Do girls and boys have to have separate bedrooms?

[Sixer]

I'm asking on behalf of my brother who has recently separated from his wife. He has been told (by his ex), that to spend time with the children (DS 13, DD 11), he has to be living somewhere where they can have their own bedrooms. It is the early stages of a separation/possible divorce and my brother is still looking for somewhere to settle. So does he really have to rent out a 3 bed house for him and DC every weekend/or other, or can they make do?

[controlfreaky2]

why not have ds and his father sharing if he has a 2 bed place.... if it's only for the odd w/e.....

[pinkbubble]

Not 100% sure but thought that by the time DC reached the age of 10, if they are mixed gender then they should have separate bedrooms. (if it is going to be a regular thing)

[edam]

I think the guidance pink's referring to was standards for council housing at one point - not sure if it still is. So wouldn't apply to your brother. But I don't think a 13yo ds and an 11yo dd should be sharing, really. Controlfreaky's right, if he doesn't have three beds, he should have a spare bed in his room for the boy. Or get a sofabed for the sitting room.

[Sixer]

flippin' 'eck how bleedin' obvious was that, yet we still didn't think of it. THANK you controlfreaky. Will pass on to DB. LOL at you name. Both my DB's had very controlling wifes. (Ssshhh i'm one too, but these flippin' blokes need sorting).

[controlfreaky2]

you are v welcome!

[Sixer]

They just haven't a clue!

[Sixer]

and thanks again.

[controlfreaky2]

am worried by the past tense re the db's wives.......!
er was it the controlfreakiness that was the problem?

[Sixer]

DB1 now divorced 2 years, yes the controlling wife was a huge problem for him. Just today he was talking about his divorce and women. He thinks we are a force to be reckoned with. TBH his ex-wife did/does what I do, and probably most others. Organise the DC and their lives, ensure they are on time, bills are paid, plan meals, shopping, etc etc. He meanwhile just (in his words) brings the money in. He had no idea whatsoever about bills, budgeting, stress of running a home. Now he does, and is very proud that he ACTUALLY knows what is happening. His fault for not being interested or her fault for not included him? I don't know. I hope that makes sense, it's late and I've had a few.
What I do know is that it really pisses DB off when ex-DW tells him he HAS to take DC to rugby, football, piano lessons, birthday parties during the weekend when he is supposed to be spending quality time with his DC. Does that make sense?

[Sixer]

Sorry abit confusing. DB 1 Divorced 2 yrs ago. DB 2 just separating, DB3 at 33 still hasn't married partner of 10 yrs. Me... and DP still not married after 12 yrs.... mad family I know!

[Skribble]

I think the thing about shared rooms is in realtion to getting council housing. If older children of different sexes have to share a room you get more chance of getting a house.

I don't think there would be any implications to them visiting their Dad and as was suggested DS can sleep in with dad if it is a problem for the kids themselves.