Depressed by ex's response to new CSA claim

(6 Posts)
Steelojames Tue 04-Mar-14 19:34:16

I'm a single mother and have been since beginning I pregnancy.
I decided to do it all alone after finding out about pregnancy and ex is a total nightmare!!
We were together 2 years and it ended sooooooo badly! We have had very little contact, he didn't attend any antenatal sessions, wasn't present at birth etc..

Since having my son I have tried to be reasonable with him but he just cannot co-operate...he isn't a good role model gambler/liar/sex addict and despite this I have tried but he is more interested in getting back with me and rarely askes about our son despite saying he cares....he has not given a penny towards our son and as I decided to go ahead alone I was originally ok with purchasing everything and did.
However my son is now 6 months old and I feel his dad should contribute...esp as he is on a good wage.
I have contacted the csa and since finding out he has sent me an email cussing me, demanding a DNA test & threatening to cut our son off which doesn't bother me as he only seen him 3 times anyway!

I don't understand why this upsets me as originally told myself I would be responsible for my son but think I did the right thing as that money can contribute to his future?? I just can't help feel abit upset...
Oh he pays for 2 of his older kids via csa too.
Have I done the right thing??
I mean what sorta man denies there child to avoid paying? So far he hasn't spend a penny so feel he got off lightly!!
I'm offended by the DNA comments and feel I have to apologise to my son for his fathers actions!

sillymillyb Tue 04-Mar-14 19:54:41

This is a direct copy of another posters thread. Are you the same op? Why the name change / copy?

Steelojames Tue 04-Mar-14 19:59:46

Sorry yes, tried to change name as couldn't figure it out & not sure how to delete thread b4....

EverythingCounts Tue 04-Mar-14 20:02:03

Easy to say I know but ignore all this. He is trying to hurt you. Tell him you're happy to get a DNA test done, provided he pays of course, and you will then all know where you stand. I wouldn't be surprised if the idea is then dropped. Let the CSA do their work. He should pay up - don't feel bad for asking.

Divinity Thu 06-Mar-14 10:22:33

It's a tactic to stop you claiming.

Ignore as best as you can. CSA will let you know if you need to do anything. Stick the email in a folder in case you need evidence in the future. Rather than read anymore, stick them straight in the folder instead. If you feel you need to know the contents why not ask a friend to read it and let you know if it's anything other than bile. Bet there's not wink

starlight1234 Sat 08-Mar-14 23:16:37

Agree with the previous poster..He is trying to stop you claiming...

Just ignore his nonsense you are entitled to support and he should pay

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