How did he contact youy Lou?

all i have done is say omg you are my NEIGHBOUR

dd would hate me forever

omg

send him polite thanks but no thanks reply.

don't tell dd.

well, whilst not actively dating or looking, i have just got a message from a guy

this guy turns out to live 2 DOORS away from me, he is the son of my neighbour, and the person my oldest daughter has the biggest thing for

in fact occasionally i have joked with her about him fancying me as he stops and watches me or smiles when he sees me leaving my drive, and she has a huge drama about how he is hers lol

now i am not interested and he is not my type, BUT, he lives 2 doors away from me and i cant just ignore him, and i am thinking i can never ever tell dd he got in touch can i?

he is in his mid to late 20's i think

do tell lou

i have a tricky situation to handle and not sure what to do ladies

he could take your mind off it tho?

he's coming round tomorrow so we'll have to see. [hmmm]

no snotty nose. just my synesis(sp?) are swollen. feel a bit like my head is swollen. should really take a couple of nurofen and it might die down.

aww miserable!
and dare i say it 1st dates and snotty noses don't mix lol

dunno, my mums coming round tonight so i suppose i could escape if he's finished early. but i have a cold , not feeling my best for a date tbh. been longing for my bed all day.

rofl rj join the queue it's growing by the day!
all my friends are shocked by his behaviour and the effect its'having on the dcs,we expected the worst but this is the worstwith bells on iyswim
anyhow,anymore poss times for your meet up?

asbm - i'm sending exh a 2 fingered salute.

scl - road closures common here as doing alot of works and upgrading railroads that criss-cross backroads.

and.... very as samename. lazy bugger. why did you not just move him into new position? bugger you doing all the work.

ninah - aaaah glad you like bf today.lol

lou - no news is good news.

the valium worked too well, woke up late and so kids went into school mid morning lol

i did take more than i was meant to though, but it has worked a bit, so will take less tonight

no further info on the mystery man, or on the health of my plumber's daughter

he was a bit sniffy when I mentioned samename. and exbf

am imagining what your exh would have to say too if god forbid you had the audacity to have a relationship with another bloke and your dcs had the audacity to actually like their mum's nm!

yes it's too soon to be in a rut LOL

aSBM sorry to hear abt your exh

rofl scl
us fit thread girls like variety

morning all!
rj-bugger!
lou-that's all you need with the hols,hope the pills are working?
eve-
scl-????!!!!
ninah-good lol.will mail you!
llaj-good stuff,and god false alarms are hideous!haven't used MAP for years but when i did it didn't half mess up my cycle.
dp-yes despite being separated,you are technically commiting adultery it's true i'm afraid!
as for meeting dd i would just answer questions as you go along personally,i introduced nm as my friend and the next time the dcs met him we came clean as they started digging lol.fortunately they do like him alot and are already asking me to marry him lol
exh is absolutely furious and is refusing to speak to me which in a sense is a huge relief as i dread seeing him,but,he is now directing his efforts on manipulating the dcs and messing with their heads

Yes am a bit embarassed Ninahbut wanted to share. Seems to favour one position whereas I prefer a variety. Yes a good workout for me and OK for me too - doesn't fully do it for him but he doesn't seem bothered (strange emoticon). Also very affectionate.

scl that's a bit cryptic! what, you mean he just lies there? blimey
on the bright side it's a good workout I suppose

Morning all

RJ shame road was closed. Does that happen often?

Lou sprry to hear abt back, have you identified mystery admirer.

Weird day yesterday - met friend for coffee first thing, think she is def splitting with her p, who drinks heavily. She has v young dcs.

I/v wasn't brill both from my performance (was so nervous) and the i/viewers. Was soo nervous.

On my way back bumped into mum of ds1s friend - she is also splitting with her p after 30 yrs - another drinker and also dopehead!!

Samename came round - took me for a pub meal.
Stayed over -is coming round again wed.

seems to like me working hard in bedroom !! not sure if I want to be doing that all the time TMI!!! Will monitor this closely

oh no it's like Cathy and Heathcliff rj! hope you get to meet soon
forgot to say it's good holly is getting on well, this thread moves so fast
eve your friend sounds good company, hope is not doing your head in about the what ifs
lol at lou and her mystery blond
well I took the advice on here and forgot to be irritated by bf, had a very nice evening I think he is coming round again tonight

morning all,

well... very nearly met up with bigT last night.

was ready and waiting by the door with my keys for my sister to baby sit... and the rd was closed between mine and hers. it's a 30 min detour ontop of a 20 min journey .....so she decided to cancel on me.

<sigh>

An admirer from a far maybe. Hope you solve the mystery.

Hi all, eve-thanks for that, I will look it up. Turkish delight sounds lovely

Lou-hope your back improves soon. The mystery man sounds v interesting!

asbm-forgot to answer your question from the other night-divorce is in really early stages. Had a slightly heated convo with exhb today, about reasons for divorce on the petition. Said he wouldn't cop to anything he didn't agree with but would consent anyway. wtf arsehole? Also, haven't spoken to dd about Mummy having a 'friend' and I haven't a clue how I am going to raise the subject. She's only five and am not sure what she would make of it.

btw, I have a sneaky feeling exhb may have sneaked a look at my mobile whilst he got a glass of water from the kitchen. If he did he would have almost certainly seen text messages from nm.

I read somewhere that having a relationship with a 3rd party before you are divorced is still regarded as adultery even if you are separated?

my oldest just sent me a text ( ihave sent her to the shop to get something for us for dinner fromt he lovely cook range of food), saying a random young blonde guy just came up to her asking how i was

i am wracking brains to think who it might be

lol

she said he is doing some gardening nearby and good looking

dammit i cant drive to see who it is!

Hope your back gets better Lou, valium should help.

It's not just the age thing with FWB, we have known each other for 3 years, met a year before that briefly.

Started seeing each other but he tried again with his babies mother, just saw each other occasionally when that ended mainly just as friends but recently we have been more than that.

He is upfront that he still has dates etc. Shame as we get on well. He's going to try and make the festival if he can get a ticket which is great cos he has a superb camper van. All mod cons.

he sounds lovely eve, is it just his age that makes you think it wouldnt work in any other capacity?

well i am dosed up on valium, thanks to my gp whom i may ask to run away with me (hurt my back lifting my ds and his wheelchair)

anyway i said to the kids they should probably call their father and guess what, he didnt pick up on either of his phones, and i let them try from both my mobile and the landline

and that tosser moans about not speaking to them

my plumber is back at the hospital with his daughter today

Dollparts I went to a place called Otakent (sp) Bodrum/Gumbet area, the Hotel was called Medisun and I would recommend it as a relaxing cheap allinclusive holiday.

ASBM I was wondering about holly, good to hear she is doing well.

Mumsnet is typing slowly recently, is it just me?

Turkish Delight found me on facebook and was chatting to me on Saturday night while Friends with Benefits was in the shower.

We have had a lovely weekend together. He dragged me out for a walk yesterday. Went for a meal last night with DD, had a walk by the river afterwards. DD likes him cos he doesn't smoke, drink to excess etc. Shame he doesn't see me as gf material. I always enjoy his company but have to try not to develop feelings for him as he likes to keep on the move. Also he is 13 years my junior!

the hospital are treating her as tho she has swine flu he just said, shes not v well at all

mine started yesterday

no news on the little girl of my plumber

hi everyone and thanks to the kicks up the backside rj and asbm memo to self bf is Very Nice, and Very Nice Men Do Not Grow on Trees. There. as you were.
I really am v erratic in my feelings for him, would hate a partner like me ... will be extra Nice to him tonight OK? once I shake off the rest of my hangover that is
Is funny cos we obv have not met in rl but ths is the kind of straight talking I really need from time to time!
Turkey sounds - well, yes, Delightful, eve, glad you had a good hol
asbm what's happening post pick up of dc? do hope you ok x
on the delicate matter of what they call on here Aunt Flo - anyone else?

Morning all

I will have to read back a few pages to see what has been happening but I hope all is well and good.
My false alarm was just that (thank god). Considering I have made it this many years and never had one made me extra paranoid.
Have a date with pe teacher on Sunday and have been emailing with a another guy who seems nice and somewhat normal. That is about it on the news front for me.
Oh am off to Italy for 2 weeks soon!!!!

morning lou
whats the latest on the lo?
will msn you!

what's he been doing?

dp-that sounds fine i'm sure he'll like it and if he doesn't then tough lol
scl-fingers crossed and sending you pos.vibes for the interview
well as expected exh has been working on the dcs with mind games over the w/e

my lovely plumber couldnt come back cos his dd wasnt well, he ended up taking her to hospital with her mum, they think she may have swine flu, so he is gonna be there all night, she is 3

Evening ladies, hope you've all had a good day.

Have been with nm all day, he's back from his parents and bought me some lovely perfume He seemed nervous of giving it to me as he wasn't sure I would like it and looked relieved when I said it was a really good choice!

It's his birthday this week and I have been wondering what on earth to buy for him? In the end I opted for a timberland long sleeve tshirt and an Al Pacino dvd boxset. Wasn't really sure what to buy him as although I have been seeing him for 4 months I didn't a) want to look like I'd researched it for hours and b) spend silly amounts of money because-well, that wouldn't be 'cool' would it?

I don't!

he is just trying to make you feel bad, dont let him!

thanks lou.

Samename is a bit passive I think. (except when it comes to coke cans lol)

I wasn't ringing him because I was being stubborn tho in the wrong. He said he'd been sitting by phone all day.

that's good scl

and fingers crossed for the interview

doh he was waiting for me to ring him and me him!

Apparently I said would ring him after my landlord had been round!!

He's coming round tomorrow.

well samename and me (I?)seemed to have got our wires crossed again. Spoke last night, all fine, about meeting for lunch I thought today but perhaps he thought next weekend.

He did say his dm was unwell but wld usually phone. I am in a weird mood (combo of pmt, saying goodbye to dcs , stressed abt job i/v tomorrow) anyway. DCs really pushing me to limit friday and yesterday and fighting this morning.

Quite hp being alone today so haven't called him. Don't think wld be very good company really.

He did say one odd thing on phone last nite, in mid of convo said "if I ever meet dcs" thought the word if was telling.

awww rj you shouldve brazened it out

i told my plumber about mandolin man and his behaviour, and he was dsigusted

turns out he doesnt live that far away from him, and is going to look out for him next time he is in their local pub and have a word lol

happy sunday everyone,

dying a horrendous hangover today.

had a good night last night but my friends were almost disowned after thoroughly embarrassing me.

extremely fit bloke, i flirted at bar. came back to my friends and we proceeded to make eyes for a bit, all going swimmingly, just waiting for next round so i could head to the bar and flirt some more..........when my piss head friend (40+ extremely successful not a screaming 25yo) decided to go over and use the line.... "my mate fancies you"

no shit sherlock......we had already figgered that.

that was that..... completely crushed that. i couldn't even look in his direction, never mind continue any further. i was mortified and so was he... as my friend did it infront of all his friends who started taking the piss and being lewd.

i had an unexpected visitor last night, who i wasnt meant to see til this afternoon

my boys were delighted to see him, and had a frenzied wrestling session with him, until they were purple in the face

he says he is coming back later this evening but he is such a flake i will believe it when i see it

this is the plumber btw

how far thru it have you left to go?
and yes it's amazing how these exs use their dcs as weapons
mine is absolutely seething atm
and tho i'm honestly not getting off on it i just think that it's his own sorry mess and his loss
have you spoken to dd about mummy having a relationship at all?

asbm-exh knows nothing of nm man yet and dd has yet to meet him.

was thinking I may wait until my divorce is finalised as I am having financial shit with him as he has been made redundant.

