Week 1 of being a single parent

[LoFo2013]

Hi all, dont know where to postvthis really but here goes :-).. I split with my partner of 5 years last tuesday hes gone back to live with his mother.. We were meant to be getting married on the 19th july (just gone) but 2weeks before the wedding he decides to tell me he doesnt love me anymore and hasnt done since our second child was born in january!! Devestated to say the least!! However we stayed together to "try" but i couldnt do it anymore, sleeping in the same bed as the man who doesnt love me or want me near him.. So i told him to pack and leave last tuesday.. However i miss him like mad and really do love him, he comes to see the kids everyday and hes giving me mixed signals as to whether he does love me or not!? Advice would be helpful or anyone whose been in a similar situation my head is well and truely all over!! Thanxx

[GretaBritain]

You poor thing. I have just noticed your post and it's lack of replies! I have never really posted very much before but I do read the relationships board a LOT and it has helped me so much.

Repost your message over there and I promise there will be plenty of lovely ladies who will give you a lot of great advice and support. I think this is a relatively quiet board...you will get a good response over on relationships.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I know it is devastating.

Take care x

[Smilesandpiles]

You are reading too much in every one of of his actions because you are desperately trying to salvage your relationship. That's why you think you are getting mixed signals.

You know, deep down there is nothing there and that it is over but that stubborn, dreaming of the ideal, part of you is playing tricks on your mind.

You need to keep contact with him to the bare minimum. Arrange contact days and time and make him stick to them, don't let him just see them when he wants, thats confusing and not fair on your kids or you.

It's going to hurt. A lot, but this is the best way to go about it. The first three months are the worst, then it gets easier as the new routine establishes itself - as long as y ou stick to it ike glue. 6-7 months down the line it's a lot easier and after a year or so, you'll start to feel better in yourself and see things so much clearer than you are now, you will even start to remember little clues that you missed before.

[LoFo2013]

Where is the relationships board? X

[Smilesandpiles]

Under the Catagory Body and Soul in Topics.