Whatever happens you are going to need to let dd spend some time with him so it is proabably an idea to stat expressing little bits now to freeze so that you can send a bottle with her for emergency use - as much as anything else it will also demonstrate (to a court should it come to that) how commited you are - not only to continuing to BF but also to ensuring Ex gets access to dd within reasonable limits. Nothing more can be asked of you.

It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job under exceptional circumstances so well done! I cannot imagine how you are coping with this so soon after giving birth!

FWIW a person who trys to seperate a 7wk old baby from their mother (and threatens 50/50 split etc) is a bully - that act alone is enough to prove it. However sometimes people become bullies when they are frightened or threatened and it is not the norm for them. With a bit of luck he is just feeling backed into a corner right now and, once he sees you are both strong and fair, he will stop acting like a bear with a sore head and start acting like a father!

Good luck

Thank you all. ahh i'm crying again!!

I will tell him x hours on x days and if that's not good enough i will speak to someone. I've never thought of him as a bully, but his parents are and that's where he is so i don't know if they are behind it or not.
I probably could express yeah, i tried it before and only got 4 ounces though, so i would need to save it up.

He cannot tell you you have to. He cannot demand this. No father can.

No court would allow it, not whilst you are feeding her.

He can tell people anything he likes, it does not make it true. If he is using that threat already then you can be pretty sure that, at some stage, he is going to do it anyway, no matter hwo much you bend to his will. Don't let him bully you as you are not going to win, he will always win. He is a bully and you are not, you cannot compete in that game, you need to step out of it as it is a cycle.

Instead, simply tell him how it will be (it takes strength to do so get yourself some support together first). Tell him you will not give up feeding dd. Tell him he can have her for X hours on X days, then tell him if he does not like that he can take you to court because no court in this country will demand that a mother stop breastfeeding her child - it is a fact - they WON'T.

I have children too, it is hard - at first, tell him you cant hand your youngest over that is ridulous, does it really matter what he tells people? and i'm sure most will agree with you anyway, yes he does sound like a bully and i second that, you should see a solicitor.

He can't tell you what to do. You are no longer in a relationship and he has no right to dictate to you about breastfeeding.

Sort out your benefits and make an appointment with CAB. This isn't about what he thinks his rights are but what is in the best interests of your DCS.

I'm off to bed now, but keep bumping this thread PM, you will get plenty of good advice tomorrow

DO NOT GIVE UP BF, i mean it, dont let him bully you my love

sure theres plenty who'll advise on here - but really, he's being an arse. 50% of the time at 7 weeks old - is nonsense - and i'm a single parent fella thingy.

He can't make you give up bf, do you really believe him when he says you are selfish to continue bf? seriously? what a fuckwit he is, he sounds like a bully, dont oyu dare give up bf after it took you so long to establish, he is being totally unreasonable, and you need to see a solicitor if he carries on with this demand

ARGH thats made me mad.

He's demanding, don't let him, honestly don't let him be the one that has the say in everything! You're the one that has been left with the kids, tell him to give you a break to sort everything money wise, then you can sit down and talk like adults about the children, something you are both happy with.

"He told me I have to" ...

I'm sorry, but "He" is now your ex, tell him he can say what he likes, that is being childish and immature and NOT putting the children first, which is what you want to do by continuing to breastfeed.

Can you express into bottles for the nights she's with her dad?

I've been a single mum since ds was 5wks and dd 15mths, ds is 2.6yo now and dd 3.8yo, it's been hard, but most def worth every moment.

It will be easier, u will get into a routine, and you wont have a moany/whingy dp, can do whatever you want