That said I don't think exh would bat an eyelid-though he may have something to say where dd is concerned.

I'm no fortune teller but I think dd will get on fine with nm, she's a confident type and he's really looking forward to meeting her.

just popping in for a nosey!
dp you're not at all selfish far from it
we all need our ^me time^
can't remember your exh situ has he met anyone else?
does he know about your nm?
and what does dd think?
my exh is ridiculously jealous of my dcs relationship with my nm and has reminded ds1 that he's the daddy
am expecting lots of verbal shite when they're dropped off tomorrow as ds1 has not only got a pic of nm on his phone but has been texting him thru the day too
fgs i'd be pleased if my ex met someone who was good to the dcs but hey no not him
he conveniently forgets that if he had been a better father/husband in the first place then there wouldn't be a new bloke in our lives

Eve-where in Turkey did you go? I have been thinking of it as a maybe for next year.

Evening all, My man has been away visiting his maw and paw so will be seeing him tomorrow. Am looking forward to seeing him as I haven't seen him for two weeks. He has just text me to say he has landed and has bought me a present

Was a near miss that I wouldn't see him tomorrow though as exh is away this weekend and my regular babysitter isn't free. Luckily, (does that sound selfish?) a friend of dd's asked if she could go over and play for the day, to the fayre etc etc so I will be free all day.

are you treating him mean today rj?!
yes thanks am enjoying a bit of peace this weekend but am catching up on chores lol
and yes do miss him a bit but not in a sad way iyswim
holly rang me earlier she says a big hello to everyone
she's doing just fine btw enjoying her divorcee status and getting her new business venture up and running
so here's to her eh?!

lou - at scatches batman itch

asbm - we're all pleased you've found a decent fella. goes to show they exist. hope your enjoying your bit of peace this wkd though. are you missing him yet?

ninah - must be good that he can take ds away without you without any problems though? do you not enjoy the break while knowing he's safe and happy

eve - them young turkish delights can be tasty. not that i would know , honest i'm an angel [halo]

nothing new here. went to gla science centre today. kids had a ball.then rushed around visiting various family members, gotta send kids off for the night and going to get
ready for night out with the girls tonight.

still text big T all through day as per usual. but he's had minimal contact from me today as busy.only 4 compared to the usual 40+

scl - so is samename back in the bin again?

llaj,dp,janos and everyone else......where are you and whats your news

which i have to say at times was a bit difficult on account of his wonderful physical appearance, but probably for the best at the times in question

he will always be my friend even if i dont see him for 10 yrs, frustrating as he can be and the flake he is, and the fact we have fallen out from time to time

i've known him 5 yrs like i said, and yes we have had sex with each other before, but i reckon in all that time i could count the amount of nights we spent like that on one hand

so it isnt really about sex, we have spent more nights together sharing a bed and nothing going on i would say

scl?!
is this the end for samename?

at dirty old lady. I did try to disuade him and told him to go and dance with some of the lovely young girls or go with his mate to the pole dancing club but he wasn't budging so I gave in.

lol scl

we know a lot of people in common, but usually it is the friend who came round last night he gets it from, as he bumps into her most frequently

in fact it was her phone he used to cal me in tears saying he missed me the night i was scratching the batman itch

i told him last night he does my head in (friend not batman)

I get fed up with the ones who are in and out of my life then again it probably suits me as I cannot handle a 24/7 that's why I've said OK to friends with benefits.

Do you want to see him again Lou?

he he - I do that deleting no thing but I always have it written down on several pieces of paper just in case of emergency!! LOL

Just had another look at mrblack1 (take a look someone) and have to say I am tempted to message him back - he looks like fun!!

Not much else to report - samename and I had a brief chat yesterday - said he would ring later on but nada. He's bit laid back like that.

Not much other news - on the theme of nicknames have a nickname for exh (luxurydad) and my friend thought of one for his p - supernanny!! Bit childish I know but funny all the same.

Eve - your hol sounds great - wouldn't mind a massage from a young fit Turkish guy (dirty old lady emoticon).

hahaha!

he will always bob in and out of my life, he even deletes my number so he cant contact me, but then gets it from another mutual friend again after a while and gets back in touch

it will always be that way until he sort himself out wrt me
and actually i have a funny feeling he has moved to just round the corner from mandolin man

that could be handy seeing as he is a kickboxer lol

oh it's him again lou?

eve lol

i have nothing to report aside from a hideous hangover , and a string of messages from a male friend of 26 (do you remember him, i have known him for 5 yrs, before i even split with my xh, he was friends with both of us?) saying how much he misses me

he has said he will come see me tomorrow but he is such a flake i can never be sure

Hi I'm back anyone miss me? lol

I've scanned but could do with an update.

Lou but better finding out now than later.

I had a fab week in the sun. Very relaxing. On the man front I sampled some Turkish Delight . He was tall, attractive, not Turkish looking iyswim and on holiday from his city job. He offered me a massage as he claimed to have done a course. I've had a professional massage before and that was nothing like it . It wasn't full on but hey I was on holiday and was attracted to him. It was his last night and I found him wandering around the courtyard looking for me to say bye the next morning. Sweet. Did I mention he was 29!

I couldn't leave DD alone for 5 mins without some Turkish boy pouncing. One from the beach was drop dead gorg but she was terrified! So not ready yet.

Friends with benefits is acting wierd. Asked me to go visit him 60 miles away. Told him I was far too busy then he asked if he could drive over this afternoon. I said OK so will have to go and get ready soon. We are going for a drink later.

Hope everyone is having fun.

is it just me or has anyone else got an ovulation calculator on their screen

Rofl @ ninah
aww bless him he's harmless!

aww thanks itm
how lovely to be jetting off to geneva!
yes have to admit nm has won me round despite my laying it on the line to him at the beginning,i am still v.firmly keeping my feet on the ground here i hasten to add!!
i guess it goes to show that there are some decent ones out there but you need to meet lots of numpties first!!

weekend in geneva good on you itm!
you know me rj, I veer from loved up to pssed off ... atm he is getting on my tits, for no good reason at all
he has taken ds off with his dc today for a boys' trip, so it really is quite unfair
you know that there are things about people that wind you up, and you have to decide how far that matters in the scheme of things
when I see him again I'm sure I will feel more enthusiastic
you don't seem to run out of text convo with big T do you? I think this is one to watch
how's everyone else?

morning all, just a quick nosey on here before I begin my action packed weekend with the dcs.

asbm, am so pleased for you that every thing seems to be going well after all those doubts you had at the beginning

I see the crown is still up in Scotland with rj, thats what I like to see, consistency

Will be seeing nm (now called grandpa) on Monday and then Friday as we will be flying out to Geneva for the weekend, so am happy to be on my own with the dcs for the moment.

Good luck to those with dates, and happy fishing to the rest of you.

was snuggled up to my man last night actually

am having a weekend on my tod as dcs at their dad's and nm working
don't mind too much tbh as desp in need of some r & r after a few weeks of 24/7 dcs and the summer hols looming.
scl-????

hellllo everyone,

so... any dates for this wkd.

no doubt the lovely asbm will be snuggled up to actionman.

itm - seeing marathon?

ninah - hows things with bf? you've been quiet about him, assuming your all loved up again?

scl - whats happening with samename? and did you contact mrblack?

hows everyone else getting on with their fishing?

no date for me this wkd. got a packed wkd planned with the girls so no space to see bigT, will just be content with relentless texting

i agree janos, hes just a bag of wank really

WRT to mm - IMO it's the deceitfulness that would make me angry most of all.

Why say you want a relationship if you don't? Just be HONEST FFS!

no I don't blame you. I wouldn't either - he should have thought before he screwed oW.

maybe but i find it v hard to give second chances

i certainly wouldnt him

reckon he realises he's blown it lou and regrets it.

I am still on pof and have been mailed by mrblack1 - he's very fit imo.

Seeing samename this weekend - fine but haven't seen him for over two weeks.

Am also feeling very emotional this week, after big row with exh on Mon. Am still really pining for exbf - I know I need to try to cut him out, not txt him and move on but I find it so so hard. I want him say he doesn't want me to contact him again but he won't for whatever reason.

this morning i sent him a text asking wtf he was playing at last night and i will be emailing him to get a few facts straight

he replied saying he was sorry he had been drinking and he will delete my number to ensure it doesnt happen again

i responded saying i had mor self respect than to be a ack up plan for anyone, especially someone who couldnt keep it in their pants, that he blew it from choice, it was a stupid choice but was his loss

morning all!
happy belated birthday itm xx
was otherwise engaged last night but hope you had fab time!
has the meet with the dcs been arranged yet?
hi monty
hi everyone else<waves>

Evening all.

fanny rat. Crab?

Itm - just made it to say happy birthday.

lol @ fanny rat

shame he cant forget me eh , lol, tosser

mmwho?

i am kind of laughing in disbelief now

what a nob

Fucking hell lou.

I think we should bring out the phrase 'fanny rat' as it seems most appropriate here.

Major coward Lou, and not to mention the arrogance and audacity of the bastard.

Somewhere in his screwed up mind he thought you'd be up for a shag even knowing what you know about him. Total arsehole.

he is too much of a coward to reply to my v blunt , you must be joking, message

fucking hell i am so cross

i mean clearly i must have left an impression but he can fuck right off, and when he gets there fuck off some more

Tell him to go fuck himself Lou, Fucking cheek, you might be fed up but never hard up

Total disrespect, sounds like you are well rid x

i cannot believe the nerve of him

i want him to reply i will rip him to fucking bits

i sent him one back saying was that meant for me

he replied saying yes he was feeling horny

i said he should ask the girl he fucked on saturday

omfg mandolin man just sent me a text asking if i would like to have sex!!

yes to doll and rj

Evening you lovely lot, my god it's been busy today!

itm - happy birthday! Hope you are having a fab day.

Now as for size, I would say that it corresponds to finger length. IME of course

hardware, no
software is another story

Can anyone recall a time when they were truly surprised or disappointed with, ahem, one's hardware?

I have many instances- I will go off to wash up and chuckle/wince to myself at the memories and choose the best ones to share

then there is the odd small footed person who makes you think "crikey where the hell did that grow from"

i could name a few as well

I for one know for sure that the foot size or size of hands has no bearing what so ever on the other parts of the anatomy

i snorted then

no... but size of neck does for girth

i can tell you for a fact foot size does not always correlate

big socks too.

oh well I expect he has huge .. shoes .. then

no. rofl. but has size 13 feet!

ooh ninah you minx!

has he sent you a pic of his hugeness yet?

itm - he's huge from how he's described himself. and extremely fit as spends all day everyday doing one sort of manual labour or other.

too right!

my goodness I can be so shallow, but it is my birthday today so I am going to be exactly as I please.

happy birthday x

I love a man who can write and string a sentence together, I find it very sexy

equally I do like those who have an extremely good physic! hopefully farmer boy has that too

rj, he sounds mmmmmmmmmm, very intriguing could be just the man for you!

oh and happy birthday itm.

ninah - yeah, his msn and text are in perfect english, except for the odd aye. . his private education was well spent. he knows rather alot big words and understand all the big ones i send his way.

no chance of meeting this wkd. he's busy fri, i'm busy sat and wont go on sunday to meet when i will have a horrific hangover.

maybe next week .

happy birthday itm!

hi all, dp, good to see ya back, hi ninah and llaj good for you

its my birthday today

my birthday present has just left

well done doll - 3 stone! wow, respect to you. and glad you are having nice time with nm
lou rofl at soldier stall. what a good idea
rj does he msn in Yorkshire? aye etc? quite like the sound of bigT
have replied asbm
not much to report here, end of termitis has hit, and we are all shatttterrrrred

Oh thank god for that! I have been feeling very 'odd' lately and given the the MAP is not 100% effective I am having nightmares.

i'm due any day now if that helps

or the trannie?

