were you single when you had your baby

[Dawn2820]

are you still single now?

was it hard?

how did you cope?

[lisad123]

Nope, been married 6 years next month, dd is 4. I dont know how i would have coped alone, think those that do must be saints.
lisa

[peachypie]

My husband left me for another woman when i was 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. So i guess I was single but I thought of it as more aa a lone parent.

[hoolagirl]

Yes, and i was so busy with the baby I don't know how on earth I would have managed to sustain a relationship at the same time.

[PersonalHouseElf]

No. Xp buggered off when Ds was 6 months old.

[PersonalHouseElf]

Yes it's hard as Ds has Autism and I cope by taking each day as it comes. Trying to plan more than a week ahead would knock me on my arse.
Been single since with the exception of one bloke who I now realise wasn't good enough for us.

[LittleSarah]

Yes, I was single, broke up while pregnant.

It was hard at times but I did (and do) have a supportive family so that helps. Also my ex is involved so as dd got older I got more breaks.

All in all not too bad. I certainly didn't find it hard being single if that's what you meant, like hoola was so busy with dd, happy and tired and feeling weird (like whoa, I'm a mother!) that I had enough to deal with!

I'm still single now (dd is three) and happy with that.

[JoMa]

yes
yes
and I prefered it to being in a relationship, I could focus on me and my baby without worrying about anyone else's feelings.
I was single with ds1 and ds2 (not my intention I must add) and both times I've just got on with it

[mojosmum]

YES when i informed dds dad i was preg he informed me he was married so i left him there & then

YES it was very very hard as i had walked away from my family & friend to move to the other side of the country to be near this man who had got me preg then destroyed me in this way but i got on with it i had to dd is now 6 her dad & his family continue to play mind game with us & YES its still hard but i wouldnt change it for one second i love dd & would go through all this again for her

i take one day at a time i have bad days & good days i also have very very very bad days but dd makes it all worth it

[mojosmum]

oh & yes i am still single have had afew things but im scared of my bad judgement in men

[ChorusLine]

Hi yes - like mojo he told me he ws married. Still single now as i'm a woman scorned . Can't ever see me being in a relationship for a long time - DS is 20 months now.

[zmandaz]

I left ex-h when 3 months pg and he has had no cont with DD since she was born. It has been very hard at times but my family have been very supportive. I think the hardest bit for me has been not having someone to share the worries and stress with but also the good times. As each milestone passes I'd love to share it with someone. I am still single now and am torn between wanting a new relationship and not. On the one hand, I'm a people-person and don't do well alone. I'd love to have a good relationship with someone special who treated me right but on the other hand, I'm scared things could go wrong again and that I'd end up hurt and alone again. It's not like I've got much option at the moment - I don't know any single blokes!

[mojosmum]

CHORUSLINE - im happy to meet someone in the same situation as me i seem to feel guilt quite alot then get angry that he has made me feel that way i did nothing wrong but just which i could make myself feel that.

i feel that i will not be able to trust another man

[orangehead]

my husband left when I was 8mnths preg with ds2 returned 4 his birth then left when he was 3 weeks old, so sort of. Yes was hard but toddler grps kept me sane just made sure I was out every day at 1 or swimming with baby or something if I had stayed in I probbaly would of cracked. In alot of ways it was easier accepting I had no help rather than when he was with me thinking we were parents 2 geva but me doing everything that use 2 really upset me.Although being alone is hard its better than being in bad relationship. Also when they abit older and start doing things or people comment on how nice yr children r you know its all down 2 you.I was alone 4 2 yrs (well still alone coz we dont live 2geva) then meet someone, we have been 2geva 4 2 yrs and getting married soon.
How far along r u? Is the father on the scene at all?

[Dawn2820]

he is around we are friends and we get on ok, its just i have a lot of feelings i am not sure about. i am 25 weeks now and it does feel very lonely on my own, i also feel scorned by what he did and at the moment i find it hard to trust anyone

[nightowl]

i was. ex buggered off when i was 3 months. dd is now 3 1/2 and i cant really imagine it any other way. i havent seen him since and am past caring. it bothered me at first but not now. you'll be fine

[prettyfly1]

yeah i was. he sodded off at about five weeks. i still cant quite let go of the bitterness for that one, regardless of how much i love my son.

[frazzledfairy]

yes i was with ds1 (now 6 1/2), last saw ex partner when i was 20 weeks pregnant. i was single until ds1 was nearly 5.

nope not single now, been with dh since sept 05 and have ds2 (11 months) and expecting no 3 in nov.

no it wasn't hard at all, (bloody easier than tidying up after dh). could be lonely at times but get yourself a good group of single mums and you'll be fine

am assuming you're pg now? whens baby due?

[beller]

Hya Dawn..
im single and 18 weks pregnant....dp left as soon as we found out...he has been in sporadic touch..and not sure whats going to happen when the baby arrives....It does scare me, but im sure it will all be worth it. Think it will times of worry that are worse..I had a bleed last night and found it hard being on my own . Family and friends have been brilliant...but not the same sometimes?
Good luck xx

[LWandLottie]

Yes. Me and exp broke up just before I knew I was pregnant. Didn't see him once whilst pregnant and dd is 10 weeks and has seen him once. My mum was my birth partner. Wouldn't change a thing, breaking up with him was the best thing I could have done, also managed to get the first year of my degree done - yay!

Still single now, and starting to get a wee bit lonely. Would love to be in a relationship, however dd comes first and I also think I'm a t**t-magnet!

Yes it's hard, but I have a supportive family network around who help me with dd. With regards to coping, you just kind of do. You have to. I thoroughly enjoy it, although I do have my down days every now and then.

[Tinker]

Yes for 1st one
Not single now
Yes, it was hard
Not sure, no family nearby and worked full-time!

[madamez]

Yes and still am, though am lucky in that DS dad and me are on good terms and he's very involved (now) in DS care).
I'm happy to be single, have been for years anyway, don't like couplehood and certainly couldn't be arsed with having to run around after a man and cater to his ego while raising my DS. If you feel bad about being single, read some of the threads about nightmare partners on the Relationships topic, and see how lucky us single people really are.