How would you describe...

[inanidealworld]

where you are no longer together as a couple but not yet divorced and can't afford to live in separate accomodation? Separated? Estranged?

[354kidz]

Ive been there also and had child so i siad living together but separated..then had own bedrooms. Hope helps?

[mamama]

Yes, living together but separated.

[354kidz]

well i know its hard but good luck. U have kids?

[inanidealworld]

Hello sorry I wasn't online over the w/e. Thanks for the replies. Yes we have children. It just feels a bit like limbo.

[354kidz]

oh thats ok what will u in the end? or u just dont know???

[inanidealworld]

Not sure yet kind of depends on finances

[354kidz]

yes i understand.How long u been together?? I was wit mine for 5yrs

[FatFikAndFugly]

I would say seperated.

[354kidz]

yes separated but living together.

[Ulysees]

i'm in the same boat ina. Just talked to dh today and he's definitely not moving out. So, going to make appointment with lone parent advisor tomorrow and go on from there. We get on well though but I need space now, and it's confusing for the kids.

[354kidz]

god luck then uly bee there etc etc.. so know where ur coming from.

[Ulysees]

thanks 345,it's hard but I'll get there.

[inanidealworld]

Hi Ulysees, what is a lone parent advisor? I have never heard of them, are they part of the citizen's advice?
354- 15yrs.

[Tinkerbel5]

inan a lone parent advisor is part of the jobcentre plus team, they are there to help lone parents claim what they are entitled too, and also help them back into work.

[Ulysees]

yes that's right. I didn't get there today as slept on the top bunk last night. I say sleep haha but didn't get any hence not making town today as I ended up sleeping most of the day.
Hope to go tomorrow though as I feel I need to get out now, start afresh. Just hope I can get a place near to the school? I'd take anything right now, even a one bedroom flat. The boys will share and I can get a sofa bed. Would rather have 2 bedroom though.

[Ulysees]

Oh and it's 17 years for us

[inanidealworld]

Mamama and Ulysees,
Hi again! How did you get through the day to day stuff and did you have some kind of formal agreement re space in the house, time with kids, money, etc?

[Ulysees]

hi ina, nothing's changed yet. We still live in the house but i'm going to see a housing officer and try to get a house or flat. Hopefully close to here. Be hard but it has to be done.

[inanidealworld]

Are you still on speaking terms?

[Ulysees]

yes, in fact I'm looking after him at the moment as he's not well at all. We're friends but that's all. I've met someone else which he isn't happy about but he's away so it's giving me time to move on. I'm seeing bf in May so looking forward to it but haven't told dh yet. Waiting until it's a good time, it there is such a time?

[354kidz]

it does cause tension a bit as still living together although slept in sep rooms i stuck mostly to my room although i had my 2yr old but when he was at work we spent time down stairs.. we were good friends at first but then ifound someone new he changed and then well knew we wasnt going to get back together.
So goodluck to people going through this at the moment!!There is a light at the end..