Ladies, remember how it was discussed that everyone on here seemed to have the same cycle? Can anyone remember how long ago everyone was on AF?

Thanks

dp- you aren't by any chance referring to the thumb suckers are you

I have just been reading over the thread and I just can't beleive how fucked up some men are? Well, actually I can but ykwim.

Sorry if I'm sticking my oar in here but why is there never a shortage of wankers as there are so many other things in life?

I dated a soldier years back when I was about 19 or so. He was over a foot taller than me and used to block the light when he walked in the room!

I seem to remember dumping him though because I really wanted a boyfriend with long hair. As soon as one came along he got the bullet.

How a girl's criteria changes as the years go by.....

ooohhh
am glad to see it's put the colour back in your cheeks lou!

i figure i can look but i'm not interested in dating

thats my girl lou, onwards and upwards

its ok i have it in my head and on my facebook

That's good. But a bit off still.

Yes, it was the desert combats I saw. Phwoar. They should be on your local news if you haven't missed it.

yes i am fine thanks, it wasnt like i loved him so he cant really hurt me

ooh my

i was there!

most of htem were in desert combats tho <swoon>

Lol I was looking out for a woman drooling. Well I think they all were.

Hope you're ok.

Hi to everyone.

ooh were they? did you see me and my mate crawling behind on our hands and knees?

Lou - those soldiers have just been on the news lol

By the way Lou vv at mm

Peeps, off topic off thread, there's a mouse in my kitchen

i would just ask him why he didnt like to use the phone

i am still grinning about the soldiers

Thanks for that rj, I have noticed it on another thread too.

I nearly set up their first meet for Sunday-but dd has been invited out for the day so it'll just be me and him. exhb is away this weekend so it'll be nice to have her around.

NB not of course suggesting that is the case with bigT, meaning the doctor!

Blimey - I always KNOW when I have someone's number.

I suspect the former tbh rj - or at least a girlfriend.

Actually, I suspect it is utterly pointless trying to fathom the male mind.

CAn it be possible that I am suffering man fatigue? Actually think I'm suffering from fatigue generally. They just seem like so much BOTHER atm.

well... janos i have 2 experience of this. banker the wanker who we guessed was married.

and then bigT - who forgot he had it till i told him outright to text instead of msn. to which he replied "oh aye, i forgot i had it" ... i blame this on private school education. no common sense. and perhaps tractors on the brain.

Oh and I need your advice on something here.

Some of you may remember me mentioning a doctor. Well. He's popped up on msn a few times to chat.

Fine.

But, no texts at all. Is it me or is that odd behaviour? He's got my number so why not text?

Any suggestions as to why? I'm thinking not that keen and just wanting to keep his oar in as we have texted and spoken before.

Evening all.

Just had a quick scan through posts and boy does this thread get busy!

rj - what a pain your date had to get cancelled. Do you have any other times lined up? Def agree with asbm re: little man syndrome. And as for telling you you can't be picky - fucking cheek!

My date on Sun went fine, have had some contact since then but don't imagine it will go anywhere.

TBH that's fine - I'm pretty knacked at the moment having been knocked out with a viral infection for past 2 days which has left me feel pretty bleurgh.

at the thought of all those lovely soldiers lou.

My best man news of the week of course has been DS coming back from hols full of beans and happy as larry.

[grin @ petticoats

dp - think we were discussing nm meeting dc earlier on this thread. as others are facing similar decision

not at all, i think it is part of ye olde english law, that a woman has to feel the need to hide her face behind her petticoats at the thought of a fine young strapping soldier boy

I think I will move to where you are Lou.
Is it wrong to lust so much over them?

hi

Hi Lou x

cor i just got back from guildford where i stumbled upon LOADS of soldiers marching through town

then at the end of the road there was a stall, sadly not selling the soldiers, but manned by them, and i bought a t shirt and got my pic taken with one of them

it has put a smile on my face

yes, it is something I have been thinking of and have spoke to my mum and sister (guardian angels) about.

He is keen to meet her and seems genuinely interested in her-always asks after her and seems really relaxed about the whole thing.

I know that introducing her will be as good as introducing her to exhb-not that it worries me him knowing but It's just that next stage thing....Having said that I have been seeing him almost 4 months now and think it would be a good time? what do you think?

aww lovely!!
i'm like that too
are you planning on introducing him to dd soon?

Hmmm, where to begin. Well I see him at weekends (as exhb has DD every week) and ocasionally midweek when she's also there for the night when we can both make it.

It's nice as there is no pressure on me to explain why I can't do certain nights etc etc. He is very understanding of my situation.

What else would you like to know?

I don't want to start sounding all soppy and gushing like a sixteen year old...I must admit I still find myself grinning when his name comes up on my phone!!

yeah dp come on spill some details? do you manage to see him regular?

ohh little man syndrome lol
glad you told him to go do one he sounds a right nob!
dp you said nothing wrong!
so come spill about yer new fella then
{nosey emoticon}

its a bit eeeeery eh

i had a prick of a man trying to chat today. al seemes nice. then went on msn and he got really offended when i pointed out i would be taller than him. he had no pic and i asked him to describe himself. he'd added a whole 2 inches to his profile

think shorty has issues. blocked him after he started saying i had a cheek to be picky with 2 kids.

then he sent me an email thru pof saying"aww,... only joking come back on and i'll apologise"

thanks but no thanks jekyl and hyde

That's what I thought asbm, I was beginning to wonder if it was something I said!

blimey all quiet on here!

aww this moves too quick!
hey DP check you out!
am thrilled for you so nice to see you back!
need all the goss girl!!
xx

rj i am not expecting to do that with him or actually meet him, he has already said he would do something else, so wont cancel that unless they are ok about it

he was coming as a friend

aww we like batman
and need a catch up on msn me thinks!
alot of kids stuff going on here atm with end of year stuff etc as you know

oh wow, hi dollparts.

all that extra exercise with nm must be helping shift weight. glad its going well.

asbm - ach its fine. you know what we ladies say about slow burners on here.

lou - oooh the batman. your celibacy didn't last long

Knock knock ladies, remember me? I thought I'd drop bye and say hello

I've been totally snowed over the past few months, Selling the house, working, studying and.....the man!

Mr Trader is still around, it's been 3 months now and all is very well. It's all still slowly-slowly-the only pace I can manage right now but we are getting on really well....it would seem that he doesn't carry the dickhead DNA which is a change for me

Am three, count them, three stones lighter and shrinking on a weekly basis.

Hope you are well I will have a nose read through the thread and see how you have all been!

Hugs x

yes i like him too

he would be chuffed but extremely embarrassed if he knew he had a fan club on here, he's a v modest guy

oh and hi mousie good to see you back!
how are things with you?

yay batman!
us fit thread girls always liked him
ninah will reply when i have email back having probs tonite for some reason??
rj-disappointed for you hope the dcs are coping as the pox is hard work but easier to have done all at once iyswim like my brood did

i now also have to find someone to come with me to my annual summer street bbq on saturday, to save me losing the will to live

batman (remember him?) has said he will let me know by thurs if he can accompany me or not

and that doesnt break my dating rule either, cos he is essentially a friend who would be coming to help me out

tho hot to look at i agree

mm was the one who was saying he wanted a proper relationship , i cant see how he would have thought i was indifferent

he was just hoping i would say yeh ok lets just have the odd no strings shag instead

he got a wake up call

anyway my best friend just discovered he went to school with someone we both know, and she said he had mental health issues, so maybe its got something to do with that

i do find him very interesting. first pof gentleman where its been a real challenge iykwim. enjoying the cat and mouse required to get to this stage.

rj you sound quite keen! hope his gums are OK lol

mousie - silage is crazy money. i deffo wouldn't turn down a shift just for a coffee. no matter how much i liked the guy.

and the date was always made on the condition he didn't get called out.

both myself and him made it clear from the start our priorities are not dates.

after the hassle of marvel, i'm focusing on study and kids as always. his priorities are work and his dd.

when we try to arrange dates there is equally as many times i cant due to my commitments as he cant due to his.

told my mum to head off. so even if he gets away now i wont be meeting. but doesn't look like he will. just started a new field. so he's expecting to be at it till the early hours of morning..... with me texting to keep him company ... i shall obligue once i've put dc to bed.

damn.... more feret catching to arrange another date.

Hi ladies,
Oh, lou, how rubbish, I'm so sorry that some men are such idiots.
rj how frustrating, maybe best to know where the priorities are and are going to be??
asbm I am glad to be smiling for you.

I seem to have got back together with previosuly exbf. He came down on Saturday and once dd was napping we got a bit closer than I intended and he stayed overnight and I am a bit confused about it all. He was so lovely and I just don't know now.

oh no, call to silage
he sounds interesting tho rj, posh yorkshire, hope you manage a meet soon
lou so for you. Do you think mm thought you were fairly indiffent to him? he said he was surprised you were upset . or is he just completely mannerless and dick driven. Better to know now .. don't leave the thread tho! even if you don't date
sounding good, itm

right ladies...... own up, who forgot to do the rain dance??

bigT has been called to silage. so unless it starts pouring down or a machine breaks my date is off.

plus ella has developed chicken pox too and i want to be back incase she gets up through the night so i cant go meet him later once he's done..... mind you, some days he's doing silage till 1am.

i'm figuring none of them are good enough for my time and effort right now so would rather have nothing

oh hell no to self imposed celibacy.

right now i feel like that yes

atm i am thinking the only bloody decent bloke is a dead one

i sent one text last night saying i hope she was worth it and he would be more honest with her than with em, and left it there

i wont be contacting him again

self imposed celibacy? Nah it's pretty crap. Can't recommend it.

i think more of a permanent basis

what do you mean?
just having a break from it all?

but i am going to stop dating

hell no!

fed up but i'm not gonna be wasting any tears on him

good to hear

i'm ok thanks

RJ we all better start singing to guarantee that downpour
llaj-lol
lou-how you feeling this morning?

Lou - What! Man whore. Nothing more to be said.

Itm - That is nice to hear that he is trying to incorporate the kids into activities. Much better then just bringing a dvd around.

Rj - You will be fine. Just wear your favourite shoes/underwear for a confidence boost.

