crying every night

[howtoapproachthis]

sorry couldn't be bothered changing my name back its not really appropriate for this post.
anyway it has recently hit me that i really am getting a divorce and ive dealt with things not too bad up till now, but now it seems ive just lost motivation, ive started crying every night and my standards have slipped (housework, appearance, etc) i really hope this is all normal and im not going to slip into a deep depression. im not on fb, but i hear from people what my ex is up to, and he is doing extremely well with tons of people supporting him, and i feel so so upset about this. i wish i could be glad for him, but then i wish everyone knew the way he treated me. i do have people supporting me but its harder for me to get that support as i'm more of an introvert and find it hard to get out and about, he is the complete opposite. plus i have our dd 95% of the time. how long does it take to get used to the idea of getting divorced, and then getting used to this life. ive already been separated for over a year so its not exactly like im new to it, you would think i would be getting there by now.

[cestlavielife]

well you need tog et yourself some support,
ask gp to refer you for nhs counselling, you will get at least six weeks.
find a separated and divorced support group.
it is up to you to take charge of your emotional well being and focus on you.

one tip is stop thinking about your ex and what he is doing...look at you and what your needs are and how can they be met? by who?

[howtoapproachthis]

yeah this is true. its hard not to focus on him when people are telling me what he is doing but i suppose i need to tell them not to talk about him.

[yummytummy]

hi no real advice but i feel the same. i cant accept i am divorcing even though the marriage was awful and abusive. ex is living with new woman and its like stabbing through heart whenever i think of it. i also cant eat and am looking rough. but i guess it takes a long long time and its gd u have support i have no one at all so v isolated but then there must be so many people divorcing or divorced and they do survive just dont know how

[littlemissminime]

I stalk my ex! Nothing gives me greater pleasure than seeing what a shit life he's having and how his constant references to me on FB prove I'm always on his mind!!
Nothing pisses people off more than seeing people having a a bloody good life....... It might be hard now, but the tables will turn. Is he really having a good time of it or is it just a show cause he knows people are telling you about him? Remember people live fairy tale lives on fb, none of its ever real.
Maybe ask him to have DD a little more, get yourself out a little more?