I'm very sad today after our second postmortem results meeting with the consultant in a short space of time... I think it may be time to give up hope for a much wanted second child... But am finding it so hard...
We have a beautiful, bubbly, gorgeous, healthy little girl - the centre of our lives. We are very grateful for her.
Last year I got pregnant and we were so looking forward to the arrival of our little boy in November; unfortunately he arrived at 23 weeks in July. It happened suddenly - unexplained bleeding between the placenta and uterus, which caused placenta abruption and sudden labour. We were devastated but thought it was just really bad luck; and that we should try again. The blood tests showed that I have a blood clotting disorder, so I was advised to take aspirin and heparin to minimise the liklihood of a possible blood clot in a future pregnancy which might have caused the bleeding.
A few months later I became pregnant again (fortunately conceiving has never been a problem); and I started the aspirin and heparin. I didn't feel very well throughout the first semester but that's not uncommon in pregnancy! We had a 13 week scan and all seemed fine. Then at 14 weeks while watching tv I suddenly started bleeding (no pain) and started to miscarry - we lost our tiny little baby girl. The results suggested the same thing as before - baby perfect and nothing wrong with me per se - the misscarrige was due to unexplained bleeding between the womb and placenta - so the aspirin and heparin didn't work..
So now we are faced with the decision of accepting this situation; and being thankful for our little girl - or going through another pregnancy with a good chance (no idea of probability) of a sudden late loss at any point due to unexplained bleeding. I have a number of risk factors now - aged 39; have a blood clotting disorder; two late losses and a previous cs. But it's hard to give up ours hopes for a family of 4 - though the thought of pregnancy fills me with utter dread... Maybe we should just get on with our lives and be thankful..
I know it's a decision that only we can make; but I though that posting here might help us think it through (not sure where else to post)
Thanks for reading xxx
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TaytoCrisp · 01/03/2013 15:45
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