Asbm - yes I think I will meet up with PE man. Saw the one night stand on the weekend. He didn't make a move which I am glad but kind of wanted him to as well. I was a pit put out that he didn't. Felt all a bit like a Ricky Lake guest 'what, what wrong with me?'

morning,

feeling a little nervous here today about date this evening.

chicken pox situ seems under control here, but sun is shining... which means there's a chance he'll be called out to work... hoping its raining in his neck of woods.lol

i went ot remove him from my fb but he had got there first

at least he had the grace to do that

probably to make sure i didnt see any pics that she may be in , that his friends may post and tag him in

what a cock, thinking we can stay friends

i said i wasnt going to ease his conscience by saying yes, or lead him to believe he could keep his options open and be able to still see me and shag me when he felt like it , as well as others

he then logged off funnily enough

I don't know what to say lou, what a let down

sending you {{{{{hugs}}}}}

i found out because as i said he was being a bit off which i was putting down to the last 3 days of partying

and i said to him that i wasnt enjoying this sudden change and wanted to know what was up cos i knew something was

he said he wanted to tell me but didnt want to piss me off
and when i said just tell me he told me that, then added i was more pissed off than he thought, and he was hoping we could stay friends

i replied saying he wasnt to expect to hear from me again unless it was to call him a cunt

oh lou - how did you find out. yes, share?

asbm - yes, atm it will suit. anything more was very draining on me with marvel.

itm - wel... this one not unexpected as my fav of this times catch from pof. but not what i was expecting is all.

will just have to see. nothing may come of it at all!

oh shit lou, what an arse, are you ok?

whaaaaat - how did you find that out? Surely he didn't tell you. omg

well mandolin man has just been dispatched , i just found out he fucked someone else n saturday night

good luck rj, am rooting for you, its the unexpected ones that are the most exciting!

asbm, yes things are good, saw nm on Thursday and Saturday, am no longer concerned as he is making a real effort to fit me in! He has even suggested some good ways of getting the children involved in cycling, which they will love.

I have had a shit day but have managed to counter act it by booking flights to Geneva for a couple of weeks time.

Am going to the dentist in Chamonix and am making a jolly of it, the Alps should be spectacular in July and I get to catch up with lots of friends.

no but might suit you both iyswim?

thanks asbm - this is going to be a weird one if we do get on.

not your typical relationship for sure.

rj my fingers crossed here for you as ever!
hey as i always say nothing ventured etc
and for some reason i missed other posts earlier???
hmm golddust still in the running eh?
ohhh to have options lol

rofl @ ninah and the homebrew!!!
i got your email btw am in process of replying!!!
lou?!but glad to see you got out and enjoyed
rj-hmm intriguing!
llaj-are you going to meet this pe bloke aft all?
scl-did look at your other thread earlier and yes my heart just sank,will have another nose and poss post as you know my feelings re:this kind of crap.
eve-hope you're enjoying your jollies!don't forget 200 for me lol
all peachy here with me not wishing to sound smug,and no word from exh as yet think the dcs reaction has shocked him a bit!!
oh nearly forgot itm!
how's tricks?!
have you feeling about things now?

llaj - hahaha, no... he's a farmer who was private school educated.... posh yorkshire!! convo flowed really well actually.

Can he not hold a conversation or does he grunt a lot?
Either way have a good time tomorrow.

had chat with bigT on phone. first phone convo. not what i was expecting at all. not in bad way.... just really different. totally thrown what i was expecting now.

tomorrow will be interesting,

SCL - thats more like it.

he he !! He must have guessed he just rang to see how I was and what I am doing this week. Was in supermarket so didn't answer.

Txt him to say would ring him later.

yes lou agree they shouldn't get to comfortable!!

Make an effort you feckers!!

blimey loads to read up on here

guilfest was great

i went with my friend and her son, and his friend, and met up with my mew young man

he was feeling a bit delicate after already being there 2 days , but we all hung out together, met a few of his mates too

he ended up coming back to mine after it ended and i dropped him home today ( i was driving yesterday )

we get on v well but i said to my friend today he seems to have got way too comfortable with em too quickly, as in he is behaving like we have been together for ages wrt making effort

he says himself it feels like we have been seeing each other much longer than we have

i am putting his lethargy/overcomfiness down to his overindulgence the last few days this time, and will see if he continues to be like it or not

if he does he may not last which will be a shame

because although in one way its a compliment he feels so relaxed i would still like him to keep making effort to keep me iyswim, and not just assume i will stick about

my mate says if he were anymore laid back he would be horizontal

Coffee sounds OK rj, hope you enjoy it.
Asbm that's brilliant! not nearly as bad as you thought then, and ds is obv sussed about it! glad you are all so happy
hello to everyone else
how was guilfest lou?
agree with itm about samnename scl, may be nothing. On the other hand you don't sound really as passionate about each other as you might be. I'd certainly keep looking
well had a nice weekend here, got a bit pssed on homemade wine and had drunken argument which was horrible but the rest was really really nice and I'm hoping the weird homebrew vibes will pass!

rofl that's a good point there
the dodgy pics and being stuck with some ugly boring fecker for hours sounds horribly familiar to me lol

he's not a big drinker. only drinks socially. think there is a background there.

think its kinda a test for him if i can have convo sober?

plus he admits he likes the idea of a short meeting the length of a coffee incase we dont get n.lol. which i agree with.

Just re read that. Not saying that you are a drunk or anything . Ohh you know what I mean.

Maybe he wants to meet you sober? Can you talk comfortably in real life without the benefit of some dutch courage?
Either way, have a good time!

oh and remember goldust who's on holidays.

he's emailed to say he's at his aunt in london before cyprus... and he's been horse riding after hearing me go on about it.

so told him about my rock climbing(which he does)

and he's saying we'll meet up and go do some once he's back if i want.

i really will need to meet bigT and decide whats gonna happen there first. thank goodness goldust is on holiday.

llaj - a coffee. strictly a coffee in edinburgh.

actually its kinda weird. he insists coffee for initial meeting? wondering if he's had an experience of meeting with someone and it turned out awful and he was stuck in their company?

or someone looking nothing like their photo and at least he just has to have coffee and can leave if i dont look like nmy photo. lol

rj - where are you off to on your date?

oh and study is going well except haven't really bothered this wkd.did alot last week and taking well deserved break.

asbm - glad it has went so well. not as bad as expecting.

scl - hmmmmmm.... think your right to see if he calls. if he doesn't at all then suppose you have your answer what he thinks of relationship

llaj - think you might see pe teacher then?

and...... drum roll please...... date with bigT tomorrow evening. as long as he doesn't get a call for silage. and ds chicken pox dont get worse.

Morning all

Well I have not read the thread since Friday but I hope that everyone had a nice weekend.
Well all the little darlings are now on school holidays but have managed to offload 3 to play at other peoples houses .
As for me, well didn't hear from the Pe Teacher about Sunday but had a very grovelling email from him last night so will think about it over today.

I am going to wait for him to contact me (as I often seem to be the first to ring him) tho we've already made an arrangement - he's always delighted I've called/txted but I am getting a bit fed up of it tbh. I expect him to make more of an effort. he seems t o like me taking the lead but I am not goig to do it all the time.

Just makes me think it isn't quite right for both of us!

Got alot else on my plate (will start sep thread abotu exh)

thanks scl
so what now with samename?

hi all

no it wasn't in jest - he nipped in the shop whilst I stayed in the car and came back with two bottles!!

ASBM - good for you.

morning all!
hope everybody had a good weekend?
mine was fab
and my dcs are all v happy too
exh knows and has voiced his concerns
app.i should have informed him first
ds1 has told me that my life is none of his dad's business any more lol
wise words indeed eh?!

morning all,

things are quiet on here, the ladies have been out enjoying their weekends, will be expecting up dates through the da.

scl unless it was in jest about the bottle I would be a bit but if it is only once incident let it pass, but be on your guard.

rj, how is the studying going?

I had a fab weekend, things are going well with marathon man I just have to keep him from going too fast!!!

Am supposed to have a meeting with Solicitors this afternoon but think I'll have to cancel as I forgot about picking up the dcs! And I cant keep asking my friends as I feel like I am taking the piss a bit.

scl - the drinks thing is a bit of alarm thing? but can i ask? did you get a bottle or can in end? who backed down?

hello all. Haven't got much to report really and also work is nightmare so haven't really relaxed much this weekend tho have had two loverly afternoon naps cos got up early on Sat and Sun for football training.

Seriously thinking about dumping samename as in between our meetings we don't communicate much - it's partially me (cos I think why should I phone/text him) but mainly him.

Nice guy have a great time when I see him, feel very easy in his company but I am thinking more and more that if there is some mileage in our relationship then we would be in touch more whilst we were apart to keep the momentum going and feel more connected otherwise what's the point. It feels too ad hoc IYKWIM. So watch this space.

I also wonder how long he will leave it before he does get in touch - don't like game playing but it's usually me who rings (not to fix next date as we have usually done that).

We also can't do much as I never have any spare money and don't like to assume he will be paying.

I have abt ten days to myself soon as dcs going on holiday - said he could come round for a few days but am not sure now - the money issue, combined with preparing for a big event at work at end of the month plus perhaps TMI want to be alone when I'm on !!!! is that weird - just want to be able to slob out for those three days.

Perhaps Im getting too used to being on my own and too independent.

Also, one last thing - rather trivial but an alarm bell rang - I asked him buy a can of drink the other week but he insisted I have a bottle so it didn't spill in my car. I told him I prefer the taste from can (and it doesn't always spill). I could be being over sensitive but having been in controlling marriage this set alarm bells ringing.

Ooh er that was really long sorry - how was guilfest lou - who was on?

Our local event was stopped mid evening because of a stabbing - a big group of us usually go but we didn't this year, thank god, mainly because of the weather but also because we had reports of bad atmosphere - which was obviously right.

suppose.

where is everyone today?

lou - did you go to festival?

i went rock climbing today. think i defo have a new hobby. was great fun.

and yet another day of catching ferrets. bigT asked to meet up. still not managed to arrange anything.lol.

not really, cos they think its not going to land them in too much trouble, as its only of the torso

dee - what a weird naked pic bit to send. odd.

hmmm a no mans land shot, i'm not sure what to say to that one

i've had those too but usually a cock shot swiftly follows regardless of my response

Ha Ha! No I didn't ask for it. He wanted a pic of me so after accusing him of asking because he'd forgotten what I looked like, I sent him pic of head & shoulders (in my break between scrubbing kitchen floor & hoovering) so i looked pretty scruffy with old t shirt & no make up! The pic he sent artistically doesn't reveal either his Knob or his face!!! Might not even be his body!! Lol!
RJ - Good luck with the Chicken Pox & take my advice - ALWAYS have spare bottle or too in cupboard under stairs UNLESS you leave a 14 year old dd to house sit for the night!

oh and i have met up with someone who sent me nekkid pics but i knew him v v well, so it doesnt count

if you received an unsolicited cock shot, then dare i suggest that maybe you tell him thank you v much for the pic, you have now loaded it on facebook and tagged him, so all your friends can see what a knob (literally) he is?

of course if you did ask for it, then i would assess whether or not it looks appealing enough to scratch your itch, and proceed accordingly

i have been sent quite a few (mostly) unrequested dirty pics

unless i know them v v well i am never amused by it, well until i show all my friends and laugh at how daft they have been in their action

rofl @dee. thats fab.

i wouldn't meet with someone who sent nudey pics. but was there not someone on here did?

i just cant understand why you would take a pic of yourself in scud <mind boggles>

i'm stuck in. ds has a few suspicious spots. think we may finally have the chicken pox.

so just amusing myself texting bigT who is at work. what a shock eh?

wish i had wine

Oh you ladies sound like you're having a great time, mostly!
I have been chatting to every one who sends me a message, whether I like the look of them or not. That's my trouble you see, I'll talk to anyone, me. Still not sure I'm ready to meet anyone in the flesh.
Bought a new dress in Risky on a whim (Green, low cut flimsy summer affair) & have worn it twice. It may have to be called my pulling dress because apart from all the positive feedback, and a school mum who said it looks like I've "moved on", a man rode past on his bike (pedal) while i walked the dog & rode back to ask directions & kept asking me for my number. He seemed friendly enough so gave it to him ^ he spent next 4 days calling & texting & sent me a picture of himself naked.
He's a fair bit older than me but quite fit looking (nice thighs) any Corrie fans? He looks & sounds like Bill Webster - we'll call him (Big Bold Brash Bristly)Biker Bill - don't think I'll meet up but I've kept the picture!
What would you lot do?

oh fab lou. that will be fun.

hows everyone else getting on with their cybermen?

i had a lovely long sleep last night

i'm still excited about guilfest, i will eb going with a friend but am also meeting mandolin man there (he's camping there all weekend)

just update. still no specific date arranged with bigT.

cant sleep just now. not sure if its the sun, or i've been doing to much studying just before bed and my brain isn't getting a chance to wind down iykwim.

so lack of sleep has me feeling like a bit of a chocolate teapot today.

any dates this wkd?

