Feeling Low & Emotional

[afresh]

I feel so low now its unreal.

It was my choice to leave XP and it was the right one, so why do I feel so rubbish. I am beginning to dread weekend due to the time I have to sit and think.

After three months XP has a new girlfriend, Im incredibly hurt and I can't explain why. I just feel its so quick after 3 1/2 years and a child together, it has knocked me for six and I can't seem to let it go. I need to as this is no good for me.

I am happier on my own with my son, I just feel like it has just all been so easy for him and I have had to scrimp, save work my arse off and deal with him being difficult, now I have time to sit down I just feel so totally alone

[amynnixmum]

Have you any friends nearby that you could arrange to see at the weekend to give you soemthing to look forward to rather than dread?

[noraa]

so sorry for what happened to you.
i guess some man start a new relation to forget the old one easily or to annoy-hurt you and that new one may not last long.
dont think about them and try to focus on good things and your new future with your son, and try to remember very well why you left him!

[AMAZINWOMAN]

its ok to feel sad that xp has a new partner even tho he wasnt one for you. I think its grief-the loss of what life could have been like. When you met you thought it would be forever, and its ok to feel sad that its not.

[mamama]

There are several of us coping with this & an ex who seems to have it easy so you're not alone. It is really hard to cope with.

Do you have any family or friends in RL who can help or keep you company? I know the evenings can be really long - thats when I tend to feel really lonely.

You can CAT me if you like, I'm having a hard time too

[ThisTime]

how are you feeling afresh?

[RachelG]

I expect people will disagree with me here, but I often think that men cope with hurt by having mindless sex! They seem to move into new relationships so quickly and easily, I just don't believe there can be much real feeling there. Women talk to their friends and eat Haagen Daz. Men drink beer and date bimbos!

That's my theory anyway.

You did the right thing by ending a relationship that wasn't making you happy. You'll start to feel better soon I'm sure.

[RachelG]

I expect people will disagree with me here, but I often think that men cope with hurt by having mindless sex! They seem to move into new relationships so quickly and easily, I just don't believe there can be much real feeling there. Women talk to their friends and eat Haagen Daz. Men drink beer and date bimbos!

That's my theory anyway.

You did the right thing by ending a relationship that wasn't making you happy. You'll start to feel better soon I'm sure.

[RachelG]

Sorry, don't know what happened there.

[Prettyfull]

Hey, i agree, my and xp split 6 months ago. I am with dd whos 2 1/2 all hes done since we split is sleep with women, 10 so far and right now hes in the Carribean with a women whos twice the age of him

I am in the same position as lady who wrote this thread, i know exactly who you feel. The reason i split with xp were and are very strong reasons but i do feel so low and down about it all.

Kinda nice to hear im not the only one! Oh,..i also agree that we r feeling like this as we hoped we'd be together forever etc be happy....a that mushy stuff!!

Went to a card shop today to buy a mate a bday card,..grr and Valentines stuff is everywhere,..so depressing

We just have to think of our lo's and move on for them (not that i an talk haha)

Im here if anyone in same position wants to chat x

[shebbo]

the reason we feel bitter is maybe deep down we are feeling we made a mistake by choosing those wrong partners and they cost us a lot.
i have lost all my belief on relationships, men after having such hard time, so i am not interested on valentine cards or anything like that. i dont envy any of my friends who have partners, because i know i cant do a relationship again.

[NewMoonOnMonday]

I can identify with everything on here. I'm almost seperated from P now. He was supposed to move out tonight but it's been postponed till next Friday now. I know I ended this relationship for the right reasons but I'm dreading those lonely hours when DS is in bed and I'm sat here by myself with nothing to look forward to and nothing to smile about.

At the moment I wish P all the best and I think I'd be happy for him to meet someone else. I don't know how I'll feel if/when it actually happens though.

[NewMoonOnMonday]

Agree with you shebbo about feeling bitter about choosing the wrong partner. I know I'll be listening out for the postman on Valentine's Day though - f*ck knows why cos I know I won't get anything other than bills anyway.