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Gem1355 · 15/05/2005 08:42

Hi

I've applied for maintenance through CSA and all is going well but had a letter from them on thursday saying a matter has arisen and need to contact asap, so called and they say Jamie (DD Dad) is disputing paternity but he has given them all his bank details, has agreed to send off all his wages slips etc, and he also came to register Darcie's birth with me, so he is on the birth cert.

What do u think? as i don't know what to think?

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Catbert · 15/05/2005 09:10

stalling tactic?

My sisters XP said same thing recently. She just calmly said "OK - if that's what you really, rally think - and you've got £300 to waste on a dna test then we'll do it. You organise it. You pay for it."

He didn't surprise surprise. He was just being an arse and trying to avoid his responsibilities.

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Gem1355 · 15/05/2005 09:23

Yeah they said he can pay for DNA but is expensive and he won't pay for that i expect as to many other things to pay for ie mortgage,car, loans etc. But the more he stalls the bigger the lump sum will be?

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giraffeski · 15/05/2005 09:31

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Gem1355 · 15/05/2005 09:37

Well they are waiting for his wages slip, as just started a new job ( with bigger salary) and he doesn't get paid till month end so have to wait and see!

But i think it's strange as if he was disputing it B4 DD was born, you wouldn't do anything like give bank details, sign cert would u?

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Louise1980 · 15/05/2005 10:01

Having been in the exact same situation with ds2's father ther is absoultely bugger all he can do!!!

If he accepted paternity and put name on birth cert the CSA will accept that. They call it assumed paternity. Basically they know that he's trying it on!

I will warn you that if hes tryng that one he will probably know all the stunts line my ex. Almost 3yrs on and Im still waiting for CSA to get their arses into gear and get me some money!!

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Louise1980 · 15/05/2005 10:03

Also you probably wont get a lump sum of arrears. Its paid back in stupid amounts i.e £3 a week is what Im supposed to get.

My ep is to pay me £8 a week and he doesnt/wont!!!

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Gem1355 · 15/05/2005 10:27

Jamies pretty well off now so hopefully i will but not banking on it!

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Bugsy2 · 16/05/2005 19:43

DNA testing is not that expensive in the great scheme of things. Worth pressing for if you are sure he's the Dad & he is being tricky. Hope it doesn't come to that though.

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Gem1355 · 16/05/2005 21:47

Found out how much the DNA test would cost today £520, i don't think Jamie will pay that!