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am i miscarrying? please help!

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 11:42

I have just come back from my second early scan...Please read my threads on should i go for early scan....
Very bad news according to nurse... When i went there 2 weeks ago and should have been 7 weeks, i was only 5 weeks. Now, 2 weeks later, am only 6 weeks and now heartbeat... is it definately lost? please advice...this is going to be my 2nd mc and i am so distraught...

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 11:43

sorry, meant no heartbeat...seems a lost cause acoording to nurse

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Fiveplusbump · 24/11/2008 11:46

I'm so sorry ,I have no experience of this in my mc's I just started bleeding .

Bumping for you .

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Fiveplusbump · 24/11/2008 11:46

Have you got to go back for another scan ?

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LargeGlassofRed · 24/11/2008 11:46

am sure they can't often pick up a heartbeat at 6 weeks,
was it an internal scan?

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 11:47

Are you sure of your dates? If so then, it does sound like a miscarriage, I am afraid.

So sorry. Are you alone at home? Can you call a your DH or a friend or relative to come around to be with you?

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 11:48

Just reread your OP, how far along are you? 9 weeks?

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 11:50

Actually, my last periods were on the19th of september. however, i started the pill and took it for one week and then had diarrhoea so stopped it. so officially i am 9 weeks. according to last scan, 5 weeks and now 6 weeks...i lost last baby at 9 weeks too...but here, no bleeding, no cramp or pain...

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 11:52

sorry, it was an internal scan and i was told to come back on friday to confirm missed mc...so encouraging...i am so distraught,,,hubby is at home with me but does not know how to make me stop crying.

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christiana · 24/11/2008 11:52

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 11:55

what we are all worried about is that it has only grown by one week, not 2 since last scan. Last scan, we could only see a sac...now there is a baby with no heartbeat, only 6 mm long. according to nurse he should have seen a heart most definately

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LargeGlassofRed · 24/11/2008 11:58

so hard waiting really feel for you but the fact that there has been some growth is incouraging. Think all you can do so wait for friday's outcome,
So sorry your going through this.

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christiana · 24/11/2008 11:59

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 12:02

Christiane
Was that an internal scan?

In my experience, an internal scan at 7 weeks should be showing more that what you are seeing at the moment. (I had 2 m/c then 2 normal pregnancies then another m/c)

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 12:03

christiana, do u remmber me we discussed in one of my threads about mc. I did have a hcg test at 5 weeks and was very low...
am so worried...am dreading any blood now and i felt so positive before the scan!
so sad...thank you all for your support

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christiana · 24/11/2008 12:06

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 12:11

If the hcg levels were low then it does not sound good. Sorry to be such a gloommonger but I know what it is like to hope against hope.

Go and have a good cuddle with your DH, don't worry about crying too much.

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 14:06

the hardest thing is the fact that i had 2 mcs in a row and i am 27, pretty healthy, do not smoke nor drink...what is wrong with me???lots of tears...

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 14:18

Ah, sweetheart. I had 2 m/c at about your age, no reason for it. There is nothing wrong with you, it was just not the right time.

I know how you feel, I was devastated after my 2nd m/c. MN is a great place to rant and wail, and get some advice from others who have been in the same place and come through it.

How is your DH taking it?

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Jonesy68 · 24/11/2008 14:31

Lalatele so sorry for you hun , your heart must be breaking right now. I feel for you as I know only too well how this feels. I realise it's hard to hope and I don't think it's right to build up your hopes but remember if there is a baby out there for you, it will find you. If not this time then another.

I had a major rant after my 2nd mc (2½ weeks ago) about all the mothers who smoke, drink, take drugs and party throughout their pregnancies and have no problems, when here are people like us who have dreadfully cruel mc's. It's a crying shame and feels so unfair.

Sending out big HUGS to you, I hope you can take some comfort from MN and all the other women like us who have also experienced the pain of losing out lo's too soon. I also am hoping for you that things are actually ok because although signs don't look good, you're not completely certain yet. Try not to be too hard on yourself and give yourself some time ok?

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TinkerBellesMum · 24/11/2008 14:52

Age doesn't make much difference I'm afraid I hope everything works out for you but it does sound like things aren't going well.

I agree Jonsey. I get so cross trying to get into hospital having to fight through the smoking mothers! I'm on pregnancy #4 (baby #6) and only have one child to show for it. I'm autoimmune and that's why I can't carry well (for all their "usually there is no answer" 1 in 8 losses are caused by people with the condition I have, not to mention 1 in 8 of the IUGR, PreE, PE, HELLP, stillbirth etc) and it makes me so angry that I try to do everything right, I inject myself every day and I still have to worry at 24 weeks if that pain was labour (it was too, but they stopped it) then you get the women who smoke and seem to breed babies that they can't be bothered with after a short amount of time and on to the next!

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 14:59

thanks all for your support. dh is supportive but still hopeful...will keep u updated...will see gp a 5 tonight to get sighed off work and do not know how to tell in laws that i have been signed off work without telling them...(sil is pg and really do not feel like seeing her right now and do not know if i can hold my tears when i see her...). any advice?
lots of love...

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squidgett · 24/11/2008 15:32

Hi lalatele I am so sorry to hear what has happened. I m/c at 8 weeks and the baby/fetus had no heartbeat at the scan so I know of the heartache you're feeling and I am wishing you the strength to get through the next few days (and weeks and months).

My view re: your pregnant sister in law is that if you really don't feel like seeing her, put her off, she will understand. Don't put yourself through any unnecessary additional trauma -you have enough to deal with at the moment.

x

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MmeLindt · 24/11/2008 17:08

I told my work the truth about why I was off, most of them were ok about it, one was a bitch. If I were you, I would protect myself. Tell folk that you have a nasty tummy bug (that will put of the most determined of callers) and rest up until Friday.

I remember watching a programme about a drug user who was kicked down the stairs when 8mths pregnant (she did not even know that she was pregnant) and the baby survived. She went into therapy and got clean after that. That actually comforted me, I felt that it could not have been my fault. I was so careful, did not do anything that could cause a m/c and this drug addicts baby came through all of the things that she did to her body. I felt absolved from any kind of blame, iyswim.

Look after yourself and if you need to rant, then we are here for you.

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lalatele · 24/11/2008 17:21

thanks mmelindt. i will be honest about it as a few of them already knew i was pregnant (i was sick at work iyswim)...so have to tell the truth...however, i will not tell sil as she would be too happy about it(don't really get on...) but will have to tell mil and make her promise not to tell her daughter (don't know if possible) as i don't want her(mil) to keep pressurising me about having another dc(which she is already doing)...oh dear, what does it happen to people who would love to have another dc???

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christiana · 25/11/2008 08:59

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