Pls help me reconcile myself to this...

[Snowrose1311]

Hi ladies,

Situation being that I am separated going through a long, acrimonious divorce from my controlling EA exH, at the same time I have a lovely new partner and we're thrilled to find that we're expecting a baby together. I am now 16+3 and I absolutely hate the idea of my exH knowing about my pregnancy. He was pretty awful to me during our marriage, likes to sabotage things / ruin my enjoyment if I seem 'too happy' and ideally I'd just like to shut him right out of my life and not let him know anything about me, my new DP or my pregnancy.

So far I am not showing, haven't gained any weight and my 2 DS (from my marriage to exH) have not guessed so my exH has no idea. Obviously there's going to be a baby at some point so he def will find out, no getting away from that, I know I am being unreasonable, I also know I need to tell my sons that a LO is on the way. Can any one out there kindly help an unreasonable pregnant lady feel better about this? x

[titabeth]

I don't think you are being unreasonable. You perhaps have not fully recovered from the hurt you experienced in your previous relationship. Pregnancy makes us feel vulnerable. Maybe you could get a short course of counselling to help improve your self esteem? It would be great if you could just laugh off any negative comments from the ex. Also tell your new partner how you're feeling if you feel able. Then it's possible he will tell you how beautiful you are.

[Sunflowersmiling]

Hi, just wanted to say congratulations, and its none of your ex's business so enjoy your beautiful new life and sod the ex. Its your news and your choice who and when to tell.

Im having rough time with ex at mo. Someone said to me 'the best way to take revenge, is just to live a happy life'. Love that and its so true.

Hugs x