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you rj! Hope you do get to meet him

well, once we've had initial meet, its easy enough to meet up out and about when he's off to jobs as he's boss iykwim. but i refuse to arrange childcare for original meet. and he has his dd back from grans in few days. then she's with him at work and nights obviously till summer hols over.

once ds back to pre-school i can also nip over to his in afternoon and leave dd with ex as i pass by 1 of ex shops to get there.

so there is scope. and obviously i have sat, and every 2nd fri i could if he can get baby sitter.

his dd doesn't see the mother at all as far as i'm aware, so he has no overnights free except the very rare occasion she goes to gp's.

rj, I think it is the sun.

Also feeling rested and relaxed which I think is because I haven't had to deal with XP or any of his shite this week. That'll change soon enough but hey ho, he's gonna be mithering me for years to come so I just have to deal.

Feeling your frustration with BT and not being able to sort out a meet too. When does this guy think he's gonna get any spare time?

Game play can be fun but also you get to a point where you think (sorry to sound american) just pack it in already!

you lot are a randy bunch today. have you been out in the sun too much?

i've had a lovely day today on my friday which kids go private nursery. i have now renamed freedom friday from now on. had my hair done and did my good samaritan bit for a friends who's dc have chicken pox. we've seen alot of each other over past few weeks. so... hopefully we'll have a pox outbreak here before long

all quiet on the men front here today. but did ALOT of convo with bigT yesterday till the early hrs of this morning.

i'm no longer unsure if i'm coming or going with him....... think i most definately will be coming

must admit girls. this 1 involved a bit of game play. then when i got bored couple of days and go and laid it on the table as i was getting bored he seems to have decided he deffo wants to meet.

it could be a long time before we meet as i've only got 2 sats in next 8 weeks that i'm free, and one of which he is in england.

we gave up trying to organise something over text last night. will try and do it over the phone when we get a chance without my(and his) dc being in earshot, and our hectic schedules....

.... its not really looking that good when we struggle to even arrange a time to call when we're free... never mind a coffee?

<sigh> i may get bored before we ever get round to meeting in RL.this fish is another workaholic. says he hasn't taken a holiday in years. many years. and not because he cant afford it. just because he'd rather be working. and doesn't do days off. full stop.

tis a thing from the farming background. farmers never have day off. and dont go on holidays as no one to look after animals.

lol janos

have spoken to j and i am gonna go with my mate on sunday and meet himt here too cos he is there again in sunday, which i didnt relaise

asbm

er don't you mean to rearrange your insides janos

Aww fab lou!

I'm thinking about my lovely doctor again. Now he'd be quite welcome to fiddle round with my insides any time. Ooer missus (etc).

Especially if he wore his scrubs

that's my girl janos

well i have just been given the money by a friend to go for a day to guilfest, as a treat

so i just need to decide if i go tomorrow and see if i can contact j who is there, and risk it, or go on sunday with other friends, when he isnt there

lou, if he brings the glasses I shall sit on them 'accidentally'.

That should do the trick.

asbm - down girl!

rj they're lush
and actually if i remember righty it's jason's birthday today
so if he's reading this{deluded emoticon}
many big birthday xxxxx

busy lady janos!

make sure you accidentally on purpose break the glasses if he wears them

lou, I agree, howard for me too and I hope you lovely bunch of gorgeous women are all well.

Well update from me as I haven't posted in, ooh, aaages (in reality about 4 days )

Shan't be seeing any more of CM..ass well, he doesn't have a girlfriend, but, there's this girl who he's sort of friends with, and she has a lot of stuff at his place.

Aye right you sleazy wee shite! Sounds like a girlfriend to me.

Anywaym onwards and upwards.

Biggest shock of the week was getting messaged out of the blue by an old fling (last saw him 18 months ago) who emigrated to Canada and told me he had developed feelings for me and was really upset when I stopped seeing him. So we've been chatting some but that's kind of hard with a 7 hr time difference. So having some fun there, he's v sexy.

Also have date on Sunday with a guy I was in touch with before on POF who's resurfaced. I shall call him sunglasses man.

And last night also heard from my nice doctor friend who had gone awful quiet - I guess busy fiddling about with people's insides.

So, hey ho, that's my man news to date.

but i will say that howard could definitely have it

he wouldnt even have to say pelase

i have absolutely nothing to report today

i dont think i will see mandolin man this weekend, because he is at guilfest the whole time and i cant afford to go

that is all , carry on as you were

<bowk> at takethat.

ohh i love jason

well guessed asbm - I love 'em too esp Howard (who is also a serious house dj apparently) And think Shine is written about Robbie.

omg no!
all you need atm.
and yes 'the circus' is a fab cd have it in the car

yes got him a cd he wanted - really sweet if bizarre choice for a guy of his age (think boyband).

DCs know of his existence. They think its cool he wears the new England shirt. Exh wouldn't be seen dead in any sportswear!!

More bad luck though rather stupid on my part - ds2 took his bike to school and forgot to get it (prob excited that exh picking him up) - it's gone!!

morning all!
scl-oh hideous!what a crap time of it all you're having.did you get samename a present?
have you mentioned him at all to your dcs yet?
llaj-good luck with your date

cocktail and marvel seem to have given up. to my relief.

goldust on hols.

other hanging around.

pirate i have blocked.

bigT been on text all day. and msn. on his initiative. have noticed he hasn't been online for few days (shouldn't have checked but nose got better of me)

well it was ok until today LOL

I only mentioned the event in passing to samename so not sure really.

I think we are both a bit laid back with each other. He has met some workmates before and is quite sociable. But local friends and dcs all in one hit might be difficult and I think I might be on edge.

exbf hasn't blocked me (that's jsut my paranoia) his phone is switched off.

how are things with you and your cybermen?

SCL - poor you. bad week eh?

exh still being usual self. exbf - you've been here before with not hearing from him though haven't you?

samename - do you think it was the idea of meeting dc that made him sidestep? or is it possible he's not ready for any sort of social gathering with your friends yet? is he a bit anti-social in general?

it does doesnt it

lou - darkhorse seems to be a bit clueless from what you have said.

omg everthing a bit uuugh here

samename's bday - but can't see him he's going out with some of his family and friends but couldn't go even if wanted to. Prob not able to see him for about another ten days. He sort of sidestepped a casual invite to something I' m going to this weekend with friends and dcs. Wondering if he really was that keen he would have jumped at the chance.

Work hubby is being made redundant. He's gutted and so am I.

exbf is going through another incommunicado spell - has been ill, am sure he's back at work. for some reason I am feeling v frustrated that can't get hold of him. Am even wondering if he's blocked me - is it possible to do that re texts?

exh gave me grief - went out for abt one hour after work with other redeployed colleagues and workhubby. Ringing me hassling me (exh that is). His need to get away was paramount of course.

Just wondering if anything will ever go smoothly again.

Sorry for rant.

well i dont know but he certainly wont be getting the latter

llaj, who sent last message? him or you? if you has he just not replied? was there anything specifically for him to reply to?

well... i've just booked myself in for a beginner course in rock climbing on sunday. woo hoo. been itching to try for ages.

lou - this friends?? or friends with benefits?

Morning, well afternoon.

Well I got distracted last night and never replied so sorry about that.

We were chatting on and off during the day when he was not working and if her was then emails twice a day or so.
Oh well never mind. Having drinks on Sunday with the PE teacher so that makes up for it I guess

he just wants to stay friends he says

lol
i'm amazed that he thinks he can just flit in and out of your lives like this
wonder if mm would be into it?
have meant to mention it to am as it would be his kind of thing too

lol i wasnt nasty asbm!

morning all!
darkhorse??!
am imagining your response here lou
hi again sparky!hope you're good!
and yes don't worry ladies tis their loss and there's always plenty more out there!!
try and remember how many naff fellas i've been out with

best way is to definitely not take it personally

i always assume men are saying the same thing to many women, and will take up on whoever comes through first

yes he has met kids, albeit a lot sooner than planned, but i think if you dont make a big deal about it then there should be no stress invovled

and no he doesnt have kids himself

Hi Louloves, I can so relate to what you say. Am back online a month after splitting with fuckwit so-called fiance and getting back in the swing of things.

But it is weird...am talking with about 5 guys at the moment but one who I'd exchanged a few really nice long emails with has just disappeared. And of course he's been online so he's obviously decided not to take it any further. He was even talking about meeting up!
I don't mind but it just seems, well rude....

I suppose you just have to take nothing personally and move on to the next lot. If you've got the stamina...

lou - i take it mandolin has met kids? has he any of his own?

oh blimey darkhorse just asked me on msn about going geocaching with the kids one weekend

was it email convo's where you were "chatting" for a period and saying goodnight at the end?

or email tennis where there can be several hours or even days between responses?

I know I know. I was so getting used to my many emails a day and now that I don't get any I am having withdrawal symptoms
Sad but true

llaj - how long have they been quiet for. some guys without dc actually have a life , and might go couple of days without checking their pof. waiting till they have a night in house to get back to it.

Evening all

Lou - you are a busy girl!

RJ - Pity about Cocktail but would love to see pirate. Is he really that bad??

