I'm a young widow....i hope that dosen't scare anyone off!

[sallybally]

I'm a lone parent but also a young 37 year old widow and have been for 3 or so years. I tired joining the WAY Foundation but it didn't help me as i found alot of 'new widows'. I am very much wanting to build a social life. I have two young children and have got on with life and in my third year feel comfortable with meeting new people. Is there anyone out there who could help me with advise on how do you get a social life when you don't get the odd weekend off from your kids t let rip. I love my kids and in no way need to get away from them i'd like to socialise and i know it sounds weird but i have forgotten where to satrt from scratch!! I find with my exisitng friends i am a bit at a loss when their partners join us. I have fun but i suppose i would like to meet some loners/widows in my own age group. Not new ones trying to deal with it but ones afew years down the road trying to build a new lie. Any ideas? Oh yes i saw a chat about a charlie and lola ringtone. Has anyone got one as we are a bit crazy for them Thank you for reading and look forward to some cheery, positive feedback Thanks

[snowwonder]

ermm i am not sure, do you have anyone that could have your dc's for you to go out and party..

i am a lone parent and my ex doenst have kids at weekend, just one afternoon a week so i do know how you feel about not getting time to party...

where abouts do you live?

sorry to hear that you were widowed..

[WakeUpCall]

My friend was widowed when her little girl was just 9 months old. She has found this website really helpful.

www.gingerbread.org.uk/

[Wotznotreallyhere]

Hi sallybally, not in that position myself, however I totally understand as my mother was a widow at 37 (I was only young).

So from a childs point of view, they want to see you happy, do not ever feel guilty about trying to get a new social life. Take the chances as they come along and I would suggest you get a regular babysitter.

Go out, even if it is to the cinema with friends.

HOw about the gym? Anything might you enjoy, that you can do to be yourself. It can lead to all sorts of things.

[DelGirl]

Hi Sallybally, welcome to MN

I'm a 'young' widow too, 41. 5 years for me though I have a 2 year old dd (iui baby). It is difficult sometimes as you don't always fit in, in my experience. I have made some great friends through mumsnet though but am obviously a bit of an odd one out as i'm on my own and they're all married.

What part of the country are you in?

[milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo]

I was widowed 7 years ago (no kids at the time, remarried now with 1 DD ). can't offer much advice about starting again with children as I didn't have any at the time but just wanted to offer my support and encouragement My life now is proof that you can and will move on happily in whatever way you desire!

[Yorkiegirl]

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[sallybally]

Thank you all of yu for your helpful kind words. I think i w ill have to find a more regular babysitter, preferably cheap as they tend to double it for 2 kids I will look at gingerbread thanks. I gotinto Way because of a TV programme. Yorkie grl i'm sorry you are a new widow x and you sound really brave. That was no put down to new widows and WAY just that i felt it took me back afew steps and i'm a coper and i need to go forward. I love my hubby but its different now i will always love him and miss him and he will always have apart of my heart but i'm young and i have to believe there are othr people out there. I think i found alot of people with the early stages of loss. They asked me to organise stuff in my area but as i said seeing poeple go through what i wen through was hard and i think it jus bought it flooding back. Happy to talk to you though I hope you understand it was the WAY site as a whole, not individuals. WAY do fantastic work Yep i was widowed at 37 with two kids at 18months and 5yrs. It is good to her the childs point of view as my daughter now 8 yrs is missing her Dad loads and we have started a diary to him she can write secretly to him,for Daddy time
Well thnak you all for all of your messages and this site looks excellent. I would love to make friends on here! Oh and i'm in Norwich, Norfolk. Look after yourselves and don't forget to be kindtoyourselves as well as others

[Izabella]

Hi,

I am also a young widow. My dh died of cancer in 2005 when I was 33 and then I went on to have our daugter through IVF (she was born Aug 2006).

I would love to hear from other young widows. Sometimes it just helps to know that someone is in a similar situation to you.

[mojosmum]

Can i say im not in your position but an a childminder whos childminder friend along with others i know do overnights for lone parents every once in a while so they get a chance to go out maybe there are some in your area that will do that for you

[Izabella]

Thanks mojosmum. Not heard about that before. I will make some enquiries.

[nannynick]

As a bloke who is looking to socialise with women, I have to say that I would go out with a widow. Have not actually done so yet, but in theory I would consider it.

Alas I'm no good at suggesting ways of meeting people, as I am hopeless at meeting new people. But thought you may like to know that at lease one single bloke out there would consider meeting a widow.