Well it's been a long time since I posted on MN. In a nutshell I'm on 5th consecutive miscarriage, but had two DS previously so know I'm still lucky. Three M/C at 5, 5 and 8 weeks were fine, no worse than heavy period. One at 10 weeks was hell, two hours of excrucitating pain for sac to pass which I found a shock as much longer than the birth of DS2. Anyway as this pregnancy is (or was) 11 weeks and as I was too dazed at scan to organise medical/surgical management I now find myself playing the waiting game for natural m/c while trying to fit in work/kids etc. And I'm terrified. Have organised m/c kit to take everywhere I go with pain relief / pants /rubber gloves etc but what if it happens on the motorway? The impending doom does remind me of those people in horror films who lock themselves in a house then sit and wait for the monster to come and kill them. Still possibly preferable to tablets or operation though because I really don't want to have to tell my (lovely but child-free) boss that I've had ANOTHER m/c. Ho hum.
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busymumm · 29/07/2014 00:42
and hugs for you. Truly sorry to hear that. As for the motorway thing what about puppy pads? (the absorbent sheets for when you are toilet training a pup) I know it sounds ridiculous but that's what I used when I was bleeding with vanishing twin because they're cheaper and easier to get hold of than incontinence sheets. For what its worth I could come tuck you up for the night myself I would.
and hugs for you. Truly sorry to hear that. As for the motorway thing what about puppy pads? (the absorbent sheets for when you are toilet training a pup) I know it sounds ridiculous but that's what I used when I was bleeding with vanishing twin because they're cheaper and easier to get hold of than incontinence sheets. For what its worth I could come tuck you up for the night myself I would.
Busymumm, I'm so sorry to read your post. I've lost 5 consecutively, and my experience is that is a very very hard road. I don't think the fact that you have DC's negates that. I'm so sorry for your losses
Firstly, I think everyone has to do what they can to help them cope the best, and if that for you is going to work and carrying on, and not having it known then stick to that.
As for the impending pain etc. I have found that the pain/bleeding very much depends on how far along the baby was rather than how long the dates were. Eg I've had a ten week one which had developed to ten weeks and was bloody awful and a ten week one where the baby stopped growing at 7+5 which was much less so. Did they give you any understanding how far along the PG was at the scan?
The waiting is awful, and I think mentally it really helps me to have an end in sight- for me this has meant to ask the EPU to book me in for an ERPC on a specific date eg 2 weeks from now, so I know if it hasn't happened by itself by then, it will still be over, physically at least.
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