ASBM - glad to see that all is going well and looking rosy for you

As for me, well I was talking to about 5 guys all going well, emailing a lot etc etc then all of a sudden EVERY single one of them stops talking. Have checked all my sent messages. Nothing wierd or rude so I am very confused

no it's fine with me, he isnt demanding, just tagging along really, i havent found it stressful

but its good to have a bit of a break

say yes

having seen mandolin man for thurs, fri, sat am, monday evening, tues and weds am, we are having some separate time today

dd1 is just back from portugal as well, so it's good timing

i will probably see him tomorrow i assume

asbm - glad you have a smile on your face you deserve it.

lou - wow, this is moving quickly with mandolin isn't it? is it ok with you? or is the demands on your time a bit much.

itm - oooh yes to lilly allen.

everyone else hope your having good day.

me.. well cocktail i think has given up. not heard from him again today. phew. marvel however txt again last night. i am now just going to completely ignore. will make things seem awkward when we bump into each other in RL, but he's bugging me now.

pirate - posted a different pic of himself on MSN, deffo not going to meet him. he's em....... on the wrong side of the looks scale. i would be throughly embarassed to meet with him.

everyone else seems quite quiet. and i'm still not in the mood to persue again since yesterday. quite enjoying the peace for a bit.

well, all except bigT, been texting random shite throughout the day to each other.

evening all, just checking in with everyone.

lunch tomorrow with my nm never thought I'd say that

he has asked me if I would like to see Lily Allen this weekend, what so you think shall I say yes

how is everyone else getting on with pof etc?

no lol, i think thats a teeny bit too much too soon

they were just asking him about me on the way to devon

so he told them

lou have you had the pleasure of properly meeting the folks yet?!

and i forgot to add he has told his family about me

though i think he could be

we were talking about how he had been single for a good few months and he said it was mostly by choice but he wants to spend the summer with someone

then we joked about how he could dump me just before xmas but not til he had his birthday (end october)

he stayed last night tho is on the sofa cos he couldnt sleep

ha ha ha!
hiya monty!!
and no i haven't but all i can say is he's putting a big smile on my face and all is going well tho i'm well down atm with dreadful pmt
all being well we'll go away for a few days when dcs go on their jollies next month with their dad

lol i said MM not nm

ahhh. so lou has nm. asbm and itm are contemplating the L word

ninah - are you back on serious with nm?

everyone else hi,

i've had a bit of a stenious day with nags this afternoon. dont feel in a talkative mood. so not contacting anyone of cybermen.

one i aded to msn ages ago who disappeared has contacted me twice today , wonder if he'd perhaps been seeing someone and its gone tits up and now he's back on radar?? shall call him the blacksmith due to his name.

cocktail and marvel all quiet today which is fab. cant be dealing with them today.

guy who went on holiday i forgot about is alright. checked his profile out.

BigT and enigma all quiet. which i'm also enjoying as just not in the mood.

hey lou he has been named the new man, cool, am happy for you.

have spent the day with mm, who is currently sitting on my bed again discussing whether or not he should bring his xbox 360 round for the boys to have a go on

he is going to stay for dinner

I dread coming on here after a few days, it takes so long to catch up, and yet I don't want to miss anything - rofl at rj and cocktail's gums, how funny, I can just imagine ...
itm are you OK? sounds like you've been having not such a good time. Did you talk to him about checking online? tho you are wise to say just concentrate on yourself and let the rest follow
scl seems like you and samename had bit of a breakthrough
and lou having nice time with mandolin man
well, asbm? Lurvve?
loved your question btw is it our cynicism that stops us being bowled over, or them ...
eve if staying was as good for me as it seems to be for you I'd never moan about lack of babysitters again. Must start smoking!
hello to everyone else
well my nm is back on again (sorry, is v erratic) met his family on Sunday, had a very nice day.

samename keeps on saying 'I don't love him anymore' in jest I might add. But it makes me feel quite uncomfortable and I just say nothing.

But I think that ASBM and ITM's new relationships sound a bit more serious. Would you wait for them to say it first or would you ever say it first?

I did tell exbf btw - sometime after he said I meant alot to him (couldn't work out what that really meant either)

ASBM?

PMSL

I shy away from the L word. Had so many say it to me very quickly for it to end just as quick. Usually me breaking it off but once the other way round and I was .

I have not said that word yet.

Seems like ASBM and ITM have common ground, atm early stages of long term romance in the making, perhaps.

I reckon since you have both come this far on our thread you should openly discuss if you have said the L word and all the little details.

rofl
stop making me blush lol

aww, am really pleased for you, everyone deserves to be loved, by the way have either of you mentioned the love word yet?

I am naughty aren't I?

ohhh itm lol
haven't even thought about that tho dd is hoping i'll marry him
tbh i now take the view in life that i really don't know what lies in store for me
remember i did lay it on the line fairly strongly from the off that it was just myself and the dcs and that i wasn't looking for anything more than going out every now and again
and look at me now!

I think thats my problem to asbm, missing him

I've forgotten what its like to date and I guess this is part of it.

I know its a bit soon but do you think you will end up living together?

well that's a relief to hear for you
i see mine according to his shift patterns last week was 4 times i think but imagine possibly this week will just be over the weekend unless he comes round during a week night.
and yes will hold my hands up here and admit that i am actually missing him now

he works nights so this does complicate things

he lives in maidenhead and I live in nooorth london

its about an hour by motor bike 1.5 by car

just a bit jealous of lou

itm - with great difficulty today i'm trying to study and had 2 on msn already, so they have now been blocked.

how far away does marathon man stay? and how often do you see him weekly? fortnightly? twice week?

morning all, how do you keep up with them all rj?

dd is much recovered and will probably be at school tomorrow, definitely not swine flu as I have heard that it can it quite horrible.

will be picking up ds from school today, I miss the little s**t when he is not here

so guys how often do you get to see your new men? marathon man is coming over for lunch on thursday, yeah but am not sure if he available for the weekend! Should it be classed as a ldr and if so how the hell does it work?

itm how is your dd feeling?
and has ds managed to avoid catching it?

rj that crown is sitting v pretty on your head atm

lol oops rj

morning all, well, bigT story has taken a turn. not sure what i shall do about it. waiting to get some more info before i make up my mind. but this one may be a non-starter. its all a bit complicated where his dd is concerned.

why is it sometimes you hear these kinda things and it makes you think the whole dating think is a bit of a pita. gonna put my head down for a few days and concentrate on the studying i think.

cocktail hasn't given up either. he know thinking i'm trying to "challenge" him to see if he's worthy.... nonononono i just dont fancy you in that way. trying to be gentle with him as he really is a lovely guy,but i may loose my patience.

pirate kept popping up till i unblocked him last night as we had agreed to chat last night. i just couldn't be arsed.made excuses about studying but said hi.

the farmer came for quick hello yesterday too.

jeeze no wonder i need a break.

oh and i was drunk last week and had a half canned conversation with another while replying 2 bigT. for some reason i gave him number. totally forgot. he sent me a message to say great to talk but he was at airport for flight and speak when he came back. .... well he's now back. i had completely fogotten about it in my drunken state till i got a text from "guy pof", will have to search back my email and see what i've done through alcohol.

mm is currently lolling about on my bed drinking a beer looking like he is about to nod off, pondering what film we should watch tonight, while i go for a bath

well ok they saw us having a little kiss yesterday so maybe they knowbut we tried to be discreet!
and yes chatted to rj earlier and received some good advice thanks again you're a star
ie leave things til exh has heard news then go from there so he can't throw any bigger tantrums than usual
all my friends tho are grinning like mad today!!

if my older ones are anything to go by, they call any bloke i am seen with more than once my bf (that's without them even staying over), so they may well come to their own conclusions

asbm, sounds good to me, is there any chance that they will be up before you?

Personally I would be worried that it might happen, so would maybe spend a bit more time with the dcs, maybe another weekend, before explaining that he is actually mummy's boyfriend and that he will be staying over in her bed

but that is just me

sounds ok to me

thanks rj and itm
hope i have made you feel a little easier about introducing mm to your dcs
mine are with me again this coming w/e so am wondering whether i should let him stay over?
obv.i wouldn't let them see that he'd be sharing my bed will have to make up the sofa bed iyswim then make sure we're up at the crack of dawn lol
does this sound a good idea?
any other suggestions welcome!
he is after all my friend haven't used the boyfriend word in front of the kids

llaj - glad you broke your drowt , will do wonders for your confidence i'd guess. leave it up to him. sounds like a nice bloke so you never know.

lou - good things still going with mandolin.

asbm - still really pleased for you.

itm - good luck with dc and nm.

eve <wave>

mandolin man just got in touch to say he is still in devon they stayed an extra day

which explains why i havent heard from him

I am not making any effort. Did all the effort on Sat night
Still keeping on the sites though. Much entertainment from them.
Ohh I do not mind the old one night stand. I liked him when I met him a few months ago so that is why I am overanalysing everything.
Thnks for the advice. Sometimes you just need someone to tell you what you alrady know.

asbm, have my mind on other things this morning, my dd is off school sick with flu like symptoms!

she should be ok in a couple of days, am more worried that ds will get it, and he is definitely on the at risk list, his dad had him last night and will also have him tonight to try and stop him getting the flu, but I don't hold out much hope

following your lead I am making plans to introduce the dcs to the nm, omg I never thought it would happen!!!!!!!

LLAJ I would just wait and see if he makes any effort to continue it. Whatever you do leave any further contact firmly with him. By all means see him again if this happens and you like him.

If not then chalk it up to a one night stand. These things happen ocassionally. Just brush it off and move on. Speaking from experience here

aww llaj, am so happy that you have at last managed to rid yourself of your celibacy

he sounds a nice guy, if I was you I would leave it up to him, he obviously likes you.

stop analysising and keep on pof, checking out your other options!

he will call, if he is into you.

Yes even the bacon and eggs did not help. I really am too old for the late night drinking and partying!

So now of course I am over analysing everything about the evening
- we had been flirting on and off all night
- he stayed and had lunch
- walked into town with me
- asked for my number
- offered to pay for the morning after pill (yes yes I know yery silly)

Sooo should I leave it as a one night stand or see if something could happen??

llaj
ewww absinthe shots too
jesus you must have felt rough on sunday
ewww my stomach is churning now at the thought of it

thanks itm
i'm walking around with a big smile on my face today
and yes the exh
how's things with you?
are you feeling brighter today?

Morning all
You all had busy weekends! I had three pages to catch up on.
Well yes I did messag the hot guy back. No reponse so far. Been asked for drinks by the PE teacher on POF so will say yes to that.
Umm not heard from Stelios for a few days so ???
ANNNDDDD went to party on satuday night (do not mix rose, pina coladas, barcadi and absinthe shots. Not a good morning does this make) and ended up sleeping with a guy there. Not the best ever but considering we were both drunk and it had been many many many years for me it was good to get back in the saddle (so to speak)

am so pleased it went well asbm

they liked him, he liked them, cant get any better than that

tell the arsehole ex to get real, and that life moves on without HIM.

aww thanks ladies
if it wasn't for all of you and my rl mates i'd just crumple lol
so thanks all so much!
and won't have to see exh for another week but ds1 will prob.have filled him in
not thru nastiness but obv joy at having a nice time with a bloke who takes an interest.
he never did
but conveniently does his grand gestures now ohh scl you're nodding your head knowingly!!

ASBM, don't discuss it with him when the s--t hits the fan.

Tell him it's your new fella and you wouldn't have introduced him to the kids if you didn't have faith. It's a move in the right direction.

sounds promising asbm

The prob with mac was that clock was showing wrong time and date which affected all other programs.

yes back to sincitylover [grin ]

ooh thread has been busy!!
hi sparky good to see you how you doing?
well they have met him and they like him
yay!!
just have to deal with shite from exh now

scl - ahhh that does seem better. has changing your name helped you mac's problems.

so.. cocktail is aware i def wont give him a chance but he is still in regular contact trying to be "friends" <sigh> wonder when he will get bored.

and i have added another to the list. we shall call him the enigma. he's quite bright. had a few bright email. great vocab. but when we went on msn he was trying to be a "cheeky chappy" type. i gave him an earful(should that be keyboard full as msn...anywho), normally i would just block. but told him to quit the cheek and be as he was on email. he apologised and said he for some reason goes into "front" mode. so he turned out to quite a nice gentleman.blamed his attitude on not dating since he was a bouncer (yes... another ex-bouncer.... if its not rugby it bouncers), and he had never tried the "nice" approach.

he was swiftly informed i wasn't after a "bad boy" type. no decent woman with half a brain keeps folowing that cycle. and that if he wanted to stand half a chance of reaching a date he would need to implement skills of respect, manners and best behaviour.

i was perhaps a bit harsh... ooops.

if anyone wants a nosey, send me an email. i have a pic of this one.

