Hello, I have joined as I wanted to give thanks to everyone who is posting on here giving support to women like myself in this situation and to share my experience in the hope that it might help even one person with what they are going through.
Two days ago I lost my 8-9 week fetus at nearly 12 weeks pregnant.
The first indication I had that something was wrong was when I woke up last Friday morning (6 days ago) to find that when I wiped after going to the loo I was passing small jelly like clots of blood, some small and round, some long and stringy. I phoned the GP who arranged for my scan to be brought forward to first thing Monday morning. Over the weekend I passed more clots, some brown, some reddish brown, some big and long, some small, but still only when I wiped after going to the loo. Sometimes I didn't pass clots for a few hours, and found only small blood stains when I wiped. There was no blood loss on the sanitary towels I wore.
Monday morning and the scan showed that my baby had no heartbeat and was 18mm in length, and had stopped growing at around 8-9 weeks.
I opted for a natural miscarriage.
That same night (two nights ago) I started to feel pain very low down below where my pelvic bone is at around 8 o/c. The pains were cramps, and gradually got worse, but even in between the cramps I still felt in pain and couldn't get comfortable in any position. I was bleeding bright red blood.
By around 1 o/c (five hours later) the pain was unbearable and my husband woke up to find me on all fours and crying. My female relatives have since said that the pain I described was similar to labour pain and reckoned this was because my cervix was opening to pass the pregnancy.
I was very worried and feeling panicky as I didn't know whether this much pain was normal, or if I should be losing so much blood. Before my husband could ring the NHS helpline or consider taking me to hospital, the blood was just trickling out me, and then I passed a big clot, say 3 or 4 inches in length, and then the fetus. The fetus was like a small grey shrimp. About an hour later the cramps had subsided and I was able to go back to bed.
Yesterday I had very heavy bleeding with some small clots. Today is day 3. The bleeding is still heavy, but lighter than yesterday. I passed another big clot today which was heavier than the others I've been passing. I am not sure whether or not this was the sac as it dropped in to the loo before I could examine it. I am still passing small clots.
I apologise if some may find this a bit graphic. I have not talked about my feelings or my sense of loss here, but just my personal experience of what has happened.
These forum pages are the best source of information and advice I have found on the net and I wanted to give something back by sharing my story. My heart goes out to everyone out there who is going through or has been through this in its various forms and stages. These are dark days and this forum is helping me to pull through.
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My story - missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks, natural miscarriage
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redfrog · 08/10/2008 14:25
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