DD sees her dad most weeks at a contact centre, when he feels like turning up. sometimes, he's still an arse with me, intimidating yet making out that he wants me back (he had full control over me when we were together, i think its that that he misses). Before this, after i left him because of his drinking and violence towards me and others, i took her 3 times a week to see him, at his home, at his mum's, or in public, and every single time, he was either drunk on arrival, and/or consumed alcohol during the visit, supposedly my fault for leaving him, and/or was verbally abusive and threatening to me in front of DD, and on a couple of occasions, physically assaulted me. As far as I know he doesn't work, and before I left his social circle had dwindled to drunks and drug dealers only. He's going to court for more contact... my main fear is that, unsupervised, he will be as he was, a drunken, brawling wreck incapable of looking after himself, let alone an inquisitive little near-toddler, with his unsavoury 'mates' letting themselves in and having access to DD. i am also fundamentally physically scared of him, for myself and lo, if she accidentally upsets him. what's my chances of keeping them in the contact centre for visits, or am i really being unreasonable?
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