SCL, good move. Have sent friends request on FB.

decided to change my name back as everyone calls me that anyway

bumping so I can see

achieving !!

sparky - are you me - listening to sad songs on ipod late at night.

ITM - had similar prob the other week re samename going on site - in the end I removed my profile - had been planning to do that anyway and didn't ask him what he was doing there (tho had called him on it once before and felt like a pratt tbh).

I decided to focus on myself (IYKWIM) for a while rather than obsessing about someone else. As you know still seeing samename and he often makes little jokey comments about me and other men which I just don't rise to. So maybe they're sometimes insecure as well.

Think it's the same feeling I had when I was snooping on exh (when he was h) - in the end I stopped doing it because I felt it was doing my head in and not actually acheiving much - the relationship was going down the toilet anyway.

Just posting so I can see the updated posts on this thread -still having probs with mac!

no he doesnt live with them, he was there that night because he was joining them on a weekend trip to devon, he lives about 15 mins in one direction from me and they live about 20 the other

he is 32 , 10 yrs younger than me

ooooh lou - you love it really. lol. is he a "YOOOOUNG man" then if still living with his folks?

lol rj stoppit i am still chuckling

it reminds me of a date i had once ages and ages ago, with a guy who looked really really hot

BUT a soon as he smiled he he turned into some kind of mr bean lookalike, plus he had an annoying laugh

so that was that

when mm gets in touch i am going to tell him to come straight round to me for a bit

omg did i tell you his parents saw me dropping him there the other day , ready to go away? And when a bit later i went to pick him up, cos he wanted to spend the evening with me, he told them that i was on my way to get him, and they wanted me to stay for dinner!

we sped out of the drive, just in case his mum came dashing out asking me in for a cup of tea

couldnt not could kiss

ex decided to keep the lo. think it was perhaps just a reason to call and see where i was. i am supposed to be away this wkd to dublin remember , still he's supposed to have dc all wkd as his folks over. doubt it'll last as he now knows i'm here.

cocktail says we should meet as friends. and thinks i've been unfair as he only had 2 hrs to impress him. he's insistant his dancing will persuade me otherwise (how can dancing remove my gaze from gums?), dont think we could meet again as pretty sure he would try make a move. and i could possibly kiss those gums. the thought would give me the bowk.

sparky - dont always "get loads of attention", but i do tend to ...em... we call it "adopting people" when i go pub crawl i tend to end up adding strangers onto our crawl.

Morning ladies, just catching up! rj, will you see him again? I know gums/teeth are very important and have to be right - not perfect but just OK. Do you always get loads of attention when you go out? Great! imt, I did much the same as you last night re: ex but worse and tried phoning him! Had been out with a friend and downed a bottle of wine in record time and decided I missed him really badly. Thank the lord he didn't reply and of course I witheld my number so he wouldn't know it was me (but of course he did). Then I went to bed and listened to sad music on my ipod and the tears were trickling back into my hair and I missed his lovely body and his smell blah blah blah and this morning I've woken up and thought, what was all that about! As for checking to see if guys have been logged in, it's a minefield. My advice is, just don't do it!

Got nice messages from 2 out of the 3 guys on Encounters (the 3rd one is an arse) - one is cycling round Ireland as we speak, a classics teacher from Yorkshire so geographically impossible but lovely. The other has a 10 year old DD like me and I really like what he says and he doesn't live too far away. Not my usual type though, which is dark and rugged (the last one was an Irish carpenter) - he's fair and is wearing a suit in his photo (for which he apologizes) but perhaps that's good. I always go for slightly unconventional-looking men who end up having no money and are generally hopeless.

Anyway happy Sunday ladies, have friends to lunch so need to start the chicken.

morning all, we are up making pancakes for breakfast and I am fine this morning

I have no doubts about marathon man, its just my own insecurities coming out after too much red wine!!!!

keep smiling lou

rj, hope the little one is fine

itm waves at eve

no, they were so bad that even when he was simply talking they were waving at me,

i'm a bit of a freak about teeth. dodgy noses i can handle. satelite ears...fine, but teeth have to nice or at very least normal.

i think i'm getting picky and shallow in my young age

from what i could tell he had a nice body, (ex-rugby), and i could have wore little heels and he would have been taller.

but.... those gums...... nope, cant ever get past them.

my charming ex has just called to say ds has been puking up everywhere. he's bringing dc back ithink. oh yeee-bloody-ha

RJ gums are OK if they only show when something is really funny, reckon I have a gummy laugh. lol. But see what you mean in general smiling. OMG go with the vibes.

OMG I took too long to post that. See it's moved on. Lou, keep that grin. I'm grinning for you.

ah rj, glad the night went well ?

do you think you could get over the gums issue or not? methinks not!

friends on your terms only, ie if you really have nothing else to do but call him!!!! can't see it happening myself!

(I'd have got the bar mans number myself

but thats what the online dating thing is all about, weeding out those which aren't quite right.

night night

itm too.

Dont know what to say but SCL might have a bit of input. Trouble is if you meet the guys through this median then chances are this is still open to them and to you also. When to cut ties is an indivdual choice, yours and theirs.

Kid, sweety shop, srings to mind, but if they feel this way then they are not worth your time. After a few dates you need to have the convo are you still looking? No, then we both delete our profiles. Kick them into touch, if they are then so are you.

its ok itm, i am feeling in a rather good mood so will spread a bit your way

am off to sleep with a silly grin on my face lol

sorry i am still rofl @ the gum comment!

bless you lou, thanks for replying, am in a boshi mood!!!!!

have turned my phone off for the moment, he does send the sweetest txts, but right now am not up for any sweet talk!!!

am sure I'll be much calmer in the morning, night night all x x

itm - perhaps he got a message and just rading it.

scl - some people you will always hold a small candle for. it's not a bad thing. but doesn't mean its right.

"better to have loved(or enjoyed) then never loved at all"

i'm back from date with cocktail. got last train home by myself. that was the plan. he's lovely. very genuine , honest and truly great guy.

but.... has too big a set of gums. gosh... think i'm getting picky. but, in his photo they weren't aparent. in RL, everytime he spoke i was staring at them.

he was a true gent, and i really enjoyed myself.

but it must have been obvious i wasn't that way interested. as i got chatted up on 3 seperate occasions when cocktail went to bar and/or toilet.

1 stag group even invited me to join them.

oh dear. my trouble is i just cant keep my mouth shut when there's loud , cheeky group beside. me.

cocktail has text to say he had a lovely night and really enjoyed my outgoing manner and had a great time as we were talking to lots of people , shame he didn't realise those groups were having a laugh and as soon as he went off someone was trying it on.

i kid you not, i even was standing at bar and the bar(we wnt to 5 bars) and 1 was talking to an old lady wanting whisky recommendation and admiring the bar staff, before i knew it the barman was telling me he used to work in glasgow same time as me, and we got yacking.cocktail came back, then when cocktail went away again he asked if he was my boyf .

does he know i'm a mother of 2!!! the brazen hussy of a barman!!

i've already told cocktail i'm not interested in a boyf/golf manner, now he wants to be friends. <sigh> what can i say without hurting the feelings of a genuinely "nice" lovely bloke that wont put him off birds for life??

itm

i tried saying hi on fb but you didnt reply

am off to bed now but didnt want you having no response on here

best thing is to ask him if he has been on the site at all recently and see what he says

careful tho he may ask why you were on there as well

hope you sort it out

hi all, i believe this thread helps me rid me of my demons, so will continue to express my emotions as they come !!!!!!

have had a lovely evening with the kids and a friend and her kids, but have made the mistake of going on exs facebook account and seeing his new partner! God she is so much younger than me!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then went on frd anonymously and marathon man has logged on in the last week, I know it is probably innocent but right now am not feeling in the mood to be magnanimous.

Anyway dont care about anyone right now they can all go to hell, night night all.

scl he is back tomorrow evening i think but i am not sure what time

he has no reception where he is, and has said he will get in touch if/when he has coverage to get in touch (the text i sent him this morning still hasnt been delivered)

i assume he will either see me tomorrow evening or monday after work

It's still doing it so if I post now will see if anyone else is posted

SCL, Ive catted you.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

now I'm chatting to myself lol

don't seem to get on msn much these days.

when are you seeing mandolin man again lou?

seems I can only see updated posts if I keep posting. Hmm

yes without wishing to repeat myself I can remember the first time I saw exbf and thought I had been struck by a thunderbolt. This was in 1990!!!

If you met him you would prob wonder why - he is fairly good looking, quite short and must appear to most to be fairly average. But I fell very hard for him then, we went out for about eight months (even talked about having dcs) then split - no major reason - in fact we can't agree what the reason was. But no major fallout.

Got back in touch in 2002 then didn't hear again till 2007. And have been in touch since then.

I like the profound stuff.

It must be the strange energy. lol

I have that problem with my phone in my house. On orange and I have to wave it around to get a signal. So annoying when you need to communicate instantly.

and now they're back - stranger and stranger

I think we have gremlins here tonight - the sky box went loopy, I sent a text which said it was delivered and then appeared in my outbox with a red warning sign through now the last three or four posts including my double post has disappeared from this thread.

Weird

It's hard getting over a signifant ex. The hardest times I've had are being with someone when I haven't been ready to move on. Feel so bad for the guy that I just couldn't give him what he needed. However, people come into our lives for a reason. That could be the trigger for them to find happiness with the next person who is emotionally available for them. Gosh this is a bit profound for a Sat night.

Lou, yes I've had a very sociable night staying in on my own. lol, and not online but I enjoyed our chat earlier, as usual.

Doc hasn't been online.

oops posted twice - told you I was having problems and just cut off DS1 from his PS3!!

I'm still here e ve just having a few technical probs.

When things like that happen it's uplifting isn't it? And lucky you going on hols.

To answer your question yes it's alot of headspace but situation with workhubby is not complicated because if he won't accept just friends then we will have to not be friends unfortunately.

With exbf - yes it's been alot of headspace for the past two years but so be it. I am more in control than I was.

So Samename appears to be nice quite sweet guy but I wil still be treading carefully with him. Maybe he really is that uncomplicated LOL

i think sometimes we just have to accept that certain feelings never die and ewe just have to deal with them

same with me and exbf

doesnt mean we cant feel for others though

eve your evening sounds busy !

SCL, yes feels like good energy, if there is such a thing.

Samename, sounds like its worth hanging on in there and after so long you have a right to have these deeper chats, to get to know the real person. As for the ex, it does fade in time. Hold that thought and keep the distance if he won't give you what you need.

No I'm still here eve but having probs with computer.

Those sorts of things that happen unexpectedly are really uplifting. Lucky you going on hols.

To answer your question yes it is a lot of headspace - tbh workhubby is not a problem as I am quite clear where the boundaries are and if he can't accept that then we can't continue to be friends.

exbf does take headspace but so be it.

We'll see about samename. He appears to be a very nice guy possibly a bit insecure (from what he was saying last night)

I know I'm chatting to myself here, however, I've had a strange night in tonight. Apart from chatting over msn to my friend, you know who you are, I had two hour long calls catching up with mates.

Stood outside to have a cig and met an ex colleague and his gf so had a chat with them.

