need a hug. or something. Surely I'm not the only one who's been in this situation...

[effedoff]

Sorry if the namechange offends anyone, but i'm seeling a bit

It's probably the wrong place to post. But didn't want anyone to get a nasty surprise in any other topic.
I've discovered I'm 6 wks pg. Have been told that I couldn't have any more dc after my first two, then managed another mc and then a third dc, who is almost 3yo.
Thing is, I know I have anti - everything, and had heaps of antiD and antiE in the pgs I carried through to near enough full term. Now i haven't had any. It wasn't planned. I've got crampy dragging aches in all the 'right' places, back pain, but still feeling sick. I know how it is going to go, have been here soooo many times. I just want it over with.

[wonderstuff]

I was convinced I was going to mc my last pg, everyday I was sure I was going to loose it, I felt so sick I thought if its going to happen I want it to happen soon, I don't want to feel this awful any longer. It was horrid. But dd is 13mo now.
Having said that it was only my second pg and I don't know what you are going through or what your chances of a successful pg are.
((hugs))

[effedoff]

thanks

[catsmother]

I've just had my 3rd m/c (2 in the last 3 months, have posted further down) and, like you, I went through 3 or 4 days where I just "knew" that something bad was going to happen (spotting, pain) .......

...... except a tiny little bit of me (the bit frantically searching the net for "horror" stories which actually turned out okay) hoped and hoped that I was wrong.

Now I've been proved right I feel angry and upset. The waiting is awful because until it actually happens and you know one way or another you can't even think of moving on, be that properly grieving and/trying again.

I'm really sorry you're feeling that you'll inevitably miscarry and obviously hope that won't be the case. If that's what your physical symptoms turn out to be then I hope it happens soon ..... I know only too well that being in limbo is cruel, sort of neither one thing or another - pregnant, but not really pregnant (when loss is inevitable).

[effedoff]

poor you, cats. sounds like you need hugs too.

I just feel like i'm doing abortion by default, so to speak - by not having treatment. Thus a heap of guilt feelings in the midst of the rest of the crap.

[gigglewitch]

[wonderstuff]

Please don't feel guilty, whatever the outcome you are not to blame. Nature is cruel

[TheProvincialLady]

You are not doing abortion by default. There is a big difference between choosing not to accept treatment and taking deliberate steps to have a termination.

I don't usually do hugs but here, have one

[wonderstuff]

How you doing today?

[shazzaren]

Hi effedoff, how are you doing today? There is no treatment for threatened miscarriage so dont be hard on yourself. I have had bleeding in pg which has turned out to be nothing and I have had no symptoms that have turned out to be mmc's. My sister in law had cramping and heavy bleeding at 8 or 9 weeks and I have just been to her dd first birthday party.

It's impossible to call it but terrifying none the less isnt it?

Hope you are ok. x

[ihavenewsockson]

big hugs, you're in my thoughts. xx

[effedoff]

thank you

am still in limbo-land.
Bizarrely a colleague / friend who i have worked with for around 9 years figured out today what was going on. I was shocked to say the least, because I haven't told a soul away from here - including DH. Have told her she is right but please keep it all to herself as things are not going well. I trust her to do that, but it is making it horribly real.
Am still horribly down, trying to make a pretence of normality but inside...well i cant spell it out

[TheProvincialLady]

You haven't told your DH? That must be so hard on you. Are you worried he wouldn't be supportive?