Miscarriage / getting back on that horse

(12 Posts)
RaRaZ Tue 23-Jul-13 15:27:44

I'm really sorry for your loss flowers . Please be careful - I conceived immediately after a D&C and lost it at 4 weeks sad - I've been advised that my body probably just wasn't ready after all the trauma and/or the lining of the womb wasn't sufficient to support it.

auspan Mon 22-Jul-13 17:54:17

Hi everyone. I am sorry to hear of your losses, we also MC at 8 weeks. I had a d&c on the 10th June, all went very well (if not surreal...I had the op on the same day as the scan showing no heart beat, as we were going on a plane the next day and the nurse was worried i might hemorrhage) I was told by 2 of the nurses to wait the one month cycle, but my own GP told me that if I felt ready there was no reason not to try straight away (again saying it was mostly for dating purpose).
kjh5... it is the weeks after that are the hardest, especially with all the hormones. I was fortunate to be on holiday with my man, and had my parents and big bro over from Australia (my cousin was getting married). And all I could think about was that I wasn't pregnant, but still kind of felt it! (And couldn't even go in the water for a swim!) Support from your loved ones is what you need.
A couple of weeks ago I had some very light brownish spotting and got really excited thinking it could be implantation, but sadly 2 BFNs..so probably just an extremely light period. the upside is that at least I know i'm back on a cycle, so we are definitely back on the horse!

kjh5 Mon 22-Jul-13 12:21:14

Hi Superchops I am in the same boat as you - MC two weeks ago at 6wks, was devastated and just want to try again asap. Doc said not to ttc while still bleeding as you could get an infection but there was no reason not to start trying as soon as the bleeding has stopped. I did a take home preg test three days after the bleeding stopped and got a negative. I'm also doing daily ovulation tests to see if I might be able to pinpoint the time about when I next ovulate. Although I am trying to tell myself not to put too much pressure on and not to expect to fall preg again for a few more cycles... Good luck with the trying. I think the weeks just after the mc are the most difficult, I keep thinking I have come to terms with it but then the sadness just hits out of nowhere. Royal baby not helping! Thinking of you flowers

LittlePeaPod Sat 20-Jul-13 09:22:24

Super I am so sorry for your loss. flowers. I mc in February his year at 7 weeks. We too wanted to try straight away and we did. I conceived after one period post mc and I am now 16+2. MW & Doctor advised we could start ttc straight away if we felt it right. The only reason they ask you to wait at least one cycle is so it makes it easier for them to date the pregnany. We started ttc as soon as I stopped bleeding post mc.

Good luck Op and sorry again for your loss.

Vatta Sat 20-Jul-13 01:56:31

Thanks moominlike that makes sense - I've also now found this link www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/trying-again/ which definitely says that doctors just advise waiting till after a period for dating purposes. I'm still bleeding after the miscarriage but will be TTC again as soon as I get a negative pregnancy test.

moominlike Sat 20-Jul-13 00:29:48

I was told just to wait until I'd had a negative pregnancy test - and that waiting for a period was just for dating purposes. I read the nhs article as saying to wait till the bleeding stops in case of infection, not that ttc before a period increases any risk...but I could be wrong! Sorry for what you've been through and best of luck for the future smile

SuperChops Fri 19-Jul-13 21:40:37

Congratulations shellmck, what an inspirational story - all the best with your pregnancy! Thank you all for your advice; we will give ttc a miss this month. It's so hard to wait, but I suppose health comes first. I don't know what we'd do without MN at the moment.

DancesWithWoolEnPointe Fri 19-Jul-13 20:46:32

Congrats shellmck

I took 7 months to conceive between my mc and having DD2.

shellmck Fri 19-Jul-13 20:40:51

Hi Superchops I mmc in april at 17 weeks, I was advised to wait till at least one cycle. We give it two cycles and have just found out today that we're 3 weeks pregnant. Good luck

Vatta Fri 19-Jul-13 20:30:47

So sorry for your loss.

I miscarried a couple of weeks ago and have looked at the nhs website re trying again - the advice is not to TTC again until you've had one clear cycle (ie you've had one period). If you conceive again too soon there's a risk of infection. See www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1632.aspx?CategoryID=118&SubCategoryID=121

You can take home pregnancy tests any time, but be aware that after a miscarriage it takes your hormones a while to get back to normal, so you may get a positive result that's really just picking up your leftover hormones. I think the usual advice is not to TTC again until you've actually had a negative result on a home pregnancy test, to show your hormones are back to normal. You can buy cheapo tests online.

Hth.

DancesWithWoolEnPointe Fri 19-Jul-13 20:26:52

Sorry for your loss.

Do you mean a pee on the stick home test? <blonde> as in are there residual hormones that would give you a false positive?

SuperChops Fri 19-Jul-13 20:18:11

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks last week. I spoke to my Doctor, who knew I was trying, and she told me to "get back on that horse, unless you feel like you need a rest" - DP and I want to get riding again so to speak - but I forgot to ask, can you take a home pregnancy test a month or so after a miscarriage? We are so desperate for a child, but I don't want to be wasting healthcare professionals' time with pregnancy tests! Or am I being a bit bonkers / forgetting something?!

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