Then decided that I might run out of cigs so walked 2 mins to the shop. Met a guy I hadn't seen for years so had a chat with him. Walked out and met a car full of girls I knew from the hen night so had a chat with them. Turns out one is going to the same resort as me next week. Then walked a bit further and got winked at by a lovely young man on the opposite pavement. Let it go. Then walked past a garden party and I knew them too so had a chat. Phew!

Staying in is the new going out. Wonder what else will happen on my quiet night to myself.

Hope I havent bored you all. Just in a good mood and felt like sharing.

lost or scl the name I know you by. That sounds like a lot of headspace, no wonder you are confused. Sounds like you and samename are working it out. It's been a while now so concentrate on it.

and now just have to decide what to do abt workhubby (male (attached) friend from work who I rebuffed for years, we are now friends (since about January this year) but he also appears to have amorous intent - can't deny I am slightly flattered by his attentions but do not intend to go there but want to remain friends)

and exbf is still in touch sporadically (has just been ill) and still occupies my thoughts - I will always have strong feelings for him. I do believe they will never go away.

Hmm. Life is strange

yes I think we made a small breakthrough in that we were able to talk quite honestly about our rship.

thats good news scl

I also like the go with the flow idea.

Met samename last night and for the first hour I had this really sinking feeling but on reflection it was just that we were both tired and stressed and hot from a busy week.

As the evening progressed it got better and it was more real than it has been before IYKWIM. We did have quite a frank if tipsy talk and basically he said is happy with the limited amount I can offer him (told him I thought he really wanted someone who can see him more regularly and give him more attention)

), he really likes me etc etc And generally he is taking the lead from me as he could sense I was holding back (emotionally).

He stayed over and today we just did a bit of shopping and pottered around. I actually really enjoyed it. Still not sure what it is or where it's going but it's fine for now.

rj has the same attitude as me about dating

oh hell no, its usually the ones i initiate contact with that i end up going on actual date with.

i always send a message though.dont add as favourite.

i dont state what i'm after at all really. my profile states i'm after someone part time as busy. but i make it clear i'm not on the website for sexual encounters once i get chatting to someone and feel it may get to a date. if they dont like it they can lump it and obviously not right for me.

fwiw, i have kittens at the thought of living with someone. and dont want to ever get married, and have never been married. have openly admitted this, but some men see this as a challange to change my views

i go on every date (not had that many btw), with the view to have a few hours in company of someone who i've got a fairly good idea will be enjoyable as i've enjoyed the conversations we've built up through email,text,msn and calls first.

if anything else comes of it then i just go with the flow.

Hi RJ - so I assume you never intitiate contact either then? What I meant when I said nothing serious, is getting too involved too quickly. I'd like to form a friendship first and get to know them really well, then maybe have sex and then think about long-term. But I'm not sure if I ever want to get married/live with anyone again.

As for nicknames, we'll see!

sparky - hi, i like the way you call it fun. it should be fun.

beware if you say your not looking for anything serious. this could attract those looking for "intimate encounter", and scare off those "nice" blokes who dont sleep around.

personally i hate it when someone adds me as a favourite without contact first. as its kind of stalkerish i feel . just my opinion i suppose. but creeps me out knowing they want to be able to check up when i'm online without bothering to contact me.

when someone adds me without contact i delete them straight off. i tend not to add anyone as a favourite either if i'm in contact with them as i find it tempting to go check up when they are online. tbh i dont want to know as will be off putting if they are obviously online checking out other people yet no mailing me at that point.

but i'm sure others use the favourite facility differently to me.

i have no problem with someone adding me as a favourite if i'm in contact.

so do you have nicknames for your 3 potentials?

and i often talk to someone online. then for whatever reason dont feel there's a need to meet them as i wouldn't be interested in them in that way. but can have some great convo's with people all the same along the way.

Can I join in the fun please? (aseriouslyblonde, you suggested I did a few weeks back when I posted about my BF disappearing into the wild blue yonder).
Seems like you're all enjoying yourselves and that's what I've decided to do. So got myself back online a couple of days ago and have already had messages from 3 nice men.

I'm divorced and 51 and only broke up with DP of one year(also met online) a month ago and am not desperate for a full-on thing right now, just a bit of fun (not sex straight away) and friendship. I've been a naughty girl and lied about my age (knocking off a whole 3 years) because most men seem to cut off at 50, even if they're older themselves! I reckon it's only a white lie and I won't ever have to come clean, because I'm not into anything serious at the moment.

I have a question about initiating contact with men. I used to do it in the past but now think I'd rather leave it to them. I find that if someone adds you as a favourite and then you add them, that gives them the courage to initiate contact themselves. Is it OK to add someone as a favourite first and then see if they add you? I'm not in the least bit old-fashioned but I've come to the conclusion that the men who do the running are the ones worth considering. And how many of you are just content to flirt a bit online and not be too bothered if you meet someone?

rj have a nice time

morning ladies he went this morning, he is back tomorrow evening

we had another really nice time together

i would definitely not um and ah over having a relationship with him, like i did over darkhorse

morning all, i did ask tigger if he wanted to go out last minute, he's gone and got his extraction infected. doing the typical man thing of ignoring and hoping it bgets better. wonder how long he will last before he's in A&E as its agony and the wkd now. (he did admit to smoking few hrs after it was done though, not really suprised it got infected) antibiotics anyone.

i ended up just staying in and catching up with my brother. both dc are a bit under the weather as they got 2 immunisations each on thurs so up and down like yo yo's.

quite excited for my date with cocktail tonight (even though cant wear heels)

going to cancel my date on sunday with morangie man. realised yesterday his chat is pleasant and all, but not quite witty enough for my liking. think even for coffee i would be bored. and not keen on the fact he's lied about his size either tbh. there is always the option of "prefer to not say" rather than deceiving.

asbm - lol@ kids grilling you.

llaj - did you send him a message?

any other dates on this wkd?

itm - you seeing marathon man?
lou - when is mandolin man away?

llaj have some faith lol
i have just had a brief talk about weekend plans with the kids and mentioned meeting my friend
ohh kids are more savvy then we think
have already been grilled
omg only used the friend word here lol

yeah my photo looks like me now. Just very shocked thats all.

does your photo look like you do now?? if so then just bloody message him.

i'm not a size blooming 8 but doesn't stop me. lol.

my brother has just said he's coming round to baby sit which i wasn't expecting as its has sat usually this week. i'm swaying between asking my friend what time she finishes work... or informing tigger i'm free, see if his sore tooth can handle some chat. and if he can get a sitter at such short notice?

should i ask??????

but he is HOT! Im not. I am no longer buxom skinny and blonde (oh I wish I was 22 again) Surely he clicked on the wrong person by mistake?

mandolin man is v enjoyable yes, in fact i only got back an hour ago and now he is asking if he can come round here , cos he is at his family home overnight not far away

just for a couple of hours not to stay i mean

also i just got an email from darkhorse apologising for hurting me

i dunno what i should say to that lol

send him a message lady.

Well you can tell the state of my self esteem when a quite good looking guy winks at me and I think its a joke...

itm - tigger. hmm. will we meet i dont know. he's an odd fish. very hard to read. he had already asked me to meet. but got a tooth out 2 days ago. and still cant eat or speak. so date is very much on hold till he's feeling better.

there's a bit of cat and mouse going on. me saying he's not getting my time, him saying he doesn't want it. our running joke is we're both extremely busy and finding time to meet is not going to happen.

he def wont be a smitten puppy type. and i'm giving him a hard time, which he quite likes. lol.

at first getting him to talk was troublesome as you say about yoskshire men. very short answers, but witty,

today he's been better though.we talked cars , and off he went on msn quite happily yakking on.

asbm - is 5 the magic number? i'm at 2 online and one RL that have gotten further than a single date. so i need to meet 2 of my current POF selection before i meet the one i might keep.lol. thats not looking good for cocktail on sat?

eve - its not to late to be hit by the luck of the thread?

aww eve you are so lovely!!
and you will meet some extremely lovely man v.soon
i am extremely optimistic for all of us on here
have been out with 5 other blokes since this thread started so i guess it just goes to show that it's still v.much trial and error
with the emphasis firmly on the latter in my case

Just had a quick scan as I'm at work!! Thank god it's Friday.

Asbm, Itm and Lou appear to have cracked it recently. RJ I'm sure one of these guys will be right for you.

I'm too busy planning for my hols. Decided to wipe the slate clean of no hopers, not that there has been much going on.

Just a comment on being cautious, question was, is it us or the men we are with?

I had years of being cautious until I met someone last Nov, from pof. All caution was thrown to the wind and even though it didn't work out I was glad I could feel like that again. So IMHO it took the right man, or so I thought. Wish this thread had started at that time. I could have had a field day.

gosh, rj that crown is definitely staying with you for the immediate future

are you going to be meeting this one?

I reckon farming types are a bit of all right, they don't mind getting a bit dirty!

My bil is from Yorkshire, finds it difficult to communicate with us women, I can count the conversations we have had on one hand, and I have only known him 13 years!!

haha, no he's got a few pics on his profile where he's in suit, or smart casual, or just jeans and shirt. although. he does have wellies i presume as still does farm work

I used to live in Yorkshire and some of the men could speak words with more then two syllables. Some could even tie a tie and cook something other then pot noodles. Avoid the ones in flat caps and cord trousers and wellies though

he's farm stock too. so will probably be quite choocter type.

think emmerdale lol

i know. i had a wee laugh at that too.

bit of a weird update. so... tigger, yee of farmer come entrepenaur(sp?) come lone parent...... is from yorkshire originally?

what are yorshire folk like? anyone from that area? lol. only yorkshire man i know is my friends dad. who's aparently a "typical yorkshire" he moans at his misses shopping habit, is tight fisted, drinks lots of beer, but is very very nice old man imo.

don't wash the belt
wtf?!

i paid £40 for this belt

different shade of brown. more a tan colour to go with boots i already have.

one of the tops were £65 down to £15. most expensive top was £22. serious bargains.

omg that's good going!
i do so love a bargain me esp.my lables lol

bargain TB stuff too. was at the outlet. some of the tops i seen still selling in the proper full price store in glasgow too.

but odd that? full price in one place. discounted in livi. but i'm not complaining. just glad i held out till i visited livi.

ohhh lush
i know you will

i am getting excited. we're going into edi now so we can both have a drink and get seperate trains home before too late.

he's quite a fun chap. have been out with the intention of buying 1 new top.

but it was one of those days where i actually seen stuff i liked and in my size. so i got 5 tops in ted bakers, 2 pairs trousers, lovely TB belt, flat shoes(cocktail is same height afterall so no killer heels), and lovely jewellery
think i got a bit carried away. but i will look fabulous hopefully.

hi rj!
are you all excited about tomorrow's hot date?
love your description of our ideal man!!
and let's face it exh will not be pleased regardless of how i play things
but thanks to the support of you lovely lot and my rl mates i know that i'll ride this one

well i've been divorced for almost a year now tho it took over a year to complete
have you started divorce proceedings yet?

lou - also pleased for mandolin man is turning out to be a nice experience.

itm - i really am delighted for you. and also cant believe it was so long ago as feb. wow we really have been on this thread for a while.

asbm - i think its great the way you have the opportunity to introduce him at this local thing as a friend first. you can continue on the friebnd thing for a while with him visiting the house before dc need to know otherwise. that would probably be taken better by exh also. not that it matters. but anything for an easier life eh?

sunshine - thats like askinghow long is a piece of string.

but the generall