I just suffered a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. Until Thursday 29/05 at my 12 week scan - I had never even heard of it.
I have been having symptoms like nausea and tiredness and sore breasts until recently but because i was already quite anxious (1st pregnancy) I have been taking regular home PG tests all of which were + I did not know that the pregnancy hormones will stay in your body even though there is no baby. I actually felt a little different a week ago - my breasts weren't as sore and I felt I had more energy so i did test on Sunday and it showed as + . BF and i talked about it and thought that maybe it was normal as I was moving into the next stage. :-(
By the way I have had NO bleeding at all - not even a spot. which has cruelly been the 1 thing putting my mind at rest i kept telling myself that if there was no bleed then it must all be ok.
The sono-grapher was very kind during the scan but i knew the minute i saw an black empty space that something was not right. She explained to me that my baby had not developed past about 6 weeks - the amniotic sac however continued develop to 8 weeks and I was still showing all the signs of being pregnant.
they give you 2 choices - wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally ( 7 - 14 days) or have it removed my a physician.
I opted to have the physician treatment it is called Surgical Management of miscarriage (SMM) this is where they have to evacuate the womb. It sounded very scary at first and of course i was quite distraught and in shock after seeing that empty black screen in the sonogram room. - however it was well explained by the midwives and I felt that for me personally i would rather have it removed in a controlled environment and know that I would feel a potentially lesser amount of physical pain. I am sure it is painful enough to miscarry unexpectedly but to wait for it - knowing it could happen at any time. No thank you. Plus if you wait for it to happen naturally there is nothing to say that you wouldn't require some removal of left over tissue surgically anyway.
So I had the procedure yesterday, Friday 30th May 2014, they put you under general anesthetic - which for me was horrible enough since I have never been under before - but all went well and the staff at St George's hospital (Tooting) Day surgery unit were so kind and very nice. It was a full on day and very emotional BF was kind enough to sit and wait there for me. The recovery now is the tough bit - like a very heavy period and i was out of it for most last night - see what today brings.
My BF has been amazing and having the idea in our minds for the past 8 weeks that we were going to be parents has made us realise that actually Yeah we do want it and we are ready for it. The loss has made us stronger together.
I know that i have done nothing wrong and that it could not have been prevented at any cost. I also know that many women miscarry and go on to have perfectly healthy future pregnancy - my sister did as have some friends. SO I am realistic about it - albeit very sad and i will never not be sad be about this loss.
It is just a little reminder that nature can be very cruel.
everyone is different and everyone will suffer different physical symptoms of a miscarriage - i hope my experience can help someone who it not quite sure.
I just wish I hadn't ordered that Mama&Papas catalog that was waiting for me on the door mat when i got home for the hosp.
good luck to all mums / dads / partners / friends..... and growing babies
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Suz1234 · 31/05/2014 05:42
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