My ex and I split up shortly after I had my baby. This was because there was an argument in the middle of the night and he hit me (hard) and grabbed me round the neck and shook me several times. He scared me and once is enough. The reason for this is that he has a heavy cannabis addiction and has a history of mood swings (including one incident where he smashed his bedroom door off because he didn't have any money for cannabis). He was not apologetic over what happened at all and justified it by saying he was "ill". Since we split up he was agressively trying to force me back into a relationship with him by bullying.
Not being able to cope with him anymore, I blocked him from contacting me and trying to sort out contact via solicitors (I'm asking for drug testing before allowing unsupervised because of what happened). I am away on mat leave at present. So, as you can imagine, my ex has been going around telling lies/sob story about how he is the doting dad kept away from his baby etc etc. No one knows about the violence or the drug taking. I am getting hate mail from people at work telling me I am "getting a reputation for using him and for being a nasty person" and trying again to force me into "Getting back with him". My ex is an excellent manipulator and puts on the "I am such a lovely person" mask to perfection. Everyone thinks he is wonderful.
I've been to the police/solicitor (they said they can do nothing as the hate mail doesn't threaten me), and to my boss (who said nothing much can be done). So I am sitting at home afraid to go out in case I see him, with all these lies being told about me when I have done nothing wrong (apart from being an idiot getting involved with him). If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I absolutely hate the thought of people questionning my integrity and believing ill of me because of a nasty, drug-taking liar :( How can I get the truth out? I am on mat leave for another few months.
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My narcissisic ex . . what can I do? Really need some help :(
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Popplecake · 08/03/2014 08:54
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