So I had the medical management (pessaries) to bring on my miscarriage on 11th June. I passed the sac 6 days later on 16th June.
On the 19th June my best friend's baby was born, three weeks early. He had to stay in hospital for a few days due to being small but was fine. It was very difficult receiving a text about how cute the new born baby was etc, 2 days after losing mine but I did the right thing and sent a nice text back to congratulate.
My friend knew that I was in the middle of having a miscarriage as I'd been in touch about it before the birth of her baby. On 22nd June (Sun), I sent a text to ask how the baby was and for her address (recently moved) so I could send a card. I also mentioned that I passed the sac the Monday just gone and that I had an appointment with EPU 2nd July to check for retained tissue and if there was any I'd have to have an operation. No reply to that text & no contact on or after 2nd July to check that I was ok or whether I needed the op or not.
Now I know that having a baby is a massive life changing event and that my friend will be extremely busy, but surely it's not expecting too much for my friend to remember me and ask how I'm doing? She has had time to put baby pictures on Facebook, so surely she has 30 seconds to send a text message. My other two close friends both remembered and checked in to see how I was. I feel really annoyed. Am I being reasonable? Should I be making allowances due to her being a new mum?
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thesmallbear · 22/07/2014 17:11
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