Xh and I have been seperated for about 4 months, he had been seeing someone else for a few months before he left.
Before xmas he saw our dds a handful of times, which was his choice.
He has now seen them twice since christmas (including today) and has asked to have them for the next 2 sundays, which I agreed to.
But today he told dd1 who is 10 to ask if they can stay overnight next saturday as well.
I'm annoyed because we already had plans for the saturday night, going to stay at my sisters house, dd1 doesn't want to have to choose between them, and i don't want to let anybody down.
I think xh should have spoken to me first, especially as before xmas when i asked if he could start seeing them regularly for their sakes, i also suggested that it wasn't fair to the girls to have to sleep over with a stranger there, especially as dd2 has been waking most nights to come in my bed. He agreed at the time.
He also doesn't seem to enjoy spending time with them, today during the 7 hours he had them they watched 2 films, some programmes on sky, and he went on line to look for a new car while they played upstairs.
The other problem I have with dds sleeping over is that today is the first time he's had them and not taken them to mcdonalds, and in the 2 meals he gave them, they only got 2 portions of fruit/ veg. I don't mind the odd treat, but on the whole the dds have a healthy diet which they enjoy, and i don't want them to start getting a regular 2 days of crap diet, as it's not good for them.
Any advice would be welcomed.
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mummyfantastico · 28/01/2008 04:49
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