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what a mess, what a mess

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snotbuster · 25/01/2008 22:28

I've 'lurked' on this board for ages but never posted before. Have been a single parent for 18 months (DS is now 2.2). I took out a restraining order against xp last May, due to a history of his aggression towards me.
This week xp was involved in a horrible accident (can't go into details here). He rang me from the hospital (we have been speaking, as need to communicate about DS) and I rushed there straight away. I ended up taking him in for two days as the staff said he couldn't go home alone. It's been really difficult having him here and coping with the wierd range of emotions. This afternoon we had a blazing row and now he's gone. DS is distraught - had just about got used to having Daddy here- and I'm a mess. To make it worse my dissertation (for my degree) is due in very soon and have wasted all week on him rather than getting it done. Just feel like I'm never going to learn, he's never brought me anything but trouble (and a beautiful son). Just venting here I think, but if anyone's got any advice I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

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corblimeymadam · 25/01/2008 22:36

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ChipButty · 25/01/2008 22:39

You did what most of us would have done in the situation, so don't beat yourself up. However, he's gone now so you have to be practical: Firstly, keep giving your son all the love, cuddles and reassurance you can - he'll bounce back very quickly. Secondly, get on to the university, explain your situation and get an extension on your dissertation due date. Best of luck. xx

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Missmuggins · 25/01/2008 22:45

You did what you thought was right at the time, you took him in when he needed help. Good on you.

You will get your dissertation done in time because you have to! You've got even more reason to get there now, you haven't got this far by sitting back and letting shit get in the way. You'll do it again.

Best of luck.

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snotbuster · 25/01/2008 22:49

Thank you all. Suppose I feel a bit guilty that I could only manage to be nice for 48 hours before losing it with him (he's really quite unwell), but I'm just not the right person to be helping him. You're both right, jura and chipbutty, just have to get on with it all now (as usual!). Thanks - and to you belgianbun.