A WWYD thread.

[Alambil]

I am on PoF (plenty of fish) and started chatting to a nice local bloke a while back.

We arranged to meet but he fell off the face of the earth.

Seems he had some personal crises and needed space/time away from life - I can cope with that; we all know what that feels like.

He is back now and started talking again - we have arranged to meet again.

is that wise? should I just treat it as we are now mates and not expect anything else?

WWYD if a bloke spoke, disappeared after standing you up (indirectly - I realised before leaving for the date) then reappeared and acted like nothing had happened?

[dividedselfridgesxmaswindow]

What is the time lapse between 'last time'?

It seems risky but then it's just a date at this stage so you have not too much to lose in giving him chance to prove himself.

[Alambil]

a couple months

its not even a "date" per se - I just mentioned I'm going to the shopping centre near him (tis a big one and has a partic. shop I need) and he said "i'll meet you"

[dividedselfridgesxmaswindow]

Oh that sounds great then, he wasn't so insensitive as to assume he could just ask you out all over again without a word but was keen enough to see if you'd mind him catching up with you while you get on with your stuff. Nice, that is. So coffee with potential love interest and shopping?

[Tinkerbeltinsel]

he sounds unreliable, if you do meet up with him just treat him as a friend so if he does does do a houdini you wont be too fussed, I know a guy like that who just disappears from life and it ruined one of his relationships as they couldnt get close to him

[Alambil]

Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do - is really hard though!

Argh, why is life never simple!

[Alambil]

Someone PLEASE slap me - hard.

I can not stop my mind (well, imagination) going wild.. am seeing dates galore with said bloke even though I know rationally it will perhaps NEVER happen.

ARGH it is for this reason that I end up so upset when it all goes wrong... they say the right stuff and then bugger off with no guilt and I'm left with the broken dreams

Ok yes - I sound loopy... sorry.

Please save me!

[TwinklyfLightAttendant]

Aw Lewis, he sounds nice, and you don't sound loopy!

Just take it slowly, and see what happens, and best of luck. He is probably fine - when I started going on a site last year, this guy was really keen, and he started to talk about coming to see me after Xmas - I panicked as it seemed much too fast, plus I had no idea who he was iyswim, so I lied (I never lie( and told him I was sorry but I was moving to Bradford!!!

He was so sweet about it. I never got back to him but still wonder if he was a great guy and I was an idiot. I just wasn't ready and panicked.

HTH?

[Alambil]

LOL oh poor you! (sorry to laugh!)

yes, it helps to see that I'm not the only irrational person in such times.

Part of me thinks it is just shock - been single so long and now there's hope that it won't actually be forever.

will definitely control myself in his presence - not easy but not TOO hard to get (don't want to put him off) - it is just when I'm sat at home, like now that my imagination starts.

Bit like that song from Natasha Bedingfield about babies; it's all in my mind but I won't say a word!

[Alambil]

oops meant to add that I'm not thinking of babies - just the whole relationship thing; far too soon for babies!

[TwinklyfLightAttendant]

stop digging Lewis, we understand

Good luck sweetie x

[Alambil]

lol lol