrasound. We could see the baby, but s/he had not grown since the last week. The doctor said the baby had died and I had to wait until the baby was released naturally. I am in agony. I really wanted this baby so badly. Thanks for listening.

[nicewarmslippers]

Hi Henry's mum, I am so sorry to hear of this, I have misted up reading your post. How awful, allow yoursefl time to grieve then maybe try and focus on what you have (wonderful ds). I know thats probably not going to help now but it may in a few weeks

[uptomyeyes]

Henry's mom for you.

You found something you never thought you could have and then you lost it. I don't think I have any words to help you. Slippers is right let yourself grieve your loss and then concentrate on the positive.

I lost three babies before I had my DS1 and a further two before DS2. DS3 was an unexpected bonus for us.I've a Japanese maple in my garden for all my lost ones.