should i give my job up?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

I am really, really struggling keeping down a job and with the kids, and I would just love to give my job up.

I have been through a huge amount lately so for months I havent been myself. I feel like I have had the stuffing knocked out of me, and feel I would like to find myself again.

I have had time off work , which helps. But my job is to help people. Long term I dont have the energy to stay in the job.

I know i can give the job up (the jobcentre would be supportive as we have been through a very tough time)

but i would have to pay some of my rent from income support and my kids wouldnt stay for school dinners-so I wouldnt even get full income support. i also need to find £10 per week bus fare to get them to school. (school is 1 and a half miles away)

i just need to give my job up and do courses etc to find myself again-but am absolutly terrified if i couldnt cope financially.

also really scared i would lose my house as it is privatly rented.

I feel really stuck, as Im not happy (so kids wont really be) but if I gave my job up and do courses for a year then kids will miss out financially.

I have thought about looking for another job, but I am so lucky to have this as it fits in perfect with the kids. (my kids are a bit clingy as they have been through a lot) so dont really want to unsettle them with new childminders etc

Its horrible trying to balance everyones needs all the time.

If i won the lottery i wouldnt work for a year to recharge my batteries and suiut myself.

But I also have pride and loved the fact that i support my kids-and I hate dealing with jobcentres etc as they always have an attitude!

i cant win!!!

[pirategirl]

is there any chance you could claim incap, it would give you more money per week. I expect you could only do this by appraoching your Dr, and saying you just cannot envisage working full time for the shortterm, but more than you would be allowed in sick pay/weeks? iyswim?

Have you any history of depression or stress on record. If you ar enot coping then this could be a way for you to get time for you to recharrge and reasses.

So are you saying that the job centre would let you give up your job and go straight on to bens? I gues becuase you have the children you would be allowed to do this?

Find out form your local housing bens office what the top rate is that they would pay on your property in bens. Don't forget you will still get your child tax credit, plus inc support or incap, plus child bens.

If you are really feeling this way, then maybe you should just do it.

I don't know anything about the school bus thing.

If you are on low income you would get freee school dinners tho.