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Constant stream of baby pictures on Facebook.

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thesmallbear · 14/07/2014 19:46

Does anyone else feel like a constant stream of baby pictures on Facebook is really hindering their recovery?

In the space of two days (maybe less), I had my friend post a picture of her baby in blanket very similar to one I'd bought for my baby (she didn't know that btw, it wasn't on purpose), a friend of a friend (male) posted a full-on pregnancy photo shoot (him rubbing his partners bump etc), a woman I went to school with posting how excited she is that her best friend is pregnant and has got past the magical 12 week mark & can tell everyone, another picture of an ex-school friend and her baby in front of a famous landmark. Arrrragh!

I've decided to come off Facebook for a couple of weeks as it's really hindering my progress (this is my third day off). Just logged onto instagram and a male friend has posted a picture of his wife's scan to announce pregnancy. Lovely for them but I feel like someone up there is constantly shoving it in my face.

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leanne963 · 14/07/2014 20:40

Oh i definitely know how you feel, feels like the whole world is pregnant at the moment! Facebook definitely made me feel like crap especially as i was only about 4 days away from revealing that i myself was pregnant when i miscarried.

It will get better, for now maybe just hide certain people from your news feed until you are ready to see those statuses again. Or just take time away from social media, as it tends to be either full on gloating all the time or just complaining so you wont miss much Wink

Big hug, wish you all the best!!

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Catlover2014 · 14/07/2014 21:43

I deactivated my FB account two years ago for this reason. I've never looked back! X

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Queenofthehill · 14/07/2014 21:47

I'm off Facebook at the moment for a different reason but the sentiment is similar. Sometimes social media sucks so much. Give yourself a lovely break and enjoy the space. All the best!

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DRSLondon · 17/07/2014 21:02

I ditched Facebook after I lost my baby at 21 weeks. I have gone back but unfollowed some people so their posts don't appear on my news feed.
Good luck x

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thesmallbear · 17/07/2014 21:40

This is my 6th day off Facebook and I can honestly say I don't miss it. Makes me wonder why I check it so much really. Was planning on staying off until 26th July (two weeks in total) but might see if I can hold out till the end of the month.

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MrsR84 · 18/07/2014 15:56

Yes!! I had to unfriend an old acquaintance this week when, quite soon after I posted that our scan had revealed a missed miscarriage, so posted a huge album of photos of her young babies. She is somebody who regularly posts an unusually high number of baby photos compared to other parents I am in touch with on Facebook.

Even before our MMC people who endlessly post hundreds of pics of the same babies in the same position day in, day out without fail, have had a capacity to get on my wick, but right now my tolerance is obviously much lower.

Don't get me wrong, I can understand how amazing it must be to have a baby/babies, to watch them grow and develop every days and how proud it must make a parent feel (and if we ever manage to have a baby our LO's picture would be put up on FB pretty much immediately), but is it REALLY necessary to post so many of what it basically the same photo of the same baby every single day for weeks and weeks? I almost recognise her babies' faces better than I do my own husband of 14 years FFS!

(hormonal, catty rant over ;-))

In similar news, I had to go to Halfords for screenwash earlier and when I looked in my rearview mirror to reverse out of my space there were THREE heavily pregnant ladies standing outside Staples right behind me, bumps framed perfectly by my mirror. Life is really 'rubbing it in my face' right now!

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purple84 · 18/07/2014 20:21

Always the way, see pregnant women and babies everywhere when we don't want to, I did have a break from fb and also had to hide a lot of family member/friends I couldn't delete and then deleted the acquaintances that were "rubbing my face in it" without knowing :(

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DRSLondon · 20/07/2014 11:13

It really does seem like they are everywhere. Instagram is better. Far less baby focused.
Facebook is torture. Don't do it to yourself. Xxx

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thesmallbear · 20/07/2014 14:17

MrsR84 I'm so with you. Even before I got pregnant or was actively thinking about kids, the same people posting that exact same picture of the same baby, doing nothing, several times a day drove me nuts. Yes, of course you love your kids, but surely there are other things in your life as well you could talk about/post pictures of. When I got pregnant I said to my friends 'If I end up like one of those people please have a word with me!' My friend said 'you'll get one warning and then you'll get hidden from my feed' lol.

Don't get me wrong, I would of course post one or two pictures every now and then. And I probably would take lots of similar pictures of the baby not doing much, but I'd keep the vast majority on my own camera/phone/computer to look at privately.

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CurlyJay19 · 29/07/2014 10:59

Aww sweetie, I know how it feels. It's been 1 month since I deactivated my account coz of this. DH nephew's wife is pregs and he keeps posting photos of scans and DH's ex is pregs too and as she has attachment issues she likes to post on his nephews wall. The idea of seeing her scan on FB would have been the drop that would've topped my glass! I miss facebook a lot but the pain I feel when I see these things is way too much, and I love myself even more! Deactivate it for a period of time, and when you are ready come back to it. Take care of yourself xx

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Purplecircle · 01/08/2014 23:08

Within a week I have had 2 scans/preg announcements and 2 births. I feel like it's a conspiracy!

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