Okay, this might be slightly controversial and would be a total last resort having been thru some awful crap since being 6.5m pg so be gentle with me!
H had mental breakdown when I was 6.5m pg and has been a very erratic presence since.
dd now 2.3 and last year he saw her about 8 times apart from a week in march when he helped out as i had to study.
since then contact has been virtually non-existant and very very erratic. he will not discuss regular contact and agree regular times etc. he goes months without seeing dd then comes for a day (supervised contact always) and promises to be more "present" etc then doesn't come again for weeks on end.
dd adores him - no surprise there then!
i am seeing a divorce sol soon and i am seriously considering refusing access until he applies for a contact order.
i feel he will only take it seriously if he has to put some effort into it and if he does that then i can take some assurance that he will stick to what the court orders.
has anyone done this before?
i have no other grounds for refusing access. he is not a danger to me or dd and when he's here he's great with her. i wouldn't want unsupervised access tho as his mental issues have involved several periods where he has gone totally missing etc.
i just want regular, agreed access and i feel if he has to actually go to court to apply for it he will take it seriously.
if he doesn't and he never sees her again then at least she won't grow up waiting by the door for daddy to not show.
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Paddlechick666 · 26/01/2008 13:24
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