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So, I' m sat here on my own, it's a Saturday night...I have no life!

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Janos · 10/11/2007 18:27

Warning, self-pitying rant alert....

So I'm a single mum (2 years now, gorgeous, lovely DS) and feeling the loneliest I have felt in quite some time. This has just struck me as I was so looking forward to today...first time I've had to myself in weeks. And I have just felt..well, not depressed but very down...isolated..not a good day.

I do go out and do things..I go to an evening class, I work but I don't have a lot of friends up here and am away from family.

More and more I think about moving back to my home town (About 180 miles away), but XP and I share joint custody of DS and that's just not going to work, not without a lot of heartache.

What I miss most is adult company. I have no problem meeting men but finding someone who isn't out for 'one thing' and thinks I'm an 'easy target' is pretty hard. Really though I'm more jealous of people just having a laugh with their mates 'cos thats what I would like.

I do try to make friends and chat to people but I find it very hard. I'm not naturally outgoing, quite reserved and tbh there's probably some low self esteem mixed in with all that.

Gawd, I sound like a complete wreck! Not sure what the point of writing all this down is maybe a rant would help a bit..also to wonder if anyone else feels the same way? Thanks and a bit of admiration for anyone who's read through that lot!!!

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noranora · 10/11/2007 18:47

no, dont be so sorry janos.
we are here too on this saturday night.
i think of it as just one of those days that we stay at home and enjoy it really.
the way we look at things is important i guess.
i am the same, a quite reserved person, i find it quite peacefull sometimes.
xxx

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allgonebellyup · 10/11/2007 18:49

hi
i am in the same boat.
in fact i dont really like going out much any more, for some reason it makes me feel really insecure and i just want to be at home!!!

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yogimum · 10/11/2007 18:51

Hi Janos, why not take up salsa dancing. Its a great place to socialise without feeling everyone is "on the pull". You can go by yourself. I've been dancing 9 years now and have met some really nice genuine people.

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Janos · 10/11/2007 19:02

Thank you all

Well funnily enough I was thinking of salsa dancing...but I always thought you had to go with someone! Thanks for the tip yogimum. noranora and allgonebellyup
I do normally enjoy my own company but today it has just knocked me for six for some reason. I do like relaxing..and like my own time..I just miss company really.

Do any of you have that feeling that everyone else MUST be having a better time than you. Logically I know that can't be trur, but still...

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Janos · 10/11/2007 19:03

Have also lost the ability to format...

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yogimum · 10/11/2007 19:09

Just find a lesson in your area and turn up. You constantly change partners so you can go by yourself.

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Janos · 10/11/2007 19:19

Yes...that's a good idea and it will help with my current weight loss attempts.

I'll have a look now while the impetus is there.

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