Forced myself to speak to my X last night (first time in well over two years) as my youngest dd was so rude to him and cruel saying she did not want to see him ever again on the phone.
My humanity took over and I phoned to say I would sort it out only to get the usual threat of court and its all my fault stuff. He was threatening me again with proceedings and saying I was putting the kidss up to this and I had said I was shocked at what she had said.
I pointed out that I had made an effort to actually phone and say I would sort it instead of email as I realised how out of order it was and to say it was a blip as well. I think she is little and angry at him adn trying to sort her emotions out. We had discussed everything on Sunday and I had said your dad has another point of view and one day you may come to understand him more. I was trying to be considerate and even handed even though in my heart that is hard because of his violence and bad behaviour to the kids as well as me.
I have been told that he has no empathy and no ability to understand another point of view by my counsellor and also by others involved in the children but somehow I cannot refuse my own nature of trying to help. I may as well have been talking to myself though although he did end up thanking me after the threats and my refusal to accept them. I wont do that again in future just soldier on in silence.
I am sick of trying to be balanced and although he has been told I am not influencing the kids and even that he is being paranoid it doesnt wash. I know that with his personality I should not think about his feelings but I am human and not a bad person and cant help myself.
Sorry just venting here. It was awful hearing his voice and I couldnt breathe.
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glitterfairy · 03/07/2007 08:28
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