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My ex won't pay maintenance.

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By Mon 02-Nov-09 16:34:50 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Yes, I know there are many of us in this position.

He had a very well paid job but has left entirely coincidentally I'm sure - after I contacted CSA after his consistent refusal to pay me anything.

No idea what he's doing now as he won't tell me. I know he's working but won't give me the details.

Owes me a fair amount in arrears,

Now I find out he's selling one of his properties (told you he was well off). Is there anything I can do WRT to this?

CSA I'm afraid to say have been pretty hopeless and, well, the whole thing is pretty much grinding me down.

TIA if you can offer any help/advice or even just commiserations!!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 03-Nov-09 22:46:45

I think the lobbying idea is great, personally I haven't bothered going to the CSA as I know what a useless bunch of toss pots they are.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 03-Nov-09 22:45:25

Hi - another one here, not a bean for five years.

He had a great business going and is now in the process of bankruptcy, I work full time and its a struggle financially and emotionally, but do you know something? My dcs know exactly what he's done (his own doing) and they respect me so much.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 03-Nov-09 22:30:02

yappy ha ha ha... yeah, that's an improvement, of sorts!

You know what we should do? We should all keep records for a few months, then ON THE SAME DAY, we ALL go to our MPs and raise a stink.

Seriously, we should make a bloody fuss about this shower of useless shits. There's an election coming...

In fact, you know what, I'm going to ring Gingerbread's press officer in the morning and suggest this. angry

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 03-Nov-09 18:17:48

You're so right lindaygii I called every week, kept a record of who I spoke to and what they had promised - for 2 years!! As I said in my earlier post I wish I had complained much earlier, now they call me every week to tell me they can't get any money!!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 03-Nov-09 08:25:54

Recorded delivery is a good idea. Make sure you keep copies of all communication with them so that when you file a complaint for incompetence [which seems to be the only way to get any money from an imbecile NRP] you have copies of the weekly correspondence to hand over to your MP.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 02-Nov-09 23:19:19

A better way to communicate with them is to send letters recorded delivery and keep copies, that way when they say "we didn't receive the letter" you can say "well I have to record showing you signed for it your end". They also have a reputation for losing documents and not keeping notes on your file when you ring them up.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 02-Nov-09 23:08:40

Do keep on at the CSA. Phone them every single week (boring I know, but when you get the money, think of it as an hourly rate!)

Legally they can freeze wages, seize assets (including his house), get the Inland Revenue involved, prosecute....

So they have a HUGE number of powers. Sadly, it's kind of up to you to push them along to use them.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 02-Nov-09 22:14:13

PS.. am going to go do it again.. and again right now... smile

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 02-Nov-09 22:12:49

I'm just starting the process of contacting the CSA to chase DDs sh*t of a father.. I left a message on their website about 2 weeks ago and have not had any call back from them yet... suppose I was being too optimistic that things had improved with with CSA over the years hmm

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 02-Nov-09 21:22:21

There are lots of helpful ideas on here, thank you so much everyone. I actually feel like I can at least DO something now instead of feeling frustrated and powerless.

Thanks again.

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