Long story, been divorced from ex-h for over 4 years now and my dd hasn't seen him since she was 5 months, his choice because he couldn't stand seeing me and I wouldn't just hand her over without me (he has a history of violence). I've basically had no contact with him since, no money from him, I've paid off all the debts he left me with which has been hard work and I've just about finished paying it all. That may sound stupid but I didn't want any contact with him if I could help it, didn't want any more emotional blackmail and him threatening me. In my eyes it was worth the money just to be away from him.
Today I found out through the friend of a friend that he got remarried almost a year ago and somehow that's just depressed me. I didn't want him back at all but it feels so wrong that he's getting on with his life, with a new wife, good job and money while I haven't even had one date and struggle to scrape by. After the way he behaved to me I just wanted him to be miserable the rest of his life, not having everything go well for him.
I'm happy I've done the decent thing and looked after my dd and paid the bills but it would have been nice to hear he was single and homeless too Now I feel partly stupid for not pursuing him for maintenance because I could do with the money and he should pay, but I still want to leave it because the thought of using his money disgusts me.
Dunno how to feel or what to do, anyone been in a similar situation?
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antartica · 16/02/2008 19:13
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