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Tomorrow would have been my due date :-(

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whiterose2011 · 28/03/2013 18:10

I just don't know how to feel....I'd even say that I feel numb.

It feels like I've been building up to this day for the last 6 months and I'm totally exhausted. DH is away with work tomorrow and I just don't know what to do with myself. I'm planning to go into work as I think it will be better to be busy but I just keep thinking how different this day would have been if things have worked out for us.

And everyone is my age bracket seems to be announcing their pregnancy at the moment, which knocks me back further with each email/text.

Sorry for the brain dump....I thought it might help to write it down.

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ZenOfPetals · 28/03/2013 18:27

Hello Whiterose. I am sorry for your loss. My due date was supposed to be 1April but mc . Also been trying hard to hold my feelings in, but maybe it is healthier to allow the grief to happen and acknowledge that you are entitled to mourn.

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eatyourveg · 28/03/2013 18:51

So sorry for you both. Might I suggest taking yourself off to a garden centre to buy a beautiful plant which comes into bloom this time each year? Just as a way of acknowledging your loss and on behalf of what might have been.

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Themobstersknife · 28/03/2013 18:56

So sorry for your losses. I think eatyourveg's idea is fab. I had an mc two years ago, and I saw a shooting star on my due date. I bet if we had clear skies you would see your babies flying high too. Best wishes.

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MrsExcited · 29/03/2013 14:18

Thinking of you, have a small insight into feelings yesterday was due to be my scan date and it pulled me to pieces.

Lots of hugs

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Bakingtins · 29/03/2013 14:32

whiterose I hope the day is passing gently for you. If it helps, I did find it got a bit easier after EDD of my first MC had passed. The idea of marking the day is a good one. I bought a charity gift for safe delivery of a baby in the 3rd world. Just acknowledging that it is a significant day helps when most people around you will have forgotten. I'm approaching EDD for my 2nd MC in a fortnight and mourning loss of 3rd baby, when I'd hoped to be safely past 12wk scan by now.

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whiterose2011 · 29/03/2013 16:42

Thank you for your messages and support. I'm so sorry that you have all experienced mc's as well. Big hugs to you all.

Today has been ok - I was gentle on myself this morning and went into work a bit later than usual. I've spent the day helping to create a special message for someone who is doing a big charity event next week so it's been good to channel my energies into doing something positive for someone else rather than feeling down about my experiences.

I really like the idea of a plant that will bloom in March. Unfortunately I don't have a garden (live in a flat) and am also not fantastic at keeping plants alive. Can you have indoor plants all year round that bloom at different times? Sorry for my pure ignorance on this subject....green fingered I am not.

I also really like your idea bakingtins - it could make such a difference to people who are much less fortunate than I am. I'm going to do this tonight and then I'm going to disappear to bed. Although today hasn't been as bad as I thought, I'm completely exhausted and just need to sleep.