Atm ds's dad has a privately arranged contact with ds. He sends a letter one week and I send on the next. I don't know what to do anymore though because it's making me ill. Without too much detail in case he or his partner are on here, he manipulates me the same as he did in our abusive relationship.
I can't keep doing the letters because I can't bear talking to him but at the same time can't stop because not fair to ds who is 3 so needs me to maintain this. I'm stuck between a rock and hard place and it's making me poorly. I'm so tired of the effort it takes for something that is full of lies and often written by someone else.
Are there alternative methods of distant contact like this that wouldn't involve me? HV suggested getting my sister to do it but I'd still have to hear what he's written anyway and help sister respond so seems pointless.
No face to face contact atm because he has a history of violence with children (not ds) but it's not officially recorded so no use for protecting ds. He has asked to see him beginning of next year.
I'm so worried for ds and for my health and how that will affect him too.
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Letter contact making me ill: alternatives?
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Losingthelastmarble · 28/06/2014 01:55
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