I'm sorry you are having to put up with this crap. Please do bear in mind that, while deranged wankers are mostly entitled to use the law eg take legal action, the fact that they are deranged wankers means that a lot of the actions they launch do not succeed. Your XP sounds a particularly deranged wanker, and with a bit of luck there may come a point where a judge labels him as a 'vexatious litigant'. This is the point at which deranged wankers become prohibited from launching court cases that are unreasonable and unwinnable, because the legal system has recognised that the cases are being launched, not to win but purely to harass someone else.

well done....

at least you know that his actions speak louder than words and he will show himself up at a trial...

they dont give up tho do they?

well done that judge! Hope stupid Cafcass person learns from this.

I'm sorry you have to go through hassle and stress of a trial but it's good news that the judge thought it was a bad idea. Your ex sounds like a complete arse! Even in some ridiculous scenario where you had a machiavellian plan to make him attack you, he still looks ridiculous for apparently falling for your wicked plan!

thank god!!! the judge agreed that I should not have to endure this mans voice or face in my house (albeit on screen!). so it is letters once a month in addition to fortnightly contact centre.....although, the ex still in dispute so is taking it to trial!!!!!!! even against judge recommendation!

he thinks he is above the law!

oh and i asked to be attacked apparently, and he is the victim of my evil plan to get rid of him from his daughters life (ex p words not mine).......even though until latest assault he was seeing her 3x per week with me supervising!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so now have a trial to face and a barrister to pay for!

How did you get on? Hope it went well.

well this is it everybody!!!!Wish me luck, court this afternoon!

good on you soknackered and shame on the court system for even entertaining this thoughtless crassness.

I am refusing!!! Am dreading court on Monday as I have to sit opposite him! Its awful given the last time i saw him he was kicking me and my bump!!! Its all wrong this civil court malarky!

I feel that victims of domestic violence are offered very little support in court in respect of cant wait for Monday to be over, and thanks to all comments I have lots of good reasons for refusing web cam nonsence! I will agree to him sending her a letter on the week he doesnt see her and will read it to her but NO WAY is he seeing into my home or am i having his face on screen, I will be ill! x

to say that it will require no input from you is complete crap!

I have done weekly webcams with my DD and exH who lives in Canada since we split up and DD was 7 months old (note the onus is on the 'I'). Even now when she is almost 4yrs I still have a fair bit of involvement in these sessions even if it's just moving the camera to follow her while she plays.

My opinion on WC's is that it is the same as inviting someone into your home. I do not always have the best relationship with exH but it was never violent like the one you describe, at times I still feel invaded hearing his voice and TBH it makes my skin crawl, though I always try to hide this for the sake of DD. I would not feel at all comfortable with this suggestion in your situation.

I guess to sum up I would say do not underestimate your involvement to make this process work, if in any doubt refuse.

HTH.