stressed and just feel worn out! how do i recharge my batteries with no support?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

its so exhausting just coping with work, kids and trying to keep a house half decent and eat healthy meals

im taking a few days of work, as i feel so irritable and defo need to recahrge my batteries

but im not getting much time to myself (im typing this very rushed!) i said to my kids im having a bath-i was interrupted about 15 times with them asking me stuff through the door! they had a problem with the ps2 and were trying to sort it out,

how do i reacharge my baterries if i cant offlaod them for a few days? i cant even think straight as im typing this, so i hope it makes sense

[wildfish]

No idea! When you find out let me know And this is from someone with 1 DS and has family support.

Seriously house is where I let it go, take some time of work, and sleep a bit early (but there is just so much needing doing!). I think its a case of stop worrying and let only deal with priorities, demote the less important items (easier to preach than do) and enjoy time with the kids.

[ProfessorGrammaticus]

Take pains to eat loads of fruit and go to bed at 9.30 for a week.

[allgonebellyup]

Does your ex not take the kids away at weekends, so you can have a break? Sorry dont know your situation..
(i love my weekends, its the only break i get from the dc)

[Aimsmum]

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[Lmccrean]

What age are your dc? Is there any clubs nearby that you could send them to? DD does basketball and rainbows - with insurance and weekly fee, it works out about £50-£60 each a year (most will let you pay insurance in installments) and thats takes her out for 2 1/2 hours a week during school terms- well worth it imho.

Try bulk cooking and FLYing (both seem popular round here.)

Gotta go start work, but will come back on in my lunchbreak if pc free, otherwise Ill be back on tonight.

[mogs0]

What's FLYing?

If you are near I'll have your dc for a weekend!! (I'm in S Wales)

My house is always a tip and I can never get on top of it enough to feel comfortable with it. As long as the lounge, bathroom and kitchen are decent I can tolerate the rest becuase no-one else sees the mess in the other rooms!!!

I agree with the bulk cooking. Or get a slow cooker, chuck your ingredients in in the morning and it'll be ready when you get home for tea!

[AMAZINWOMAN]

Thanks for your kind replies.

I am fairly organised-but will buy the slow cooker and try that.
Its more the constant giving, giving and even more giving that i find wears me out.
My kids, both like different things and are in different clubs-

as for an early night they sleep at 11 and are up at 7!!ffs-so i never really switch off
which is what i suppose makes me so tired

their dad is dead
and my family are so selfish-they alwawys make excuses not to help, and they dont have any kind of relationship with the kids

i need me time!!

i miss being me, as im a mum and a worker
thinking about taking the week off-just to do nothing! the thought of it is just bliss

i see no ens t oi

[Bellavita]

How old are your dc's?

Have you not got a trusted friend who could take them off your hands for a couple of hours?

at your family, they should be ashamed of themselves.

[Lmccrean]

Where abouts are you AW? And what age are your dc? And do you work full time or part time?

Im a single mum, and work part-time and also babysit a friends dc 1-3 days a week in exchange for childcare from her/her hubby when Im at work.

Any close friends who you could swap childcare with? Ill watch yours one afternoon/evening, you do another? If your kids get along, then will be out from under your feet when at yours, as theyll be too busy!

I also worked out that if I worked full time, id be worse off, onced I take travel and childcare etc into consideration. Can you cut back on your hours?? (obv major decision, but your sanity is pretty important!)

Or are they old enough to say, look, its time for new rules - in your bedroom by 9pm? (Had to do this with dd who was also only going to sleep at 11. After a month or so, she started going to sleep earlier and earlier. Tonight it was 10pm woohoo!)

Mogs0 - check out goodhousekeeping topic - Flylady threads - Ive just joined it on MN after stopping it last year for variety of reasons, but determined to reclaim my home. It also tells you to schedule in time for yourself)

[Lmccrean]

And why cant you take a few days off??