Isn't 5 too young for sleepovers?

[tetti]

My girl has been asked by a classmate if she'd like to sleep over on night.I dk,but I just don't feel comfortable about letting her do sleepovers yet.
At home she wakes up most night,either asking for a drink,wanting to go to the loo etc etc.But my ex goes-She never wakes up at mine,of course she can have a sleep over!
But I don't know the parents of this girl at all,and my daughter has never played with her outside school.
I'm more than happy with her going on playdates,but sleep over's?
Is it just me being unreasonable,or do I have a point in that she might be too young for that?

[Wisteria]

I would want to meet the parents and the other child first, as you say for a play date etc.

Mine went on sleepovers at 5 but only when I knew the parents.

[Othersideofthechannel]

DS is nearly 5 and I would be happy for him to sleep over at a friend's house if I knew the parents and had already been to the house.
But not otherwise.

[gladbag]

I agree with you. I think sleepovers at that age are fine if it is family, or really good friends where you know the adults very well, and your child does too. My ds (nearly 4) has stayed over, but his friend's mum is a a great friend of mine who I trust implicitly, and who has known ds since he was a baby. I would say no to anything else. HTH

[Hulababy]

I think it is to young for children you don't particularly know. We stick to playdates only for those.

DD is 5 and has had sleepovers here and at a couple of friend's houses - but these are friends where DH and I are also friends with their parents.

[princessosyth]

I think 5 is too young. I started sleepovers when I was about 9 and it was much more fun, we would sneak down to the kitchen and have midnight feasts. I don't really see the point at 5.

[Wotz]

class mates at 5 having sleep overs...you don't know the parents or have been to their house? NO.

[luvaduck]

agree - would feel unconfortable if you don't know the parents well or trust them with your life!

[tetti]

What's waht my thoughts are exactly.Should the parent(s) been close friends of mine,people who'm I know I could trust implicity with my child,then it would be an entirely different matter.I dk anything about the parents,and I just can't trust my daughter to be left with someone who'm I don't know,some may call that paranoid,but I much rather be overprotective than having something happen to my child...

[mummyfantastico]

I agree, my dd who is nearly 5, and her friend have had a few sleepovers at ours or theirs, but I know her parents really really well, and know she'll be fine.
If one of her class mates invited her i think i'd say no til she's older.

[TheHonEnid]

dd2, 5, has had a sleepover but only a trusted mates house and with dd1

[luvaduck]

well said tetti. just not worth the risk.
how are you going to get out of it?

[newgirl]

one of my dd's friends asked her for a sleepover but i dont know the family at all

i said very kindly 'that will be fine when you are both 8!'and then invited her for tea

[tetti]

Yes,I told the mum(and very kindly too)-I am more than happy for the girls to have playdates,but in (my daughter's name) case,I think she'll have to be a little bit older before she spends a night away from her mummy:-)