Hi, I'm a new poster, but been reading posts for a while.
A few years back I got pregnant, and wasn't sure whether the father was man A or man B. Both of them knew the situation and both did a runner. Years back, the CSA found one of them, asked him to do a DNA test, he refused and they said they could take him to court but I asked them not to and they didn't (I didn't want to know the truth). Well, he must have suddenly popped up on the CSA's radar because earlier this year they re-opened our previously-closed case.
They forced him to do a DNA test this time, and then forced me and my DD to do it too, and the results have arrived and he is definitely DD's father. I had been hoping against all hope that it would be the other bloke.
Bearing in mind that we have had absolutely no contact AT ALL since I was pregnant 9 years ago, what is likely to happen next? My DD is in a bit of a state over the whole thing. She didn't know he existed until the day before we gave our DNA samples. We were both happy not knowing who or where he was. She's worried she might have to see him, or have contact with him, and is not that happy about it, but then she changes her mind and says she'd like to see what he looks like and wants to know if she's got any half-siblings.
I don't know how to reassure her or answer her questions, because I have no idea what's going to happen next. I don't even know where he lives. I'm a bit scared by the whole situation tbh, I dread seeing him again and am a bit freaked out (Ignorance really was bliss!) Any words of experience, wisdom or encouragement appreciated
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ForeverBlowingBubbles · 04/12/2006 01:33
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