I have an 11 month old with special needs going through the diagnosis process now. My ex was not part of the pregnancy (his choice) nor present at labour (both our choice) and not really involved in babys 1st few months even though we were meant to be a couple then. He now visits once a week as he says its his duty to. He chose to visit on a sunday even though he's aware this is the day my family visit - I've tried to be accomodating in times but he has to fit it around baby feed/nap times. We only communicate via email as I find him impossible to talk to as he doesn't listen, always interrupts and thinks he's always right.
Anyway a few of my gripes are: I try and leave him to get on with the visit without interferring but he's left her in dirty nappy (I changed it)
I heard her making her usual sound when she's thirsty but he ignored her and didn't even check that she needed something if he was unsure.
He sits her in front of a laptop playing kids dvds even tho I keep telling him not too as her eyes are not too good and she poss has brain disorder a close up screen can't be good.
He fed her a whole milky bar and laughed when I said I'd rather her have healthy snacks.
He's now complained that I pick up my baby and comfort her when she's sittng there 'calling' me or when I enter room (to do her nappy or other needs) and she wants my attention.
He's also moaned that my family have arrived while he's there and they make a fuss over baby not picking her up just waving and talking to her.
Even though I've kept him updated via email of babys medical appointments etc he tries talk about it but doesn't listen and basically blames me or my parenting skills!!
I've never been rude or abusive I just email facts and try to avoid talking when he's here apart from being civil. I feel I'm trying to put her needs across but he's says I'm nit picking and being a bitch!!
Gosh so sorry its soooo long!!
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elliefant · 17/06/2014 20:44
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