Right,my ex left me last year after 12 years together.He'd never been much of a dad,and we weren't what you'd call a happy family.I had to force him to give our daughter a bath,read her a story etc,and he never even took her to the park or to any other activities as he always had a blooming dvd to watch that was more important,or was sitting playing with his xbox,and could not be interupted,wow,dad of the year!
Anyway,he has now started to have her every other weekend,BUT,he refuses to come and collect her early in the day.He turns up at 3pm,sometimes even at 6(and our daughter gets upset every time,wondering why he doesn't want to spend more of his time with her-Why does he have to come so late?,she says with a really sad look on her face).
On night she cried her heart out,for the record,she is only 5.-My dad's a stranger,she sobbed,he never wants to see me.And he has no toys at his place so I never have anything to do when I'm there.
She cried so hard I started to cry to in the end,to see a little girl have so much hurt...
So,the next day I sent him an email as he was at work,telling him that he needs to make much more of an effort with her as she's heartbroken over not seeing enough of her dad.
His reply?-Nah,Saturdays is the only day I can clean,so if you want me to look after her for more of the day,you have to drop her off at mine and collect her the next day!(now,he lives in a different part of the city,almost 2 hrs away by public transport,and no,I don't drive).
I thought he was taking the piss real bad.And as for the toys?-Nah,my flat's too small,I can't have any toys lying around here!(what?Not even a small box with a few toys in?)
Also,the weekends she doen't stay over at his,he takes her out on the Saturday,comes at about 2 pm and brings her back about 3 hrs later,wow,what an effort!
This weekend I needed to know what time he'd be around as I have lots of things on and need to make plans-No,no,no,I can't give you a time,I get there when I get there,ok?!
If you don't like it,you bring here over here yourself,ok?!
I can't make any plans whatsoever,and,my daughter really wants to know what time she'll see her dad,but he doesn't give a damn about that.It''s really starting to grate on me real bad now.
It's not like I get much money from him either,just 40 quid a month,and he earns double what I do.The sick thing is that he spends about £150 a month on fags,and he can't even spend that on his little girl?(-No,her food won't cost more than that a month,and,if she needs any clother,just buy the real bare essentials,and we split it down the middle!)
Thank god I have enough money at present to buy her the stuff she needs myself,but he is completely shirking his responsibilities as a father,what a sorry excuse of a man!He claimed-I have to put myself first,but her love for me is unconditional,so that's ok(excuse me,come again?)
This is the guy with a very good career who is Mr Popular,but none of his mates and colleagues knows what he's really like,and it makes me sick!here comes the icing on the cake,and you won't believe this one,-Last year I doubted my feelings for(our daughter).-What do you mean?,I said.-Well,I wasn't sure if I loved her or not,but now I know I do..(I cannot possibly say what I think about that,I despise him after he said that,how can you possibly doubt the love for your own flesh and blood,and innocent little girl,he spent her first 4.5 years with her!)
I dk what to do about this situation and how to make him face up to his parental responsibilities,have you got any advice,because I have run out of ideas!
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tetti · 24/01/2008 22:45
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