ex is a complete w**k stain!

[nugget05]

My son is 8 weeks old and amazing, his dad only sees him once a week for 2 maybe 3 hours (more than enough time for me but needs to be more for ds imo). He complains that he misses ds and wants to spend time with him and goes on about it all the time, he's constantly texting me asking how he is but this weekend has pushed me over the edge. Ex can only see ds at the weekend as he works and doesn't finish till late. He chose to work on Saturday (cash in hand not his actual job) he asked if I would meet him after with ds as he would be finished early, when I told him I would he changed his mind blaming the weather . So yesterday he came early so he could spend more time with ds, asked if we could visit a friend and I agreed, it's his time with ds how he chooses to spend that time is up to him. Was there for about 2 hours and most of that time he spent talking to his friend leaving me with ds and friends wife in another room. When he did come back he kept taking ds and walking around with him, feeding him while walking and generally doing things he's never done with ds, which is fine but even his friend made a comment about him and ds looking uncomfortable and scared. When we left (because ex was hungry) I assumed he'd spend the rest of the afternoon with ds but he dropped us straight off and wanted to leave! He really doesn't understand why I'm pissed off but I'm so angry with him, it felt like there's nobody to show off to and pretend I'm a hands on great dad so I don't need to spend time with him. He won't change a nappy if ds even moans he practically throws him back at me, I express so he can feed ds and he just sits there looking round to see if anyone is watching while ds chokes then has the cheek to moan at the friend and wife that all I do is tell him off and he can't do anything right. I tell him off because he's seen ds 7 times!! He doesn't know what hes doing but can't be told what he should try so of course I'm gonna tell you off when you're drowning my son!! He is a complete wank stain, useless and never going away
Sorry it's long and ranty but I have nobody in rl to talk to and I need to get it out before the turd texts and I let it all out on him. If you managed to read it all well done you deserve a and . Feel free to join me and my rage and let out a rant about the idiots who gave us our precious little ones

[kinkyfuckery]

Why did you go to the friends house with them? You need to detach a little I think.

[nugget05]

Because he's only 8 weeks old, he's only seen ds 7 times in those 8 weeks, won't change a nappy and won't look after ds properly because he doesn't know how and won't listen when l try to tell him what to do. I'd rather not spend any time with him but until I can trust him to look after ds properly I won't be letting him take him on his own. He cares more about how he looks than ds's welfare

[kinkyfuckery]

Can someone else supervise instead?

He won't do these things because you are there to do it for him, he doesn't have to!

[nugget05]

No there's nobody else that could supervise. When it's just the 2 of us I go into another room and read or tidy up and leave ds to cry as long as I can, I've left him with the same nappy on. Ex will bring him into me and I tell him he has to deal with it and walk away, but it gets to the point where I can hear how distressed ds is and I'll go into the room and he'll be sat there with ds watching tv or on his phone, the only time he attempts to comfort ds is if there's somebody else there.

[GEM33]

Your ex sounds like a nob. Like mine another nob. We mums spend our lives protecting our babies, putting them before us and these sperm donors can't put their kids first for five minutes.
I join you in your rant. I wouldn't let my 8 week old bf baby go off with a man who had done relatively sweet f a with their child. Once he's proved he is capable and trust worthy great but I'm with you op.
Good luck x

[rootypig]

I think you're being brilliant, to facilitate DS seeing his dad. And yes, he does sound like a wank stain.

Could be worse you could be married to him!

Cheers